How do you lock a woman in to where she isn't thinking about anyone else but you?

[LordFall]

Just now, Inliytened1 said:

And as we spoke before I don't think you were OK with another guy caressing her and going inside her. But. Correct me, if I'm wrong.  

I was indeed not into polyamory at that time correct. Once again big difference between open and closed polyamorous relationships. 

[Inliytened1]

8 minutes ago, LordFall said:

I was indeed not into polyamory at that time correct. Once again big difference between open and closed polyamorous relationships. 

Understood.   The science and beauty behind polyamory and love co-existing lies in a deep mutual understanding between two partners deeply in love, to know that sex with other partners bears no emotional commitment but is empty. With full devotion being towards their primary lover.

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[LordFall]

11 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

Understood.   The science and beauty behind polyamory and love co-existing lies in a deep mutual understanding between two partners deeply in love, to know that sex with other partners bears no emotional commitment but is empty. With full devotion being towards their primary lover.

That's one version of it. Another version of it is a polycule. So you have 2 girlfriends but nobody else sleeps with others outside of the relationship. Or more than 3 people. The whole idea is to not let society define how you can love someone. That is between you and the people you choose to live with. 

Once again we're back to sexual shame but there is nothing really that infuriates me further then that. If some man really tried to put boundaries on my love life I would have to kill him. If I lived in a muslim society I would start a revolution almost inevitably. 

[Inliytened1]

14 minutes ago, LordFall said:

That's one version of it. Another version of it is a polycule. So you have 2 girlfriends but nobody else sleeps with others outside of the relationship. Or more than 3 people. The whole idea is to not let society define how you can love someone. That is between you and the people you choose to live with. 

Once again we're back to sexual shame but there is nothing really that infuriates me further then that. If some man really tried to put boundaries on my love life I would have to kill him. If I lived in a muslim society I would start a revolution almost inevitably. 

Well you being bisexual I'm sure adds some complexity to that but let's go with that.  You have two girlfriends and no one can sleep with anyone else.   Sounds like the perfect life, until you want a third 😀

Can you restrain yourself if she presents herself.

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[LordFall]

50 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

Well you being bisexual I'm sure adds some complexity to that but let's go with that.  You have two girlfriends and no one can sleep with anyone else.   Sounds like the perfect life, until you want a third 😀

Can you restrain yourself if she presents herself.

In polyamory there is a concept called poly saturation which is the point where a polyamororous relationship reaches its limit with additional partners in terms of the time or emotional bandwidth to manage new relationships. 

I think if you engage in ethical non monogamy you will naturally hit that point where sleeping with new women causes no net benefit and starts to hinder your relationship even if you have two girlfriends at home that are genuinely okay with you sleeping with new women.

The cool thing is that each person and couple has their own polysaturation quota. For monogamous people it's 1 and for some polyamorous people it's 2 partners and for some it's 6 partners. It's beautiful quest to find that out IMO and I have no fucking clue what mine will be. I quite like the idea of a quad and having 3 girlfriends. I came to that idea before I truly embraced my bisexuality though so perhaps I will add 2 boyfriends to that and predict that my ideal polycule will feature 6 people total. Who knows will it hold up or will it be lower or higher? Find out on the next episode of LordFall's love life! 

Also people don't like talking about this but your material abundance plays a massive role in this. If you are broke and financially stressed then it'll be much harder to handle multiple partners. If you are rich and stressed and working all the time it'll be equally as hard. If you have a fat stack of cash and don't have to work for the rest of your life then I imagine it'll be much easier to focus on your dating life and just build a thriving household with multiple partners. So each person has to account for their financial and career realities and what that looks like for them over the next 30 years. 

For me I have been obsessed with building multiple streams of income and financial leverage for about 10 years now mostly for that reason but also for my own peace of mind and independence. It's finally starting to bear fruits so in the next few years I should be set to prioritize dating and have my personal finances taken care of.

AI is also a blessing for people in terms of work life balance and mastering it is a key to have a truly high quality dating life. I think that's a stage yellow insight that most will miss especially stage green folks that demonize AI. 

Edited 4 minutes ago by LordFall