will getting a girl friend solve my loneliness

[Inliytened1]

@Leo Gura knows what i mean. Right bud?

Edited September 28 by Inliytened1

[Inliytened1]

@Leo Gura this is a pertinent dialogue. Probably one of the most valuable posts in this section. Its the drive we have to up the body count.  Weigh in.  Don't sit on the sidelines.  

[LordFall]

1 hour ago, Ramanujan said:

yeah. sadly . they wont pickup phone. i gotta call them 5-10 times for them to pickup . or wait for  some days before i made the last call

 

fucking hell. i had a homie. i used to call him for 7 years. now after he married , he wont pickup phone. fucking hell. i got betrayed. fucking snake.

 

This is good. Now you can focus on your life purpose and meeting people that matter to help you reach it. Most friends are friends of convenience, not really valuable allies for us in time of need. That's why it's important to learn intentional networking and social circle game.

12 hours ago, Inliytened1 said:

I don't think he really has one.  He's a whole lot of bullshit if you ask.me.

Finally got out of the drunk tank huh! It's good to see you back man. 

12 hours ago, Joseph Maynor said:

@LordFall  Show us a picture of your girlfriend friend.  

I don't have a monogamous girlfriend right now. You can see some of the girls I hangout with on my Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/p/DOH0JPxka8M/?img_index=1

 

[Inliytened1]

22 minutes ago, LordFall said:

This is good. Now you can focus on your life purpose and meeting people that matter to help you reach it. Most friends are friends of convenience, not really valuable allies for us in time of need. That's why it's important to learn intentional networking and social circle game.

Finally got out of the drunk tank huh! It's good to see you back man. 

I don't have a monogamous girlfriend right now. You can see some of the girls I hangout with on my Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/p/DOH0JPxka8M/?img_index=1

 

I like the curls bro. You good. Haha. 

[LordFall]

41 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

I like the curls bro. You good. Haha. 

I appreciate it, definitely one of the secret weapons with women, they love playing with them. 

Edited September 28 by LordFall

[Inliytened1]

23 minutes ago, LordFall said:

I appreciate it, definitely one of the secret weapons with women, they love playing with them. 

Yah for sure.

[Ulax]

@Inliytened1 Good to see you back unc 

[Inliytened1]

30 minutes ago, Ulax said:

@Inliytened1 Good to see you back unc 

Thanks. 

[oOo]

On 25/09/2026 at 0:57 AM, Ramanujan said:

i live in a 3rd world. its a taboo to do dating.  i tried to use friendship with other men to solve my loneliness. it worked for some time. but there are some problems. like some see me as a backup friend. some see me as a side friend , a side charecter in their life .  it was managable. but once they got married , they started avoiding me. they choose a pussy they met one year ago over me

so i am back to square 1. no friends. not enough social skills.  the pain of loneliness is absolutely unbearable. i start crying some day

 

will getting a girl friend cure my loneliness.  i know game take a while to learn. i am a game noobie. although i am an arm chair pickup artist

 

 

is getting a girlfriend different from having male friends for your loneliness. does it cure loneliness

 

Not for me, and I say that because it doesn't matter how hot a woman is if I don't feel totally refreshed after orgasm, I know we're not the right fit. I could really like a woman as well, and what will result is not apathy at the end but disappointment. Quite often, I'll never be able to go down that route again even though I may have really wanted it to work, and even though we could still be friends. With that in mind this is why I would stress to both sexes, simply don't even put much effort in outside of having fun and trying to enjoy your experience then let that determine where the momentum goes. Because it can be very, very difficult to find a partner like that, an energetic match, and when it does happen, that's when you're in a vulnerable position if you don't have much experience in a relationship that has genuine meaning to your energetic core (too many people stay in relationships that are not right for them out of fear). So although a woman or another friend may not solve your loneliness, it's important to work on relationship skills irrespectively across both women and men, friends and lovers, so that you are ready when you do find someone that's compatible. I believe that alone will actually cure your loneliness if not simultaneously working on underlying issues. You don't need people though, humans need equilibrium relative to their natural energetic balance, and its from that place where we truly find a compatible partner, not when we're out for sync with the energetic core of who we are which is often the wrong place many people start from, because it drains the relationship rather than builds it.

Best wishes.
 

Edited September 29 by oOo

[Ramanujan]

ooo man loneliness is a pain in the ass. i basically call my 2 frineds 3-4 times before they pickup my phone. and i have to take 10 days break between each call. i have a few discord groups in a topic i am intrested in. but their time zone works differently . i will be working when they do their VCs


i want loneliness to end. ig there is no other choice. i need to learn game and make a gf so this loneliness can end. its an uphill battle. i am autistic and very low energy. probably neurodivergent. i absoulutely hate small talk. i can only open my mouth when it comes to sharing some knowledge that i am intrested in

 

its an absolute pain. 

[meta_male]

@Ramanujan I've been there before, I know the pain and exhaustion when connection somehow doesn't come as easily. It might take some pressure off to know that you absolutely don't need a girlfriend for things to get better for you. You mention a lot about calling your friends...do you ever meet up with people in person? Where do you come across people or get opportunities to interact with them? School, work, shops? And what are your interests?

[Ramanujan]

16 hours ago, meta_male said:

You mention a lot about calling your friends...do you ever meet up with people in person?

nope . only calling through phone

 

16 hours ago, meta_male said:

Where do you come across people or get opportunities to interact with them? School, work, shops? And what are your interests?

i am currently in my house studying to get into IT industry

but getting a friend is hard. most people are snakes. they will cause me trauma. its hard to weed out good people from evil ones.

no way around it ig. need to find some friends when i get into IT industry

[meta_male]

9 hours ago, Ramanujan said:

nope . only calling through phone

You need to meet people in real life. Connecting with them only through your phone is like living on fast food: your hunger will be satisfied, but it doesn't give you the nourishment you actually need. Eventually that lack of connection catches up with you.

What about people gives you trauma? What makes them evil?

[Ramanujan]

@meta_male yeah

i will get a job within 1 year. i will meet people. 

[LordFall]

8 hours ago, Ramanujan said:

@meta_male yeah

i will get a job within 1 year. i will meet people. 

You can go to meetup events. You've mentioned you're in India before, what city are you in? 

These all came up for in person business events in Bangalore. Feel free to check your city to see if you are from and if not perhaps you can afford to take transit to attend similar events. I think business events are great because it's like the actionable part of the self-development community, you'll meet motivated people that are taking consistent action towards their goals and also have a wide range of other interests.

Don't be intimidated if you don't have business experience, just watch a few videos beforehand and come up with a few questions to ask people about their own business related to what you learned or even just generally about AI and content creation and usually people are glad to talk about their business and help give you ideas for yours. 

Remember that IT is just a small part of business as a whole so if you learn that first then learning precise technical skills to unlock a specific business model will make a lot more sense than just vaguely learning computer science like literally tens of millions of other people on earth. 

Once you have a group of friends that hangout with you due to mutual benefit, you'll feel much less lonely since your skillset is under your control and if some people value it then many others will worldwide. 

Edited 1 hour ago by LordFall

[Ramanujan]

@LordFall
idk man . i have a lot of trauma assosiated with meeting people

i tried to meet a lot of people when i was in college. it become a complete clusterfuck. i am so traumatised. i cant go and meet people like a common man would. i am neuro divergent. 

 

 

but yeah . i will try. i will try it slowly. will look for INFPs and INFJs and ENFPs. i dont mind INTPs and INTJs as long as they are not assholes. i will only go for those types

[LordFall]

44 minutes ago, Ramanujan said:

@LordFall
idk man . i have a lot of trauma assosiated with meeting people

i tried to meet a lot of people when i was in college. it become a complete clusterfuck. i am so traumatised. i cant go and meet people like a common man would. i am neuro divergent. 

 

 

but yeah . i will try. i will try it slowly. will look for INFPs and INFJs and ENFPs. i dont mind INTPs and INTJs as long as they are not assholes. i will only go for those types

Why was it a clusterfuck? Also who cares? The last person who should care about your baggage is you. It's not because you fail at something once that you won't succeed in the future, as a matter of fact that's the only way to succeed. 

Being neurodivergent is not a reason to not be good at meeting people. I'm neurodivergent. You indeed can't use a normie strategy though. Normal people socialize based on relatability and avoidance. Meaning they look for people that have similar views of the world as them and then go do random activities to pass time with them while their life is probably stagnating.

Socializing based on value is a much more effective technique IMO because everyone has problems that they wanna solve but they don't know how. If you hangout with self-development and business minded people, the conversation topics will be around solving problems in your life and in other people's lives. Not random chit chat that means nothing. 

So as I said, take some time like 1-2 weeks to learn a few interesting things about business that interest you and go network based on that. Literally go to networking events with corporate people and startup people and use this conversation format, Hey I'm X, how are you doing? Have you heard about Y thing(the thing that you studied)? Cool it does blablabla thing and then ask them what they do and and share how what you've learned could help their business or overall life goals.

Do that with 10 different events and in 6 months you'll have a network full of valuable people and a skillset that's in demand in the market. Or you can overthink your trauma and why this is so hard and you're too anxious and can't do it and be at the exact same spot. Good thing about a forum is it has timestamps so 6 months from now is gonna be April 10th 2027. Bless your own self with an awesome life or fail yourself, the choice is yours my friend.

Everyone has trauma and everyone's life is hard. My life is hard, I promise you. The strategy is to find something that's worth suffering for and making progress towards it each day. 

I believe in you. 

Edited 1 hour ago by LordFall