I approached 100+ women

[TheGod]

Tonight, I’ve reached a milestone of having approached 100 women in two weeks and it’s very clear to me now how approaching women has begun to change me. Attention ! It will trigger you, especially if you’re a woman. 

Good things: 

I feel way less  fear when approaching women.

I fell numb when I get rejected. 

I have started the process of de-idealizing women. 

Bad things: 

I am getting numb towards what women feel. 

I am loosing my authentic cuteness, tenderness and empathy. Basically I am loosing a lot of my feminine traits. I’m becoming more masculine. 

The more women I approach the less I see them individually but rather as a collective, because they interact in the same way, talk about the same things, and are very conformists. 

By the time I have approached a 1000 I will turn into a very successful man in terms of getting women but I will lose my true self. I will lose this guy who deeply cares about women’s feelings, who has a lot of empathy and understanding for them. This guy who’s trying to take it slowly, the guy who’s trying to be a good friend and not being pushy. The guy women say they want but friendzone or don’t see. Instead, I will become the guy women claim not to like but who makes them wet and fucks them. I will become the guy my female friends used to complain about. 

Edited yesterday at 01:10 AM by TheGod

[Zen LaCroix]

Very interesting. Can you expand more on what you mean by "getting numb towards what women feel". In what way?

I do think that just comes with being more grounded and less outcome dependent and validation seeking. However I'm curious to know what your perspective on it is?

[TheGod]

6 hours ago, Zen LaCroix said:

Very interesting. Can you expand more on what you mean by "getting numb towards what women feel". In what way?

I do think that just comes with being more grounded and less outcome dependent and validation seeking. However I'm curious to know what your perspective on it is?

It´s not as important to me what feelings I provoke in women when I interact with them. If I make them smile or not. If they find me interesting, boring, bold, confident, arrogant, attractive, ugly, etc. 

When I just started approaching women in the past, I would try to be extra nice even if they were not nice to me. I would still smile and say "thank you", "bye" or "have a nice day". Now I just reflect how they react to me o interact in the same way they interact with me. If it's a clear no or they answer in an angry or disrespectful way - I just leave without any explanations.

Also, I don’t tolerate slightest disrespect from women. For instance, yesterday I saw a couple of girls outside of the bar. I liked one of them and came and started a conversation with her. I was curious about her background because she didn’t speak Spanish and it was obviously that she spoke a little English. She was smiling when talking to me, but the friend who I greeted but wasn’t interacting with, at some point told me “Can you just leave us alone?”. I turned to her and said “I don’t think I was talking to you.” A day earlier, my friend wanted to approach a cute girl but she was with a friend and her friend wasn’t attractive to me at all. We still approached both of them, and when my friend asked the girl for her Instagram (after a few minutes of lovely convo with her). She said yes, of course but her friend started saying “Don’t give it to him, don’t do it, no no no.” Again, I got triggered and told her “Why are you saying this? He didn’t ask you for you Instagram.”

Edited 18 hours ago by TheGod

[BlessedLion]

12 hours ago, TheGod said:

I am loosing my authentic cuteness, tenderness and empathy. Basically I am loosing a lot of my feminine traits. I’m becoming more masculine. 

The more women I approach the less I see them individually but rather as a collective, because they interact in the same way, talk about the same things, and are very conformists. 

 

i don't know if these are neccesarily negative things

[BlessedLion]

12 hours ago, TheGod said:

This guy who’s trying to take it slowly, the guy who’s trying to be a good friend and not being pushy. The guy women say they want but friendzone or don’t see. Instead, I will become the guy women claim not to like but who makes them wet and fucks them. I will become the guy my female friends used to complain about. 

There is clearly a better one to be here. 

[BlessedLion]

3 hours ago, TheGod said:

When I just started approaching women in the past, I would try to be extra nice even if they were not nice to me. I would still smile and say "thank you", "bye" or "have a nice day". Now I just reflect how they react to me o interact in the same way they interact with me. If it's a clear no or they answer in an angry or disrespectful way - I just leave without any explanations.

Again i don't see how any of this is negative at all. It sounds like you are growing a spine and not putting up with disrespectful bullshit or being too much of a people pleaser

[BlessedLion]

3 hours ago, TheGod said:

She was smiling when talking to me, but the friend who I greeted but wasn’t interacting with, at some point told me “Can you just leave us alone?”. I turned to her and said “I don’t think I was talking to you.” A day earlier, my friend wanted to approach a cute girl but she was with a friend and her friend wasn’t attractive to me at all. We still approached both of them, and when my friend asked the girl for her Instagram (after a few minutes of lovely convo with her). She said yes, of course but her friend started saying “Don’t give it to him, don’t do it, no no no.” Again, I got triggered and told her “Why are you saying this? He didn’t ask you for you Instagram.”

Just some general pick up advice, always include the friend and do not isolate her like that. It is a surefire way to fail

[Zen LaCroix]

4 hours ago, TheGod said:

It´s not as important to me what feelings I provoke in women when I interact with them. If I make them smile or not. If they find me interesting, boring, bold, confident, arrogant, attractive, ugly, etc. 

When I just started approaching women in the past, I would try to be extra nice even if they were not nice to me. I would still smile and say "thank you", "bye" or "have a nice day". Now I just reflect how they react to me o interact in the same way they interact with me. If it's a clear no or they answer in an angry or disrespectful way - I just leave without any explanations.

Also, I don’t tolerate slightest disrespect from women. For instance, yesterday I saw a couple of girls outside of the bar. I liked one of them and came and started a conversation with her. I was curious about her background because she didn’t speak Spanish and it was obviously that she spoke a little English. She was smiling when talking to me, but the friend who I greeted but wasn’t interacting with, at some point told me “Can you just leave us alone?”. I turned to her and said “I don’t think I was talking to you.” A day earlier, my friend wanted to approach a cute girl but she was with a friend and her friend wasn’t attractive to me at all. We still approached both of them, and when my friend asked the girl for her Instagram (after a few minutes of lovely convo with her). She said yes, of course but her friend started saying “Don’t give it to him, don’t do it, no no no.” Again, I got triggered and told her “Why are you saying this? He didn’t ask you for you Instagram.”

This seems like the first step when you stop being a nice guy. You no longer feel the need to be nice to people who aren't nice to you or who are being unpleasant.

Its an interesting realization when you realize that you were raised to be so nice and respectful towards women but they weren't raised to be that way towards you. 

[TheGod]

1 hour ago, BlessedLion said:

Again i don't see how any of this is negative at all. It sounds like you are growing a spine and not putting up with disrespectful bullshit or being too much of a people pleaser

I think so too. I was raised to believe that being extremely nice to women is the way to go. To be a gentleman, to put women first and then to put yourself. In reality that’s how you become an incel and a perfect friend for women who say “you’re so nice, you’ll be a great boyfriend for someone else”. I’m glad I’ve become conscious of it. 

[TheGod]

29 minutes ago, Zen LaCroix said:

This seems like the first step when you stop being a nice guy. You no longer feel the need to be nice to people who aren't nice to you or who are being unpleasant.

Its an interesting realization when you realize that you were raised to be so nice and respectful towards women but they weren't raised to be that way towards you. 

This is so true. On the other hand, I need to be very very careful because this way it’s easy to start hating women. Thankfully, there were a few respectful women with great personalities. Even when they reject me I don’t feel angry or frustrated, instead I feel happy to have interacted with a woman like this because it proves that there are good girls out there. But the majority of them are just sheep. I know it sounds bad but it’s true. 

[Joshe]

7 minutes ago, TheGod said:

But the majority of them are just sheep.

So are the majority of men. That’s a bothsidesism, but just wanted to toss it out for perspective. And of course, almost no one considers themself a sheep. 

Also, if the majority of women are sheep yet you’re still chasing them, there’s probably some internal conflict there. Potentially worth looking into depending on how dominant it is in your worldview. 

[Zen LaCroix]

1 hour ago, TheGod said:

This is so true. On the other hand, I need to be very very careful because this way it’s easy to start hating women. Thankfully, there were a few respectful women with great personalities. Even when they reject me I don’t feel angry or frustrated, instead I feel happy to have interacted with a woman like this because it proves that there are good girls out there. But the majority of them are just sheep. I know it sounds bad but it’s true. 

I know for myself getting rejected a lot can produce a rage in me which I'm still working on to be neutral towards or find funny. 

 

For yourself if you don't care about rejection where does the need to be careful about not hating women come from?

Edited 11 hours ago by Zen LaCroix

[TheGod]

4 minutes ago, Zen LaCroix said:

I know for myself getting rejected a lot can produce a rage in me which I'm still working on to be neutral towards or find funny. 

 

For yourself if you don't care about rejection where does the need to be careful about not hating women come from?

Because I might start doing it because all my life I had been idealizing them. I might project the hate I feel for myself for doing so onto women. 

[TheGod]

37 minutes ago, Joshe said:

Also, if the majority of women are sheep yet you’re still chasing them, there’s probably some internal conflict there

Nah, inner conflict would be me sitting in the basement of my mom’s house and spending days in red pill or incell communities. 
Most of the women are sheep because it’s needed for their survival. I still want to have sex with them and if I find one who’s not a sheep, I will commit to her. 

[Olaf]

@TheGod first of all respect. Secondly, this is kinda true, yet at the same time you are a man, aren't you supposed to be more masculine then feminine? Like imagine you talked to a girl and she was super masculine, would you feel she is being her real self? Ultimately when you will have a girlfriend you will be the masculine and she the more feminine and together you make a great team. Some people don't belief that you should be masculine or feminine and rather remain in some asexual, nondual, non-binary state of being and be celibate for the rest of your life. That could be the thing you want to do, I just don't feel drawn to do that personally and I think many men don't. The only problem you probably have with your masculinity right now is that you don't have a female next to you, if you had a relationship at some point with a girl, your masculinity would bring out her femininity and it would be a beautiful dance between the two of you.