Is it Just Me or Has the Actualized.org Active User Community Shrunk of Late?

[Natasha Tori Maru]

It might be less the PUA stuff and more the reduction of women to a pile of body parts. Breeding age. Used up. 24 is too old. 

YoU THiNk yOu KnOW WhAt YoU WaNt bUt u r a WomAN 

Here! let me mansplain how you are, cos you don't know how you work!

Let me explain you and conflate that with understanding you! I can analyse you into the next dimension and then also fail to relate on even the most basic level! 

Be in your feminine emotions! But don't be too emotional! That's baggage! Also be rational! But don't be in your masculine analysis mode! But don't be too emotional! 

Holy shit brb while I pretzel myself into everything YOU need! 

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I tend to think the above undercurrent that leaks out in some users rhetoric is why women get turned off this place 😏

[Natasha Tori Maru]

I am also sad some of the other juggernaut intellectuals were banned. Really great analysis and debate from some users. Miss it. 

Especially miss just how good faith and charitable they could be in general 

Definitely Leo's place though. He calls the shots. Cest la vie 

[Carl-Richard]

15 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

It might be less the PUA stuff and more the reduction of women to a pile of body parts. Breeding age. Used up. 24 is too old. 

YoU THiNk yOu KnOW WhAt YoU WaNt bUt u r a WomAN 

Here! let me mansplain how you are, cos you don't know how you work!

Let me explain you and conflate that with understanding you! I can analyse you into the next dimension and then also fail to relate on even the most basic level! 

Be in your feminine emotions! But don't be too emotional! That's baggage! Also be rational! But don't be in your masculine analysis mode! But don't be too emotional!

I would say this mentalized, highly abstract, generalizing, reductionizing (of women) is exactly what PUA is about as opposed to just "naturizing" it out (it's part and parcel of "gaming" it out, and it happens to portray relationships a certain way). All the evopsych "breeding age" and "a fish doesn't know how to catch fish" interlocks with PUA frameworks.

Edited 1 hour ago by Carl-Richard

[Natasha Tori Maru]

1 minute ago, Carl-Richard said:

I would say this mentalized, highly abstract, generalizing, reductionizing (of women) is exactly what PUA is about as opposed to just "naturizing" it out. All the evopsych "breeding age" and "a fish doesn't know how to catch fish" interlocks with PUA frameworks.

Good point  

Sort of overlaps with manosphere and red pill. 

As soon as I see that rhetoric from users I perceve how lost they are, and it can act as a proxy for either 1) turd critical thinking or 2) bias up the wooozay 3) lack of experience.

I rarely ever encounter that sort of narrative from well adjusted, stable and integrated men who treat woman as humans.

[Elliott]

39 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

 

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I tend to think the above undercurrent that leaks out in some users rhetoric is why women get turned off this place 😏

Men get turned off by it too, it's toxic as fuck. It affects the whole forum.

Edited 1 hour ago by Elliott

[LoneWonderer]

Better have toxic men on here where the other users can set them straight on the right path in terms of respecting women, than on other toxic forums like 4chan or yt comments section I think. But also we gon' ban yo ass if you keep being disrespectful to women!

Also why did my innocent question devolve into a PUA and toxic masculinity conversation! 🥺 Ok y'all are free to discuss whatever you want, it's a free country!

Edited 1 hour ago by LoneWonderer

[Jodistrict]

I’ve complained before about the use of the word “game” referring to “pick-up”, as in picking up a sack of potatoes.  The terminology was created by PUA marketers and the language is amazingly effective in locking men into a failed paradigm.  I suggest the central concept should be “connection”.

[Carl-Richard]

13 minutes ago, LoneWonderer said:

Better have toxic men on here where the other users can set them straight on the right path in terms of respecting women, than on other toxic forums like 4chan or yt comments section I think. But also we gon' ban you ass if you keep being disrespectful to women!

We'll also ban your ass if you're disrespectful to men, particularly one man.

 

13 minutes ago, LoneWonderer said:

Also why did my innocent question devolve into a PUA and toxic masculinity conversation! 🥺 Ok y'all are free to discuss whatever you want, it's a free country!

Sorry, you have to pick up four women to unlock your original topic again in this thread. Oops, there are only three women in this thread. We'll allow it if you can pick up all of them at the same time 👍

Edited 1 hour ago by Carl-Richard

[Joseph Maynor]

Sometimes it is good to let different people take the spotlight.  Other people have to step aside to allow for that.

[LoneWonderer]

20 minutes ago, Carl-Richard said:

Oops, there are only three women in this thread. We'll allow it if you can pick up all of them at the same time 👍

What kind of casanova you take me to be?  I'm just as autistic and clueless as the average user on here. But I have generally positive attitude and life outlook 

Edited 46 minutes ago by LoneWonderer

[Elliott]

38 minutes ago, LoneWonderer said:

Better have toxic men on here where the other users can set them straight on the right path in terms of respecting women, than on other toxic forums like 4chan or yt comments section I think.

I agree it's just they're treated with kids gloves here, and any time users get on them the topic gets closed. No need to ban them, just let me smack em'.

Edited 37 minutes ago by Elliott

[Natasha Tori Maru]

36 minutes ago, LoneWonderer said:

Better have toxic men on here where the other users can set them straight on the right path in terms of respecting women, than on other toxic forums like 4chan or yt comments section I think. But also we gon' ban yo ass if you keep being disrespectful to women!

Also why did my innocent question devolve into a PUA and toxic masculinity conversation! 🥺 Ok y'all are free to discuss whatever you want, it's a free country!

To your OP -  Leo's long format videos infrequent releases might be part of it. There is less content.

In addition - we are all in this community to pursue higher consciousness and truth. We forget we are all on the same side. The longer we go in content droughts, the more I have noticed the community tends toward making enemies internally! Maybe just my hairbrained theory though.

[Carl-Richard]

1 hour ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

I rarely ever encounter that sort of narrative from well adjusted, stable and integrated men who treat woman as humans.

The most experienced-with-women longtime friend I have (talked with him yesterday) likes to play videogames, studies music production and would probably describe himself as a feminist (if you pushed him on it). What you notice about him is he is extremely socially attuned, empathic, essentially drawn to social interactions. Also quite authentic, but also again quite attuned to social fluctuations; strikes me as Fe-Si heavy.

Another guy I know from a while back in university is the most extroverted person I've ever met probably (and also weirdly one of the most openminded people I know, into all kinds of music, drugs, etc.), somebody said he was plowing through Tinder "dates" like several a day. These are numbers games (being social, certainly getting more people to be social with you, but just being social is a numbers game).

Edited 20 minutes ago by Carl-Richard