I want to hear a womans opinion

[Ulax]

43 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

I wonder what the male version of "the ick" is?  

We should invent a word lol

[Ulax]

Hmmm, I got the "Boner demoter", the "flaccid", the "drop"

[Joseph Maynor]

10 minutes ago, Ulax said:

We should invent a word lol

We can't say right because we should be gentlemen.  

[Ulax]

5 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

We can't say right because we should be gentlemen.  

Having flaws helps us seem more attainable

[Joshe]

55 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

I am going the opposite way as a method of meta mind exploration - and I feel like this insane experiment might appeal to you, haha! So far it has lead me down some unusual growth paths - namely in being able to cross pollenate and merge different frameworks together. Feeling and emotional based stuff.

Please, do tell!

[Joseph Maynor]

10 minutes ago, Ulax said:

Having flaws helps us seem more attainable

This is true.  Flawlessness is suspicious.  

[Monster Energy]

8 hours ago, Joshe said:

You could see those as data points. Collect a thousand and you're probably doing well. Or just theorize from macro surface behavior, up to you. 

Sure, we can learn something from it. I just wouldn’t confuse two women’s personal preferences with the female instruction manual.

 

 

Edited 7 hours ago by Monster Energy

[Monster Energy]

7 hours ago, Emerald said:

Do you mean the OP lost "aura points" in my eyes and the eyes of the few other women on this thread?

First off... no it didn't. It's a normal question to ask.

Secondly, if it had lost him "aura points' in my eyes... why would it even matter what some married 37 year old internet lady thought about his aura?

It’s not that the question itself is bad. The problem is that Olaf, a guy, is asking women how he should approach women. That can come across as insecure, and that’s where the aura points are lost. If a woman asked the exact same question, it wouldn’t be nearly as bad.

Olaf isn’t a woman asking this, nor is he on his way to becoming one. So why pretend the optics don’t matter? Of course you don’t care. You’re not in your prime anymore and you already have a partner. I’m talking about women who are still in the game and under 30.

And this is exactly why I made that other thread about women being deceptive. You want us to believe you’re all angels who never judge a guy for things like this, but we both know that’s not how attraction works.

Attraction responds to confidence, not a guy standing there asking, “So what do women want me to do?”

 

 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

31 minutes ago, Monster Energy said:

Attraction responds to confidence, not a guy standing there asking, “So what do women want me to do?”

But that isn't what he asked. That is your interpretation to try to validate your points.

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that can come across as insecure, and that’s where the aura points are lost. 

Status re-enforcement. The aura points argument is more likely to say more about the person claiming it - namely that they aren't secure in themselves. Comparison based. Inter-male dominance hierarchy stuff. It reads as low status to me from here. In addition "that CAN come across". Yes - it can - it relies on interpretation. One possible interpretation of many. Many dudes won't interpret it in the way you did. Just as insecure guys will see threat.

You seem very confused and upset about this topic. Based on the rhetoric you engage in.

Edited 6 hours ago by Natasha Tori Maru

[Ulax]

Only people who really understand casual dating are the advanced pickup dudes