Do women enjoy cuddling?

[XYZ]

Do most straight women actually enjoy cuddling with men? And I mean as a stand alone activity, not something done before or after sex, while talking about their feelings, or for any other purpose than the experience of enjoying the physical contact. Is cuddling for the sake of itself something women would find pleasurable and worthwhile, or a boring and pointless activity? 

I understand this is a very nuanced issue and I am open to changing my perspective beyond these preconceived notions. But from what I gather, the strong desire for physical contact is endemic to male sexuality, and women don't have this strong need for touch. For them, intimacy seems to be about their perception of a meaningful relationship and being emotionally interconnected with a person, and any physical bonding is only for this purpose rather than the feeling of having a warm body next to them, or inside them.

Furthermore, if women did enjoy cuddling, I might assume they'd just cuddle with each other since there's no stigma against it, also women don't repel each other with their scent the way man smell does. Cuddling is an activity that doesn't involve much interplay between masculine and feminine polarities, mostly just lying there hugging and caressing each other. So if a man just wanted to cuddle a long time and not have sex he'd be seen as beta, submissive and effeminate. After all, women enjoy sex, and if I want to just lay around and cuddle, they will find someone else who will give them the D. Then again, sexual transmutation is a thing for women as well, and it's conceivable that there are some would enjoy an intimate relationship sans coitus.

Reason I'm asking this is because I'm not looking to have sex, actually want to stay on the path of no-fap/semen retention for sexual transmutation, regardless if I could have it, but am open to experiencing more intimacy in my life. I feel like abstaining from ejaculation while also bonding with a woman physically and energetically would be the apex of sensuality. Women I'm acquaintances with seem to enjoy hugging me, some say I give really great hugs, so I wonder if that alone is enough of a basis for exploring more physical and other types of intimacy together. I understand though that just because someone enjoys long close hugs whenever we run into each other or say goodbye doesn't mean they'd want to spoon and snuggle with me for hours while we listen to chillout-trance music. I'm hesitant to ask anyone if they want to get together and just cuddle since it might feel creepy and weird to them, ruining any sense of connection we did have.

 

[Spiral]

Most girls do enjoy it yes, but they generally have to like the guy first obviously. You also can cuddle naked and or in light clothing although this often creates sexual desire for both parties.

[LiakosN]

They LOVE cuddling if you can do it the right way ??

[XYZ]

@PartumCreed

Yes, but anecdotal evidence and hearing about others' experiences would be helpful in my approach to the issue.

@Spiral

19 hours ago, Spiral said:

Most girls do enjoy it yes, but they generally have to like the guy first obviously. You also can cuddle naked and or in light clothing although this often creates sexual desire for both parties.

It also occurs to me that if I find myself in that situation, we can have tantric sex, without the sex part.

@LiakosN

What is "the right way?" There are all sorts of books and videos about how to have sex the best ways, but not cuddling. I have learned by experience how to share the best standing embraces with women, but it would be different lying down.

Don't want to overthink this too much as it's something that would just happen naturally, but hearing about "cuddle buddy" experiences would be useful.

@Feel Good

"Just be yourself" lol

[LiakosN]

@XYZ I mean you can do a lot of things regarding cuddling. To name a few (when you are lying on bed): you can rub your fingers in her hair or massage gently her scalp, you can massage her neck, slap gently her ass chicks. I did enjoy when i touch my chick with my girlfriends chick or touch my eye with her eye. It's very funny  You can also kiss her chicks, you can cross your finger with her finger or rub your legs. You can even crack her finger joints (she might work up but she will like it  ). Kiss her eye. Touch your lips to her eyelashes. Touch her bones (especially in the thorax and spine). Touch your noses. Stay very close face to face (with eyes opened or closed) and just breath in silence. Listen to her breath. Touch her nipples. Hug her! Smile! You can do a ton when it comes to cuddling! Good luck my friend  

Edited August 25, 2018 by LiakosN

[SgtPepper]

Yes they love it. 

[Prabhaker]

Man's whole body is not sexually sensitive. The woman's whole body is sexual, women enjoy cuddling.

[XYZ]

Bumping this thread again with a more specific question. Lets say I meet a woman at a 'stage green' activity like (real) yoga, sound healing, meditation class, and we seem to really enjoy embracing each other. How would I go about taking that relationship to a point where we could meet up outside the event, lay down and cuddle together for a few hours? This is absolutely not the reason I go to such things, but since I'm not very social, that happens to be usually the only place where I end up sharing intimate hugs.

I have reservations about even asking, since lots of people hug, often hugging is encouraged, but even when a woman enjoys hugging me closely, that doesn't mean she'd want to hug for more than 10 seconds. From my logical male brain it makes sense to me that if you enjoy hugging someone closely for 10 seconds, of course you would enjoy stripping down to your underwear, lying in bed together and cuddling up for much longer. But I have come to understand that for women, physical contact is not as much a need as it is for men, they instead desire an intangible sense of emotional closeness, which for me is something I experience through physical closeness. 

There is also the fear of rejection obviously. Not the rejection itself, but let's say a woman used to enjoy long close hugs with me after yoga classes, then if I ask her to be my cuddle bunny outside of there, and she says no, it would feel very awkward hugging her again than had I never asked. I realize that a big part of this is also I am worried of being seen as shallow and using women, that if I ask someone to casually cuddle with me it shows that I care only about her body and not much else.

@SgtPepper @Prabhaker

Yes but why don't women just cuddle with each other then, since they don't need men for that activity. Cause women don't have the same intimacy taboo as men do, and their sexual orientations aren't set in stone either.

[Shin]

They do, A LOT ?

Not all of them of course, but most do.

But it's not just women, men too, if they are in touch with their feminity.

Btw, you could have sex without ejaculating, you just need to adjust to it and be prepared to use your hands and mouth a lot in the beginning ?

 

If you do those correctly, it's gonna be more than cuddles ???

1. Cuddle her hair, especially where the hair separate from the skin.
2. Cuddle her neck/ears area.
3. Cuddle her back very slowly, all the way.
4. Cuddle her cheeks, from the top of their eyes to their jaws.

 

Edited September 23, 2018 by Shin

[XYZ]

@Shin

On 9/23/2018 at 5:17 AM, Shin said:

men too, if they are in touch with their feminity.

Why is men wanting to enjoy cuddling a feminine thing? Seems really counter intuitive, because as a straight male I am super attracted to women I find physically beautiful, and it seems like one of the greatest joys would be to indulge in prolonged intimate contact with them, to feel the sensation of their skin against mine, their scent, their breath, their heartbeat close...

The only reason I could come up with is that masculinity is about being a disposable utility who provides external value, about doing, not just experiencing, so a masculine man would want to perform sexual acts and give her orgasms, while I'm more feminine because I want to gently embrace and caress her without needing to perform sexually or be dominant over her.  I could definitely see how some women would see it as beta/effeminate if a guy just wants to cuddle instead of fucking her in the pussy.

Its been about 2 months since I stopped fapping to porn, which was a severe addiction I did like 5+ times a day for the last 10 years, and no edging or ejaculating at all. This is truly my best mode life, and maintaining semen retention is a higher priority for me than physical intimacy. I know it's possible to have sex without ejaculating and have multiple intense full body orgasms, but I don't even want to go down any sex or masturbation path at all. The same sensations from 'tantric sex' practices I can generate just using breath and visualization without even an erection. I don't do this very often though since it's so fucking intense, and I can experience less extreme but still very pleasurable vibrations from breath meditations.

[Amer]

hug your girl in a spooning position after sex/ while asleep.

yes they do love it. they adore it.