Depressed, lost in life. I can't think anymore. What should I do?

[Son of leo]

I am so fucking lost

[puporing]

Just shared this to someone else but might apply here..

 

[Raptorsin7]

@Son of leo I think the first thing to do would be address the depression.

Are there any reasons you believe you are depressed?

Are you in touch with your emotions at all? Do you have any meditation experience?

Is there anything you want, or is there anything that motivates you? Do you want to be rich? Have sex with hot girls? Be a pro athlete?

Edited June 29, 2022 by Raptorsin7

[flowboy]

@Son of leo  Depression is the superlative case of repression.

Repression = pushing away (emotional) pain.

With each bit of pain that is repressed, a bit of your wholeness and sense of meaning and authentic desire goes with it.

Therefore when there is too much to repress, you lose most of the sense of meaning and desire that is inherent to being an alive human.

The way out of depression is to choose to feel more of what is repressed, thereby lifting the depression.

Some depressed people are actually really angry, but unable to cope with that and process that fully, so hence they are depressed.

Other common feelings are sadness, grief and hopelessness.

The less you push these away, the more you will feel.

The more you feel, the more emotional pain you feel, but also the less depressed you are.

And after feeling the pain, bliss and insight follows.

That's not to say that you can just make that decision from any situation.

Repression is there for a reason.

Are you currently in a condition to handle emotional pain?

Is your life stable?

Do you have the time, space and guidance needed?

If not, then the first thing to do is to go get that.

Set your life up in a way that makes it possible to process some repressed feelings in a safe way.

If that means working a day less at your job, do that.

If it means temporarily removing yourself from a toxic family system that doesn't accept and hold space for your feelings, cutting off contact and going to live on a friend's couch, do that.

If it means getting a therapist, coach or mentor, do that.

If it means reaching out to a friend even though it's hard, do that.

[Yog]

@Son of leo

Start with the most simple things first. Get them in order. You know what those things are.

Could be:
-Your sleeping habits.
-Eating habits.
-Too much digital time.
-Not being physically active.
-Not having a job and drifting around.
-ect.

The good thing is that your subconscious knows what these things are.
You don't need to find or think them out, you just have to act on them.

Start with what you are sure you can do to the degree you can.
Do not go for radical overkill. Do minimal changes and build them up in a day by day fashion.

If it means cut out burgers and eat few fruits instead and change just 1 meal a day. Than do so.
If it means you can do 5 pushups every day, than you do that.

Note again, it has to be sustainable, you need to be sure you can do these things every day and habituate. If you can change your eating habits for 1 , 2 days, or a week completely, it wont count. What counts is what you can repeat for long periods of time. And if you can do so, than you will be inspired and able to add to the habit.

In my experience in these kinds of situations its best to go for this approach and not do shadow work, face your depression or all that inner work. Do the inner work once you are stable and have something to stand on. Do the practical life things first.

[Raze]

Read the ultramind solution 

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eGH6sdODcOw

Edited June 29, 2022 by Raze

[Ulax]

1 hour ago, Yog said:

@Son of leo

Start with the most simple things first. Get them in order. You know what those things are.

Could be:
-Your sleeping habits.
-Eating habits.
-Too much digital time.
-Not being physically active.
-Not having a job and drifting around.
-ect.

The good thing is that your subconscious knows what these things are.
You don't need to find or think them out, you just have to act on them.

Start with what you are sure you can do to the degree you can.
Do not go for radical overkill. Do minimal changes and build them up in a day by day fashion.

If it means cut out burgers and eat few fruits instead and change just 1 meal a day. Than do so.
If it means you can do 5 pushups every day, than you do that.

Note again, it has to be sustainable, you need to be sure you can do these things every day and habituate. If you can change your eating habits for 1 , 2 days, or a week completely, it wont count. What counts is what you can repeat for long periods of time. And if you can do so, than you will be inspired and able to add to the habit.

In my experience in these kinds of situations its best to go for this approach and not do shadow work, face your depression or all that inner work. Do the inner work once you are stable and have something to stand on. Do the practical life things first.

I like this advice.

I'd add in getting involved with a depth psychotherapy and checking for neurodivergence too, i.e. adhd/ dyslexia.

[Breakingthewall]

16 hours ago, flowboy said:

@Son of leo  Depression is the superlative case of repression.

Repression = pushing away (emotional) pain.

With each bit of pain that is repressed, a bit of your wholeness and sense of meaning and authentic desire goes with it.

Therefore when there is too much to repress, you lose most of the sense of meaning and desire that is inherent to being an alive human.

The way out of depression is to choose to feel more of what is repressed, thereby lifting the depression.

Some depressed people are actually really angry, but unable to cope with that and process that fully, so hence they are depressed.

Other common feelings are sadness, grief and hopelessness.

The less you push these away, the more you will feel.

The more you feel, the more emotional pain you feel, but also the less depressed you are.

And after feeling the pain, bliss and insight follows.

That's not to say that you can just make that decision from any situation.

Repression is there for a reason.

Are you currently in a condition to handle emotional pain?

Is your life stable?

Do you have the time, space and guidance needed?

If not, then the first thing to do is to go get that.

Set your life up in a way that makes it possible to process some repressed feelings in a safe way.

If that means working a day less at your job, do that.

If it means temporarily removing yourself from a toxic family system that doesn't accept and hold space for your feelings, cutting off contact and going to live on a friend's couch, do that.

If it means getting a therapist, coach or mentor, do that.

If it means reaching out to a friend even though it's hard, do that.

Really interesting perspective about the depression. I think you nailed it

[Michael569]

 

Approach your life with kindness and compassion. For yourself and for others. It's all about tiny steps. Forget the bigger picture for now. Forget what others are doing. Compare yourself with no one. Everyone has their own shit they are dealing with regardless of how happy or successful they seem. EVERYONE. 

Maybe you can just start writing. Journal and try to understand your mind. Right now it is possible that the different parts of your mind are out of sync, each wanting a different thing. Journaling can help you pull those back and integrate them as one. 

A good book to try if you have time is "No bad parts by Richard Schwartz". 

All the best