onacloudynight

How do I make women feel safe?

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So me and my ex are getting back together and she was expressing concerns to me about how she wants to feel safe and secure.

How do I best do this?

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9 hours ago, Something Funny said:

@onacloudynight dude, are you crazy?

Why are you getting back with her? Have some self-respect!!!!

Also how do yall be knowing who I am??

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Verbal abuse/ Vulgar & Hateful language

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Don't get back together. It's not healthy and you will regret it.

Good luck, but don't say you weren't warned.


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36 minutes ago, Roy said:

Don't get back together. It's not healthy and you will regret it.

Good luck, but don't say you weren't warned.

Yeah, I am a dumbass

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Ask her what do she mean with Safe? Physical,Emotional,Financial, Existential? She dont want you to cheat on her? This desire for safety can be genuine and natural or sometimes result of the attachment style of the person.

https://bjornsbooklab.com/quick-review-attached-by-amir-levine-and-rachel-heller/

Is nothing new but is interesting to study this. 

If you a secure attachment style you can go along with the 2 other not so secure ones. Relationship is life study. 

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Sigh...


You are God. You are Truth. You are Love. You are Infinity.

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propose to her its the next step after getting back with your ex


"You have to allow yourself to not know"- Peter Ralston

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Learn the difference between intentions and expectations. Have 0 expectations and do have calibrated intentions.

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By providing, making decisions for both of you, being socially savvy, psychologically strong and emotionally resilient.

 

But most importantly, feeling safe in your own skin. 

 

You probably won't learn any of these by just getting back with her, especially if it was the reason for why you broke up.

 

Why do you think it's a good idea to get back. It just might not be bro ?

 

 

 

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