How do you lock a woman in to where she isn't thinking about anyone else but you?

[Emerald]

19 hours ago, Inliytened1 said:

Yeah..if you have both - it's  a lock! 😀

You mainly need the one that has to do with emotions and intimacy... as that's where all the most positive feelings come from.

The other is just a nice-to-have.

[Inliytened1]

1 minute ago, Emerald said:

You mainly need the one that has to do with emotions and intimacy... as that's where all the most positive feelings come from.

The other is just a nice-to-have.

Well, you guys say that..and maybe for you it's true..but you are a special individual.  I have been to your channel.  Most women say that but they need that physical when it comes down to it first, then the emotional connection second. At least in the beginning.  Afterwards yes.  That's why the dating apps are so shallow. 

[Emerald]

3 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

Well, you guys say that..and maybe for you it's true..but you are a special individual.  I have been to your channel.  Most women say that but they need that physical when it comes down to it first, then the emotional connection second. At least in the beginning.  Afterwards yes.  That's why the dating apps are so shallow. 

That's a misunderstanding of what women generally find most interesting about sex.

Don't get me wrong... most women want equal orgasms. But that's not the driving factor for the connection or the main thing that motivates sexual desire.

My concern is that you over-index on the physical elements of sex and under-index on the emotional elements of sex, because you believe that women are motivated towards sex and connection in the same exact ways that a man is.

And that physicality-focus and orgasm-focus (to the exclusion of emotion-focus) can make sex something enjoyable for the man... but less fulfilling for the woman.

[Inliytened1]

14 hours ago, Emerald said:

That's a misunderstanding of what women generally find most interesting about sex.

Don't get me wrong... most women want equal orgasms. But that's not the driving factor for the connection or the main thing that motivates sexual desire.

My concern is that you over-index on the physical elements of sex and under-index on the emotional elements of sex, because you believe that women are motivated towards sex and connection in the same exact ways that a man is.

And that physicality-focus and orgasm-focus (to the exclusion of emotion-focus) can make sex something enjoyable for the man... but less fulfilling for the woman.

That's not what I have found.   What I have found is that women fall in love if you have the touch, and the words.   And just to let you know, actually guys don't establish the connection via sex.  Man is made to have sex with multiple women.  It takes something else for us to fall in love.  Maybe it's a combination of physical and emotional, but it's not the sex or the orgasm.  From what I have found, and again I have slept with over 100 women and had relationships with many, that you have it opposite

 

Edited 8 hours ago by Inliytened1

[JoshB]

3 hours ago, Inliytened1 said:

Stacy has told me that I'm the only one who can hit her spot.  The only one.  I'm not making this up.  Its the only reason she put up with my shenanigans for so long.  Now granted..she was married, but that's another matter.  So like I said it wasn't all me.

 

Crazy bro , our boys a home wrecker lol

Edited 21 hours ago by JoshB

[Inliytened1]

5 minutes ago, JoshB said:

 

Crazy bro , our boys a home wrecker lol

Haha never been a homewrecker myself.

[Inliytened1]

@JoshB Stacy is the mom in my dream haha. But good one.

[Inliytened1]

You guys are too young for this movie but watch Fast Times at Ridgemont High.  This scene will live in infamy forever 

 

Edited 16 hours ago by Inliytened1

[Inliytened1]

Reposted second video not first

[pursuitofspirit]

A better question is, "why do you want to lock a woman down at all?" 

She is going to think about other people, no matter what. It's natural to consider if you can have a better option. The only determining factor then is: are you attractive enough to her that she never acts on those thoughts?

[LordFall]

20 minutes ago, pursuitofspirit said:

A better question is, "why do you want to lock a woman down at all?" 

She is going to think about other people, no matter what. It's natural to consider if you can have a better option. The only determining factor then is: are you attractive enough to her that she never acts on those thoughts?

100%. The old way was to get married and if she cheats shun her from the community and ruin her life so other women and men in the community have a deep fear of adultery.

Nowadays we have a dating free market where divorce is not really a big deal so the best way is just to adopt a continuous self-development mindset and offer a lot of value to the people you're dating in a way that's hard to replicate 

[Inliytened1]

42 minutes ago, pursuitofspirit said:

A better question is, "why do you want to lock a woman down at all?" 

She is going to think about other people, no matter what. It's natural to consider if you can have a better option. The only determining factor then is: are you attractive enough to her that she never acts on those thoughts?

That misses the whole point.   So, by lock we have established means falling in love.  If they fall in love with you but wait for another option would that be love?

[LordFall]

3 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

That misses the whole point.   So, by lock we have established means falling in love.  If they fall in love with you but wait for another option would that be love?

Falling in love is so hard to define and quantify though. It can include codependent love, shallow short term infatuation like new relationship energy in polyamory, bipolar type love where someone loves you and then you offend them and they hate you 1 hour later, etc 

[Inliytened1]

Just now, LordFall said:

Falling in love is so hard to define and quantify though. It can include codependent love, shallow short term infatuation like new relationship energy in polyamory, bipolar type love where someone loves you and then you offend them and they hate you 1 hour later, etc 

What isn't hard to quantify.  Reality is hard to quantify.  It's an Absolute Relativity.   No. When you're in love as a woman I think it is obvious.   A magnetic force takes over.

[LordFall]

20 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

What isn't hard to quantify.  Reality is hard to quantify.  It's an Absolute Relativity.   No. When you're in love as a woman I think it is obvious.   A magnetic force takes over.

Sure so you mean infatuation then? A lot of times people "fall in love" with people that are toxic for them and it leads to messy breakups down the line. I don't think that's an admirable type of love.

I think true love includes both genuine infatuation with the other but also alignment with your goals and desires so you can keep dating them for long periods of time without predictable issues coming up to ruin it. 

[Inliytened1]

8 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Sure so you mean infatuation then? A lot of times people "fall in love" with people that are toxic for them and it leads to messy breakups down the line. I don't think that's an admirable type of love.

I think true love includes both genuine infatuation with the other but also alignment with your goals and desires so you can keep dating them for long periods of time without predictable issues coming up to ruin it. 

Well..this brings us back now.  What is it? Is it the touch? Is it the orgasm? Is it hitting the right spot? All I can tell you is you will have her completely locked in if you do it right. Nothing to fear.

[LordFall]

Nah I think the overall life alignment is the only true answer. Sex gives good emotions but women can be pretty ruthless about that if you stop offering value. Women are famous for inwardly breaking up with men months before the actual breakup happens.

There are famous examples of this in history. Queen Elizabeth I is famous for having her favorite lover Robert Devereux executed for example. 

Some women are more ruthless than others but in general I think intellectual compatibility is overlooked by people. If you guys talk and she realizes you aren't connecting with her needs and desires and she can't sway you verbally then she will start untangling herself from you. 

Edited 1 hour ago by LordFall

[Joshe]

It sounds like you don't just want infatuation, you want limerence. 

Limerence: A state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings but not primarily for a sexual relationship.

Like infatuation, this state has a shelf life because what causes the dopamine release comes to an end and stops producing the dopamine or whatever chemical cocktail.

Why does a song stop hitting after 50 plays? Same thing happens when "the fire dies" or "the spark is gone". What is that?

It's her wanting to experience all the experiences involved with discovery of you - closing the gap. Eventually, the gap closes and the infatuation ends. By that time, it's how you treat her, her temperament, and prospects that determine if she stays, but she will no longer be "locked in". 

This is just a fact of human psychology, lol. "Locking a woman in" is a fantasy. A nice working dick doesn't solve the problem. 

Also, it's interesting that, according to the literature, limerence/infatuation runs its course in about 18-36 months. That's just long enough to spawn a human and for the mother to acclimate to motherhood.

Edited 1 hour ago by Joshe

[LordFall]

@Joshe Thanks for breaking it down, that's what I mean yes. After the chemical cocktail is gone from her brain, the woman should be able to sit down and think about the relationship and think "holy FUCK I can't believe I found this man! My life with him is gonna be awesome!"

That's truly the only thing apart from Sharia law that will tie your woman to you basically forever. That's why a lot of conservative men like the idea of taking women's rights away, it stops them from having to compete against other men in the dating marketplace. 

Most men especially now with women dominating the job marketplace don't really offer that much value and I think that's central to the dating crisis. Men also have a cognitive bias towards rebellion and self-determination as opposed to bending down to the system and the laws of the universe, so it seems to be difficult for a lot of us to just work towards becoming a more valuable man. 

Edited 1 hour ago by LordFall

[Inliytened1]

7 minutes ago, Joshe said:

It sounds like you don't just want infatuation, you want limerence. 

Limerence: A state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings but not primarily for a sexual relationship.

Like infatuation, this state has a shelf life because what causes the dopamine release comes to an end and stops producing the dopamine or whatever chemical cocktail.

Why does a song stop hitting after 50 plays? Same thing happens when "the fire dies" or "the spark is gone". What is that?

It's her wanting to experience all the experiences involved with discovery of you - closing the gap. Eventually, the gap closes and the infatuation ends. By that time, it's her temperament and prospects that determine if she stays, but she will no longer be "locked in". 

This is just a fact of human psychology, lol. "Locking a woman in" is a fantasy. A nice working dick doesn't solve the problem. 

Also, it's interesting that, according to the literature, limerence/infatuation runs its course in about 18-36 months. That's just long enough to spawn a human and for the mother to acclimate to motherhood.

Well it has a long fucking shelf life in some cases.