Relationship Based on Truth, Honesty & Vulnerability

[Miguel1]

10 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Do you think you are the best option of most women that you go on dates with? Often times being deep can simply be a defence mechanism for not having your shit together and using dating as a distraction from getting money in the bank and figuring out viable cashflow verticals that will allow us to life out our life purposes to their fullest potential.

Definitely not best from the standpoint of maximizing their stage orange desires (or even green for that matter), and definitely not for their desire to run away from themselves.

Quite the opposite actually.

And yes, you are correct. There is a word for it: it is called spiritual by-passing. I am very well aware of it, and this is not the issue for me here.

Think: why does Leo not date (based on last public information)? Why doesn’t the most developed beings date?

[LordFall]

42 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

Definitely not best from the standpoint of maximizing their stage orange desires (or even green for that matter), and definitely not for their desire to run away from themselves.

Quite the opposite actually.

And yes, you are correct. There is a word for it: it is called spiritual by-passing. I am very well aware of it, and this is not the issue for me here.

Think: why does Leo not date (based on last public information)? Why doesn’t the most developed beings date?

I think Leo has fallen into dating complacency and is using cope like "there are no spiritual women out there!" to avoid the hard emotional labor of finding someone compatible with his lifestyle and having to build back the social muscle to attract hot women that are also mentally healthy and compatible with an individual with an entrepreneurial mindset. 

I think reducing wanting to date a man that's financially secure and abundant to stage orange desire is a bit of a cop out. Dating is supposed to be about enriching eachother's lives and raising kids if you want to go down that path. Even just living a basic life without worrying too much about the rising costs of groceries and rent requires a pretty high income these days and age. If you want to add to that occasional vacations to see and explore the world and being able to take time off to explore life purposes without being stressed by work, you definitely need to make a lot of income in a quite flexible way and have decent savings. 

To me the way I think about is what kind of dating life can I have vs me the exact same but I actually spent a year to figure out my business and now have $10k+/month in disposable income. The difference is one version of me has to budget immensely and mostly does coffee/cheap drinks dates or walks in the park and have to juggle now having emotional partners and also still figuring out my business. The other version can now afford to spend thousands on his dating life a month and I already pull decently so I can jump to a rotation of 3-5 girls if I wanted to and also travel the world with them while working on my life purpose and helping them explore theirs. The difference is so drastic to me that I have been in a monk mode for a couple of years now to figure out my business and it's working slowly but surely.

To me that's also the difference between looking for acceptance vs actualizing your potential across different niches as a man. If I was my actualized self I would have more women then I'd know what to do with, I have built my life with wide access in mind so now only disposable income is the real bottleneck. It seems reductionistic but I would say 60% of men are in the same boat and 35% of men have already good disposable income but struggle with more technical game and dating strategy and 5% have truly unique issues if not even less then that. 

I'm more an introvert than you are and I still do a lot of socializing through my communities, it's not like I decided to be a hermit but I found a lot of strength and clarity in this path and the women I've been able to cultivate in my acquaintance circle and in my owned communities has jumped through the roof in these past few years. I don't know what you do for work and what your income is but I think focusing on that will yield more clarity and effectiveness over demanding acceptance and vulnerability from women when you are in the building phase. 

Edited 58 minutes ago by LordFall

[Miguel1]

34 minutes ago, LordFall said:

I think reducing wanting to date a man that's financially secure and abundant to stage orange desire is a bit of a cop out.

I did not say that.

I have to go to sleep now but I’ll get back more in-depth tomorrow.