Dating One Person At Once vs Multiple - Before Commitment

[Inliytened1]

1 minute ago, LordFall said:

Haha yes I love intellectual women. Love nothing more then spending hours having deep conversations with women. Intellectual connection is so important for me. I've had FWBs that didn't really understand me and my ideas and I felt like that limited the depth of our bond for sure. My ex was one of the smartest women I've met to this day. 

There is absolutely nothing I love more than that.  That is priceless. Just remember that.  If you find that, don't lose it.

[LordFall]

5 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

There is absolutely nothing I love more than that.  That is priceless. Just remember that.  If you find that, don't lose it.

I don't believe in scarcity mindset in general. It doesn't mean to not value the amazing experiences you've had but you can mostly always recreate them. Have you tried social circle game? I've met a lot of cool women in my social circle that I've had great talks with and they come to my events often so I build a pretty deep bond with them over time. 

I have a few women from my time in Calgary that I still talk to on DMs even now that I moved across the country to Montreal. 

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[Inliytened1]

16 minutes ago, Consept said:

This is something im thinking about at the moment, as in if your goal is to find the right person for you, whats the best way to go about it?

So I kinda felt like op in terms of just seeing one person and im probably naturally inclined to do that. But the issue is I felt like I was putting all my eggs in one basket, which isn't bad but if you dont know them that well all kinds of things can come up and then you're already a bit deeper into it. 

I dont know if its the right way but now im thinking more to just go on multiple first dates and just see how I feel with different people. 

The caveat is that if I am genuinely looking for something long term, I cant get distracted by short term flings. Essentially you have to be super honest with yourself. But overall I think cast the net out wide and one something comes in that ticks all the boxes, go for it 

Yes it is a huge danger.  I never realized how dangerous it was.  So just take it slow with someone. Don't move in with her for at least a year, just get to know each other.  And the key, like I said, make sure you are at the same level.

[Inliytened1]

10 minutes ago, LordFall said:

I don't believe in scarcity mindset in general. It doesn't mean to not value the amazing experiences you've had but you can mostly always recreate them. Have you tried social circle game? I've met a lot of cool women in my social circle that I've had great talks with and they come to my events often so I build a pretty deep bond with them over time. 

I have a few women from my time in Calgary that I still talk to on DMs even now that I moved across the country to Montreal. 

I have to hit one of your events - you'll have to hit me up outisde of this so I can grab your contact info.  But no, value the experiene, but i understand you are searching for something.  Yet, the intelligent ones are all you need.  You will see that in time.

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[Miguel1]

1 hour ago, LordFall said:

Counting dates (1, 2, or 3) is a symptom of relying purely on cold dating funnels. When you’re meeting total strangers off of cold approach or dating apps, you’re forced to set arbitrary counters because you have zero prior context on who they are.

When you build through a social circle or shared ecosystem first, you already know their values, lifestyle, and vibe before date one. The transition to exclusivity becomes an organic escalation of how well she fits into your life. 

No.

You don’t need to waste endless time on social circle, if you know what you are doing.

You can find all that out and more in 1-2 dates, if you don’t fuck around playing pua social circle games.

[Miguel1]

22 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Haha yes I love intellectual women. Love nothing more then spending hours having deep conversations with women. Intellectual connection is so important for me. I've had FWBs that didn't really understand me and my ideas and I felt like that limited the depth of our bond for sure. My ex was one of the smartest women I've met to this day. 

Yet, you need to spend enormous amount of time on social circle to find such a simple thing.

Just take the girl on a date, you will find out immediately.

You also talk like social circle doesn’t have limits. It’s not like you can date through everyone in the circle. 1 girl in a circle at once, max.

[Miguel1]

I’m sick of hearing this social circle strategy as being the solution to all dating problems.

It is not. Nor do many people have interest in wasting so much time and energy on it. Also, for introverts it ill be much trickier.

[Inliytened1]

1 minute ago, Miguel1 said:

Yet, you need to spend enormous amount of time on social circle to find such a simple thing.

Just take the girl on a date, you will find out immediately.

You also talk like social circle doesn’t have limits. It’s not like you can date through everyone in the circle. 1 girl in a circle at once, max.

Which one is it?  you run in circles like I do, but i can appreicate that.

[Inliytened1]

2 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

I’m sick of hearing this social circle strategy as being the solution to all dating problems.

It is not. Nor do many people have interest in wasting so much time and energy on it. Also, for introverts it ill be much trickier.

I guess if you have it figured out you'll sail away into the sunset like our grandparents.  I just wonder if they really did have it right.

[LordFall]

@Miguel1 I think you're confusing a small 'friend group' with an expanding social ecosystem and proper social circle game. If you're talking about a group of 6 tight friends, yeah, dating through them causes drama and has limits.

When I talk about social circle, I mean hosting events, building communities, and having an active lifestyle where new high-caliber people are constantly flowing in and out of your world naturally. You aren't 'wasting time' to get a date, you're literally just living a fun, fulfilling life, building your network, and meeting aligned women along the way.

If cold approach work for you, awesome, but for many guys, building a real social circle is far more rewarding than grinding out dates and one night stands.

[Rafael Thundercat]

@Miguel1 If you would listen the convesations of the Non-Monogamic people around me you would go crazy. Listening them I realise why Monogamy is the rule in the world. 

Non-Monogamic Retoric is so full of Relativism, Nuances and Ambiguity that sounds like non grounded at all, and a fertile ground for disapointment nd hurt. 

People like to play around with relationship structures not aware that they are just investing in future headache. My questions for these so called free people is " What happens when a child enter the arena? When the woman get pregnant and there are this little being asking for all sorts of attention? Where all the Polyamory, Non-Monogamic Retoric goes? Do the group organize? Share fairly the duties? 

[LordFall]

4 minutes ago, Rafael Thundercat said:

@Miguel1 If you would listen the convesations of the Non-Monogamic people around me you would go crazy. Listening them I realise why Monogamy is the rule in the world. 

Non-Monogamic Retoric is so full of Relativism, Nuances and Ambiguity that sounds like non grounded at all, and a fertile ground for disapointment nd hurt. 

People like to play around with relationship structures not aware that they are just investing in future headache. My questions for these so called free people is " What happens when a child enter the arena? When the woman get pregnant and there are this little being asking for all sorts of attention? Where all the Polyamory, Non-Monogamic Retoric goes? Do the group organize? Share fairly the duties? 

There's plenty of polyamorous couples with kids lol, in various forms. Some openly raise them as a likea throuple or 4 people or however many and some just raise them as single parents or monogamous couples presenting and then when the kids are teenagers they sit them down for the listen kiddo me and your mother love eachother but we also date other people talk. 

 

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[LordFall]

33 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

I have to hit one of your events - you'll have to hit me up outisde of this so I can grab your contact info.  But no, value the experiene, but i understand you are searching for something.  Yet, the intelligent ones are all you need.  You will see that in time.

For sure, come by Montreal! We have beautiful women and delicious food, it's a sweet city to checkout especially if you haven't been. We can see if @integral will come out he's from here too, maybe there are others on the forum as well. 

[BlessedLion]

11 hours ago, Miguel1 said:

Let’s drop all the PUA toxic bs for a moment.

If you’re goal is to find a healthy relationship that is deeply aligned, should you date one person at a time or multiple?

The more I drop the PUA paradigm, the more it makes sense to date only ONE person at once.

Your dating should be so honest, authentic and vulnerable that you find out about the potential of the relationship in a few dates.

If you only do surface level dating, then of course it takes forever to find our if you are aligned and compatible.

What do you think? What are your reasons?

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P.S. If I see one Grandiose joke, or one Daddy joke, I’m gonna Spank you.

If i'm really into a woman i definitely don't want another mans hands on here. But it takes me a long time to get to the point where I really care about that, I can keep it open for a while. I'm also such a flirt and don't like giving that up.

I also don't know about going into every date filtering and searching for your totally compatible soul mate rather than just having fun and seeing where things go. I've been surprised many times by women i initially wrote off. But maybe i'm just more lax about it, i don't have a huge list of requirements nor am i super picky. If she's a good vibe, intelligent, kind and we have strong sexual chemistry I can make it work with most women, people are really picky these days and over complicate it imo.

[Inliytened1]

2 hours ago, LordFall said:

For sure, come by Montreal! We have beautiful women and delicious food, it's a sweet city to checkout especially if you haven't been. We can see if @integral will come out he's from here too, maybe there are others on the forum as well. 

I can't go to Canada right now i have a couple of DUIs.  Canada treats them like felonies which is fucked because it was like 2 years ago that I got the last one.  Soi'll I'll see you on the other side.

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[LordFall]

52 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

I can't go to Canada right now i have a couple of DUIs.  Canada treats them like felonies which is fucked because it was like 2 years ago that I got the last one.  Soi'll I'll see you on the other side.

There is only one solution left.

Actualized.org, the Vegas Immersion retreat. Everyone is given 5-meo-dmt on arrival and different insights are hidden across the major casinos on the strip.

Last one to the Godhead has to buy everyone Kombuchas.

The Oracle of Vegas is hidden along the journey, legends say she can elevate the scale of your life purpose by 3x if you find her. She appears only to the most worthy actualizers and is dressed as a Vegas Showgirl!

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[Inliytened1]

2 minutes ago, LordFall said:

There is only one solution left.

Actualized.org, the Vegas Immersion retreat. Everyone gets given 5-meo-dmt on arrival and different insights are hidden across the major casinos on the strip. Last one to the Godhood has to buy everyone a Kambucha.

The Oracle of Vegas is hidden along the journey, legends say she can elevate the scale of your life purpose by 3x if you find her. She appears only to the most worthy actualizers and is dressed as a Vegas Showgirl!

Shit i don't wanna get weird but I think I'm falling in love with you.  JK..you're a cool kid.  Let's see what happens.

[Inliytened1]

13 minutes ago, LordFall said:

There is only one solution left.

Actualized.org, the Vegas Immersion retreat. Everyone gets given 5-meo-dmt on arrival and different insights are hidden across the major casinos on the strip. Last one to the Godhood has to buy everyone Kombuchas.

The Oracle of Vegas is hidden along the journey, legends say she can elevate the scale of your life purpose by 3x if you find her. She appears only to the most worthy actualizers and is dressed as a Vegas Showgirl!

i would really like if he put that together, but I guess he has the retreat waiting...which was heavily screened.  I wouldn't have even got past the initial screening.  But yeah, i have a friend from here who is coming to live with me, as soon as he can @JoshB. I told him come and i can help him get him on his feet and get a career built.  So he has lots of experience with psychedelics, perhaps he can chime in.  I'm really eager to try 5-Me0, but considering i awakened via self inquiry, well, i have no idea what would be in store.  I've already realized everything right?  Maybe the alien lurks in the backround.

Edited 16 minutes ago by Inliytened1

[LordFall]

14 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

i would really like if he put that together, but I guess he has the retreat waiting...which was heavily screened.  I wouldn't have even got past the initial screening.  But yeah, i have a friend from here who is coming to live with me, as soon as he can @JoshB. I told him come and i can help him get him on his feet and get a career built.  So he has lots of experience with psychedelics, perhaps he can chime in.  I'm really eager to try 5-Me0, but considering i awakened via self inquiry, well, i have no idea what would be in store.  I've already realized everything right?  Maybe the alien lurks in the backround.

If you've never taken psychedelics before the difference between theoretical awakening and a direct mystical experience is like reading about water in a novel vs being thrown in an arctic plunge.

You'll like it a lot, it feels like an orgasm of the soul. Or like watching James Bond movie where you realize when you connect all the dots you figure out somehow you were James Bond the whole time. 

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[Inliytened1]

4 minutes ago, LordFall said:

If you've never taken psychedelics before the difference between theoretical awakening and a direct mystical experience is like reading about water in a novel vs being thrown in an arctic plunge. You'll like it a lot, it feels like an orgasm of the soul. Or like watching James Bond movie where you realize that when you connect all the dots somehow you figure out you were James Bond the whole time. 

Who is your favorite Bond?  Connery?  I grew up with the new Bond but Connery is the man.  ( see I even forgot his name)