Confession time - I like Bad Boys

[BornToBoil]

On 3/10/2021 at 8:04 PM, zeroISinfinity said:

• So you want very best all for yourself? 
• That guy will pick the very best woman for himself
• Trying to push and make dream come true in adult life where you are forced to compromise. 
• That guy looks for the very best too

@zeroISinfinity What are you trying to say, that she doesn't deserve a guy like that? All your posts sound like: "haha, lower your standards and stop expecting so much".  What's the point of doing that, so you can feel better about not being the top tier guy yourself?

[zeroISinfinity]

@BornToBoil Can I have some fun. 

Why so mad. 

Ofcourse women like bad boys because they will most likely serve all of their own self serving survival needs. 

More capable and that's it. More fun, more adventure more emotional stimuli etc etc.

Edited March 16, 2021 by zeroISinfinity

[BornToBoil]

@zeroISinfinity I just don't like it when people have "some fun" by being cynical and putting others down.

[zeroISinfinity]

18 minutes ago, BornToBoil said:

@zeroISinfinity I just don't like it when people have "some fun" by being cynical and putting others down.

You don't like it. So what. 

Do I want to help her I don't, she insuted me and I take my erase gum and since I value myself don't want to waste y time. Not obligated by anything to that it's just my good will.

Short kernel of wisdom. 

If someone wants to escape current conditions and move away from established status quo you just don't reinforce it. 

Looks nasty I know but what will make you more concious then fresh bucket of ice cold water. 

Edited March 16, 2021 by zeroISinfinity

[BornToBoil]

@zeroISinfinity So nothing. I am free to not like it just as you are free to be a troll and do whatever the hell you want. It doesn't change the fact that there is nothing wise or conscious about what you are doing and that there are better ways of using a self-improvement forum.

[zeroISinfinity]

1 minute ago, BornToBoil said:

@zeroISinfinity So nothing. I am free to not like it just as you are free to be a troll and do whatever the hell you want. It doesn't change the fact that there is nothing wise or conscious about what you are doing and that there are better ways of using a self-improvement forum.

Ok I agree. Be well. 

You gotta understand for some people this whole thing is so GD boring. 

She likes bad boys and I gave reasons why. What trolling. Just because I don't want to enter philosophical debates? 

You ain't no gonna be happy in life and you will always feel miserable if it's "for me" like this topic in particular and many others in this regard and it's perfectly fine. 

Don't expect everyone to agree with you or support you. 

[zeroISinfinity]

7 minutes ago, Loba said:

@BornToBoil Keep in mind this is coming from a guy who cheated on most of his girls and spent the summer making a public thread for everyone all about him.

To z:

You spent over a month wasting Galyna's time with your relationship crap - that woman was codependent and didn't have the heart to tell you that you are a self centered mental case - I have had more than one person message me, actually, about you because you are known for being a loud mouthed, abrasive ... kind of ... messed up in the head a bit, right... is that it, can't write properly, ect, you are also delusional, you had thought some things about me and it took a long time to get you off my back.  You should learn your lesson.  Don't control other people, what they wish to do.

You should mention those things when you do this.  Like how you kept getting into my journal and I could not get you to stop for a long time.  And then made a bunch of other ones and I could not get you to stop?

And then when I was talking to a guy here, posted something in the music section you did that...

You're a legit crazy person.  Look in the mirror.  People read your posts here and laugh.  You're a joke.

6 minutes ago, Loba said:

@BornToBoil 

@Loba You are right. Wish you well. 

I do apologize too.

Now am I crazy. That's a big question. 

You want enlightenment without going through it. Good luck. 

[Preety_India]

Mr @zeroISinfinity

Please don't make this thing personal. 

Please keep your affairs to yourself and let me keep mine. 

Did I insult you? Not my intention. 

Are you helping me? Absolutely no. 

All you are doing is going on a rampage of insults against me. 

Even Leo told you to not make things personal. 

Could you please keep me out of your mind? 

It would bring me much mental peace. 

Please do not degrade or insult or use condescending language towards me 

This is the last time I'm addressing you because your comments about my personal life are wasting much of my time. 

You could put that time to good use. 

And please stop clicking on my profile a thousand times, I see you there constantly, there is nothing on my profile that could be so desirable to you if you think that I don't deserve a desirable partner. 

I end this feud with this. 

Next time I see you commenting on my personal life in a degrading way, You go straight to the IGNORE LIST 

this is my final conversation with you. 

Please be respectful to other members on the forum. 

 

Edited March 16, 2021 by Preety_India

[zeroISinfinity]

@Loba Wanna know. Already cheated on my current gf. Not in actual physical sense. 

I will say gotta love siddhis. 

Have smarter things to do then arguing. For real. 

Hurted, grow up. Overcome don't repeat same stuff expecting different results. 

Truth is other will not make you happy or should be seen as sourxe of happiness. It's you. Same goes for lady who posted this topic. Faster she realizes that, the better. 

[Hulia]

7 minutes ago, Loba said:

@zeroISinfinity Well if it isn't physical I guess, maybe, idk.  Does she know?  Poor girl.

You do?  I'm getting tired of cities tbh.

Okay, then go do those things.

YOu don´t know his girl, maybe she is cheating on him too. Poor Zero!

[zeroISinfinity]

3 minutes ago, Loba said:

@zeroISinfinity Well if it isn't physical I guess, maybe, idk.  Does she know?  Poor girl.

Ofcourse she knows. So awesome, want more of that ecstasy. Human orgasm can't compare. Those ladies are rare and I am very greatful. I bow to you if you get chance to read this. 

3 minutes ago, Loba said:

You do?  I'm getting tired of cities tbh.

Yeah it's like jungle is it. Who wouldn't be. 

3 minutes ago, Loba said:

Okay, then go do those things.

Projection.

You talk at people rather than to them, idk, I'm learning that this proclivity makes conversation convoluted.  

Thanks for tip. ENTJ stuff, what can I do. The way I am. Maybe have to finally realize people are soft and like status quo. 

I am ok with it but not pull everyones sleave when you don't want to actually improve. There is always emotional cost involved. 

 

3 minutes ago, Loba said:

 

As far as others making me happy or not, I will never be happy, that isn't my goal and I don't care about others making me happy.  I care more about them not making me upset than happy tbh.

When will you finally realize your own worth? 

Also high emotional reactivity which I  too posses. You gotta accept and see that and work with that. 

My intentions are always good but you just don't get it. 

Also have right on my own opinion and my own values and my own wisdom and yes my own flaws. 

[zeroISinfinity]

Wish you well. @Loba

I really do. 

Topic is bad boys. So what's your position about this. 

I can't really have it since I am not attracted to men.

Can provide only a perspective and my opinion which may or not be correct. 

[levani]

watch teal swan's video on why women like assholes

Edited March 16, 2021 by levani

[Preety_India]

Bad boys are not the same as assholes. That's a huge misunderstanding. 

Nobody likes assholes by the way. 

That's what nice guys actually are. 

 

[Karmadhi]

@Preety_India Assholes get more laid than good guys and that is a fact. No subjectivity here. You yourself have said you are attracted to players so nothing to be suprised here. 

Nobody likes to be abused but the same mechanics that create abuse are liked by girls (overly confidence, detachment, assertivness, dominance, going for what you want etc etc)

[The0Self]

2 hours ago, Karmadhi said:

@Preety_India Assholes get more laid than good guys and that is a fact. No subjectivity here. You yourself have said you are attracted to players so nothing to be suprised here. 

Nobody likes to be abused but the same mechanics that create abuse are liked by girls (overly confidence, detachment, assertivness, dominance, going for what you want etc etc)

"Assholes get more laid than good guys..." ? I think you mean people who seem like assholes get laid more than guys who try to be or appear nice. True kindness and integrity (being a good guy), on the other hand, can get you laid. A lot. E.g. charismatic people. When picking up women, it doesn't help to appear like you're trying to be or appear nice, sure...but being an asshole is just dumb.

[Preety_India]

@Karmadhi I never said that. 

 

[Preety_India]

7 minutes ago, The0Self said:

"Assholes get more laid than good guys..." ? I think you mean people who seem like assholes get laid more than guys who try to be or appear nice. True kindness and integrity (being a good guy), on the other hand, can get you laid. A lot. E.g. charismatic people. When picking up women, it doesn't help to appear like you're trying to be or appear nice, sure...but being an asshole is just dumb.

Agree. 

[Consept]

I think every boy/man goes through the 'nice guy' or 'simp' phase which as I see it, can be defined as being what a woman says she wants. Ie respectful, put her first, put her on a pedestal, see her as your number 1 priority, I can sympathise with this as it's what's taught to boys in mainstream society especially if there's no strong role model to teach any different. The implication of this teaching is whatever your natural inclinations are as a man, they should be sacrificed and buried because to get a good woman you have to be a good provider and be what your woman needs you to be, so this erodes mens confidence to the point where they don't even know who they are anymore. 

This ultimately doesn't work for both sides, on the woman's side she just isn't attracted to males that are like this because they don't take charge, they dont know who they are, they actually feel different deep down inside to how they act which makes them inauthentic. For the man it doesn't work because he's going to try and hold this persona in the face of less and less attraction from his woman. 

A word on 'bad boys', traditionally seen as having a criminal element, not caring about anything, being kind of reckless, but maybe with a heart of gold, at least a suspected one. A youthful bad boy is more often than not also not very confident deep down, they just have a better persona, it's like they know what's attractive to women on a surface level and are using that persona as it works. It gives the impression of authenticity because actions are taken regardless of consequence, women my see it as such, but it's really just a play of authenticity. But these can not really translate into long term fulfillment for the guy or any girl he gets with because it is really a facade and he would need to build up true authenticity to get past it. Think Danny Zuko in Grease, hes seen as the cool guy but he hasn't got the authenticity to even come out and say he likes a girl. 

So that brings it to actual authenticity, this is what every girl says they want but have to actually be very well developed themselves to handle. The truth with this is that although you want it you may not like hearing these types of truths that you'd hear from an authentic person. Like you might not like the idea that he puts his happiness before your happiness, you might not like that he tells you upfront he doesn't see himself being with you long term, that he dote on you and call you honey and all that stuff. But because you're so attracted to authenticity you will always want to be with him because it gives you an experience of actual reality instead of this role playing most do. 

The dilemma that you have is that you want authentic but an authentic person will not be how you want them. If you want a top level authentic person you will only be his first option if you truly understand who they are and what they want and become that person that will truly enhance their lives. A lot of women expect or feel that they deserve a top level just because, that's fine you can have your standards but reality is if it's truly a top level guy he most likely won't choose you just because, you have to become a top level woman by his standards. 

 

[Preety_India]

@Consept this thread wasn't about me deserving or not deserving. By the way bad boys aren't considered top class. 

The thread was simply about me sharing my confession that I appreciate bad boys more after being hurt by nice men, who only appear nice and majority of nice men aren't actually nice but simply pretend to be, but bad boys not getting enough recognition in society and realizing that society has a need to demonize them and that being with them is breaking social norms. 

The guy who was described did not say that I did not match his standards, because in terms of social standards he was below me,but I pushed him away for social and family reasons

I don't know why the thread has devolved into who deserves what.