Shit tests and compliance

[Jirh]

Responsibility is important, yes. In relationships, and everywhere else.

[Joseph Maynor]

5 minutes ago, Jirh said:

Responsibility is important, yes. In relationships, and everywhere else.

But when you are in a relationship responsibility does not work the same way as when you apply it to yourself.  It is more complex and involves trust, which varies.

[Jirh]

@Joseph Maynor

Yes, that's why trust is earned over time, not given freely to anyone.

When you're first meeting someone, you're still deciding if they deserve to be trusted, and to what degree.

[PsychedelicEagle]

1 hour ago, Someone here said:

But I’m curious about who actually came up with the term “shit test,” and why is it called that? Where did the term even come from?

Good question. I'd guess it probably arose in the Mystery method and whatnot era. It's a shitty name indeed, haha.

1 hour ago, Someone here said:

And when people talk about women “shit testing” men, do they actually do it intentionally, or is it sometimes just something they do without really thinking about it?

They can do it both consciously and unconsciously. In my definition both qualify because what matters is the purpose behind the shit test (feminine trying to unground the masculine — basically seeking reassurance that the masculine figure in question can indeed ground itself).

The less grounded a masculine figure appears to the woman, the more she will test it. And it doesn't matter for how long you've known someone. For the feminine what matters is that the masculine shows up grounded in the now.

These tests are not only verbal statements as it's usually portraid in pickup, they can come in many different forms.

Edited 23 hours ago by PsychedelicEagle

[Joseph Maynor]

11 minutes ago, Jirh said:

@Joseph Maynor

Yes, that's why trust is earned over time, not given freely to anyone.

When you're first meeting someone, you're still deciding if they deserve to be trusted, and to what degree.

This also applies if you know someone a long time too.  

[Joseph Maynor]

On 9/20/2026 at 1:13 AM, Miguel1 said:

Best way to pass shit tests is to just find it funny

It is not really funny though.  It is a power move.  

[felixk_priv]

@AION can you describe a time when you have been shit tested by a guy