my private students' dad is love bombing me and encouraging tax fraud

[Judy2]

i need to get this off my chest and hope it won't be used against me by anyone.

i have been teaching three sisters French for a couple of weeks, since they switched schools and need to keep up with their peers. i have an undergrad degree in English with French as a secondary subject.

the girls' dad pays me cash after the French lessons and is sending me heart emojis all the time. (that combo makes me feel like a prostitute.) more hearts and kisses than i have ever received from any lover. he praises me a lot, touched my back twice when showing me out, but other than that, he hasn't acted inappropriate.

he insists on paying for lessons that we had to cancel, and i am hesitant to accept that because usually, no one has ever offered to do that, let alone this amount. he also pays more than any other parents have ever paid me before for tutoring their children.

i feel a bit overwhelmed and don't know how to communicate with him. my goal was to hand in a document for my tax report in September (since i also have other students and would like to advertise my private tutoring services more officially), but his response was "don't be like that" and i felt too shy to be more persistent.

what do i do? do i just start writing official invoices and present them to him via email, and he'll have to accept that?

he's so fond of me for some reason and voluntarily upped the amount he pays me a couple weeks in, so if he thinks i'm so important, he should handle the fact that i want to do this the right way?

i think it's just so strange he voluntarily sends me more money all the time. 

Edited Sunday at 03:29 PM by Judy2

[Judy2]

he is now asking me to send him photos from my holidays.

Edited Sunday at 05:30 PM by Judy2

[LordFall]

Enforce your boundaries. A lot of women struggle with one telling themselves that their boundaries are valid and two enforce them once they decide on them. Predatory men take advantage of that all the time.

Most men don't know how to meet women so they will hit on every single woman they meet in whatever context and be inappropriate and lack social calibration. You're not crazy this is weird af.

Unless you're into him but doesn't sound like it so sounds like a boundaries needed type of issue or time to find another job. 

Edited Sunday at 04:52 PM by LordFall

[Elliott]

You shouldn't need documentation to file cash sales as income. What country are you in?

He sounds like a total perv, like hes trying to come onto you.

[PsychedelicEagle]

Doing what’s right is never wrong. 

[Realms of Wonder]

People are already responding to some of the points but one that I want to focus on is him paying for lessons that don't happen.

If you had to cancel, that is one thing, but if he cancels, its common in some industries to be paid at least part of what the original fee was.

I used to work as a Massage Therapist. if they canceled within 24 hours there was a cancelation fee of like, 30-40%, but if they canceled right before they had to pay for the whole thing.

And yeah, it sounds like he isn't seeing you in a totally professinal light.

At the end of the day, if you want to report your taxes, that's your choice whether he agrees or not. I would either start invoicing him for it or just keep good track of the cash you are receiving so you can report it properly come tax season.

[Judy2]

@Realms of Wonder

okay, thanks for your reply.

[Michal__]

You probably see it differently but to me it sounds like a goofy cash cow.

[Basman]

You just need to be stricter with your boundaries. This shouldn't have gotten this far in the first place. 

You need to ignore anything that's not business related. Don't respond. Don't reply. Don't even look him in the eyes if it's not relevant. Reject any advances or touch. 

And don't accept any money that hasn't been previously agreed upon. That could be used to pressure you. Follow the agreement. 

If things go out of hand you can always fire him and send the messages to his wife.