assx95

Why i quit Tinder, Instagram and Porn!

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I thought i had women in my life. Girls who I matched on Tinder. Girls whose Reels i'd see on Instagram. Girls who I'd see nude in Erotica. Not to mention deepfake, there are apps which could make anyone naked. It's out there. And all this was so easily accessible, just a few scrolls, a few swipes, a few clicks. I could then edge, jerk off and orgasm. 

It's when i cold approached like 10 girls, I saw a contrast which shook me. Forget getting them naked, I could hardly hold their attention for 20-30 seconds before they rejected me. These very same girls, if i saw them on Tinder, Instagram or in Erotica, i would give them so much effort and attention, and get off sexually off them, when in reality, there's a such polarizing contrast i can't unsee it. 

Especially for a virgin like me, this is huge. Leo said it took him ~450 approaches to get laid the first time. I'd assume it'd be around 1000 for me, in a conservative country. I intend to go out once a week, so that is 20+ approaches/month. By the end of the year, I'd have done 1000+. 

If i don't get laid by ~1200 approaches, I'd hire a sexy hooker. So i am definitely getting laid by 2023 at max, either way. 

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First of all you mean 20 approaches a week, that is really good.

You will not need as many as Leo i think because he has said himself that he was totally horrible when he started and he has very high standards regarding looks. So 440 was with the worst odds possible.

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Do you socialize enough? I feel like everybody who socializes enough with mix gender groups will get a gf at some point. That’s how most people get into relationships. Of course cold approach requires 10 times more balls and it can very rewarding if you succeed so if you go that route then much respect to you. 

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Good decision. Now completely stick to it. Porn isn't going anywhere. You can waste your sexuality for decades when you are old on porn. Now is the time for real intimacy and sex. 

Here is what made be get laid pretty easily. 

Working out

Doing a job or activity that made be proud

Having a strong social circle and friends to go out with

Meditation 

Self-improvement habits, like cold showers, reading books, journaling ect. 

Cold approach, no matter the outcome 

Notice that all these don't directly get you laid, it's rather the self-confidence that comes with them, that gets you laid. 

If you continuously stick with this, you automatically will have sex sooner or later. 

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@Karmadhi It was 20/month, I travel by metro and go for work twice/week so approaching girls near the metro where they are super busy seems like a task. And i'll go to malls on weekends if my friends are into daygame as well. 

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@assx95 It does help to masterbate less when doing pick-up. Your natural masculine energy willcome through more in the interaction.

Beware of the trap of basing your self-worth on how much cum is in your balls. 

I've had states in my life where I would watch a TON of porn and then go clubbing the same night and still be confident, free, and in a great state! 

Do what works for you. 


I make YouTube videos about Self-Actualization: >> Check it out here <<

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Posted (edited)

Well, don't forget to be friends with the girls, exception from the fucking. Friendship is very important for all of us.

Edited by Bird Larry

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On 05/08/2022 at 5:13 AM, assx95 said:

If i don't get laid by ~1200 approaches, I'd hire a sexy hooker. So i am definitely getting laid by 2023 at max, either way. 

Lmao.

Love the backup plan


The game of survival cannot be won. 

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I'm this old (30 ish) guy who had to live without tinder or a pickup scene when i started going to clubs (around 15 to 18). I remember i was pretty afraid of approaching girls and since the pickup scene didnt really exist yet i had to find my own way, which i still really like. My main switch came when i discarded the pickup goal, and started with having fun. 

I would only approach girls who seemed fun (or hot but not bitchy) and if they were asses, or the convo was horrible. I would think to myself "i'm not having fun, i'm out" and leave. 

What changed: i became a guy who was just (actually) was having a good time. Even talking to groups, other guys, etc. And there it suddenly was. I was just getting fun to be around and girls were starting to eyeball me. 

That's where it all changed. 

Still loving your numbers game and backup plan though :). Hope you value my 2 cents. 

Edited by Sanguine

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23 hours ago, King Merk said:

Lmao.

Love the backup plan

:D

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15 hours ago, Sanguine said:

What changed: i became a guy who was just (actually) was having a good time. Even talking to groups, other guys, etc. And there it suddenly was. I was just getting fun to be around and girls were starting to eyeball me. 

That's where it all changed. 

Yeah. I see, being social is always a plus

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