Aging parents

[Lyubov]

My dad is 76 years old. This is sometimes really hard for me to accept. Does anyone else have aging parents where you are aware most of their years are behind them and they don't have so much time left?

[Ulax]

Yes. This is on my mind constantly. My dad is in his seventies too.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

Yep.

It has been a big thing for me recently.

My siblings seem to be oblivious - but I think this is because I am more engaged in a caring role already.

I am lucky that my parents were young when they had me.

I am only 40 but I still see this as half way through - if I am lucky.

Edited 16 hours ago by Natasha Tori Maru

[Lyubov]

Time really flies. It’s sometimes really quite astounding to fathom. I’m 35 now, seems like yesterday I was 22 and just thinking my dad was this ever present person. My dad is in good health but 76… at that age most of your years are behind you. 

Edited 10 hours ago by Lyubov

[PsychedelicEagle]

Same here, my dad turned 71 this year.

He is in good shape relative to his age despite having had a minor cardiac event before he turned 70.

Good to be present to the fleeting nature of life and health so we give it the proper value. And even then, it's hard to not take some things for granted. Kinda like a medidation practice where we need to always be catching our mind wandering and bringing it back to mindfulness.

Edited 9 hours ago by PsychedelicEagle

[AION]

Most people never contemplate death until it knocks on their door or on their loved ones. Death doesn’t exist though. It is just the final curtain for your self. It is kind of bitter sweet nonetheless, if accepted. The best is to grasp death on a young age so you can sip life as a fine wine instead of tugging it like most people. 

Edited 1 hour ago by AION

[Natasha Tori Maru]

28 minutes ago, AION said:

Most people never contemplate death until it knocks on their door or on their loved ones. Death doesn’t exist though. It is just the final curtain for your self. It is kind of bitter sweet nonetheless, if accepted. The best is to grasp death on a young age so you can sip life as a fine wine instead of tugging it like most people. 

Are you experiencing the advanced age of your parents?

[AerisVahnEphelia]

I always remember that childrens in Africa die of a bullet at 8 years old sometimes.

if you lived above this, every year was a grace, and death is liberation.

we never really dead, we never really existed, life is only present, and there is nothing in the universe that says you'll not respawn infinitely on another form again & again or that time passed cannot pass again.

which means : death is meaningless, because you cannot define what it is.

 

[AION]

9 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

Are you experiencing the advanced age of your parents?

No. But one of my grand parents died. And my grand parents are like my parents in this regard. 

Edited 38 minutes ago by AION

[Judy2]

my parents are a little younger than yours, but it also crosses my mind from time to time that the odds of them having health issues keep increasing.

it does make me emotional and conflicted about my unwillingness to get closer to them. 

sometimes i imagine getting a call that one of them died and then i dwell in regret. this is one of the sad scenarios that clog my throat but somehow i find it quite comfortable to linger there and spin the fantasies... which sounds horrible but idk what to make of it other than being honest about it. maybe i just want to feel sad in those moments, and then i make something up to justify it. 

i have been trying to figure out what this means, and technically there is still something i could do about that now, to improve the relationship with my parents, but maybe i don't want to or it seems too difficult/dangerous. or maybe this will resolve itself while there is still time...i guess that's what i tell myself.

feedback on this situation is welcome:)

Edited 15 minutes ago by Judy2