Retroactive jealousy

[Lyubov]

1 hour ago, Joshe said:

Facts. Girls lie about it because the stigma of being a slut. Eventually, you reach a point where just don’t even care to ask the body count and just assume it’s 20-50. Lol. Animals gonna fuck. Fact of reality. Let it go. 

Yeah, once you reach a certain age you sorta realize you gotta accept it. Whatever woman you are with will have a thing or two that will piss ya off, don't dwell on the past. Obviously you can filter and choose someone who perhaps hasn't gone so crazy that it creates all sorts of issues where you're running into her ex bfs with her and whatnot, but even girls who appear good will have done a few things that will piss you off. So don't dwell too much on the past but get a read on her if she is worth building a relationship or not now. Nothing wrong with pursuing women who weren't promiscuous just know it may be a fruitless effort and not go how you expect.   

Edited 16 hours ago by Lyubov

[Breakingthewall]

On 8/9/2026 at 9:47 AM, Ben_P said:

now every time we have sex I just think, am I living up to what she’s had before, am I manly enough, is my dick big enough, does it feel good enough for her. I know these thoughts are toxic and aren’t that important for good sex but they plague me. 

Why do you think that if she told you that she discovered real sex with you? Makes no sense. If she would said that the ex was incredible and that then ok, but she said that until you she was blocked in sex, no good sex before you, so who cares if the others were masculine or not? Worse sex with them, better sex with you, period 

[Ben_P]

8 hours ago, Breakingthewall said:

Why do you think that if she told you that she discovered real sex with you? Makes no sense. If she would said that the ex was incredible and that then ok, but she said that until you she was blocked in sex, no good sex before you, so who cares if the others were masculine or not? Worse sex with them, better sex with you, period 

Just insecurities really, I think watching porn in the past made me think I needed to be a certain way, look a certain way and I’d compare myself and feel inadequate. Just sometimes struggle to believe that she chose me when she could have any guy. I don’t normally think this way, but finding out her sexual history just triggered something which I thought I had moved past 

[Breakingthewall]

15 minutes ago, Ben_P said:

Just insecurities really, I think watching porn in the past made me think I needed to be a certain way, look a certain way and I’d compare myself and feel inadequate. Just sometimes struggle to believe that she chose me when she could have any guy. I don’t normally think this way, but finding out her sexual history just triggered something which I thought I had moved past 

That's normal, everyone have insecurities, but in your case she told you that before you sex was basically shit and now it's great so you have it quite easy. She had some unsatisfying experiences in the past that were exploration more than real sex and the only real sex that she had has been with you, then you could consider that's she was virgin and you are the first and the only, the others have been just trial and fail. 

Think that easily could be different, any woman that you could meet could have been with another boyfriend who has had great daily sex for a year or two