How do you lock a woman in to where she isn't thinking about anyone else but you?

[Emerald]

19 hours ago, Inliytened1 said:

Yeah..if you have both - it's  a lock! 😀

You mainly need the one that has to do with emotions and intimacy... as that's where all the most positive feelings come from.

The other is just a nice-to-have.

[Inliytened1]

1 minute ago, Emerald said:

You mainly need the one that has to do with emotions and intimacy... as that's where all the most positive feelings come from.

The other is just a nice-to-have.

Well, you guys say that..and maybe for you it's true..but you are a special individual.  I have been to your channel.  Most women say that but they need that physical when it comes down to it first, then the emotional connection second. At least in the beginning.  Afterwards yes.  That's why the dating apps are so shallow. 

[Emerald]

3 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

Well, you guys say that..and maybe for you it's true..but you are a special individual.  I have been to your channel.  Most women say that but they need that physical when it comes down to it first, then the emotional connection second. At least in the beginning.  Afterwards yes.  That's why the dating apps are so shallow. 

That's a misunderstanding of what women generally find most interesting about sex.

Don't get me wrong... most women want equal orgasms. But that's not the driving factor for the connection or the main thing that motivates sexual desire.

My concern is that you over-index on the physical elements of sex and under-index on the emotional elements of sex, because you believe that women are motivated towards sex and connection in the same exact ways that a man is.

And that physicality-focus and orgasm-focus (to the exclusion of emotion-focus) can make sex something enjoyable for the man... but less fulfilling for the woman.

[Inliytened1]

14 hours ago, Emerald said:

That's a misunderstanding of what women generally find most interesting about sex.

Don't get me wrong... most women want equal orgasms. But that's not the driving factor for the connection or the main thing that motivates sexual desire.

My concern is that you over-index on the physical elements of sex and under-index on the emotional elements of sex, because you believe that women are motivated towards sex and connection in the same exact ways that a man is.

And that physicality-focus and orgasm-focus (to the exclusion of emotion-focus) can make sex something enjoyable for the man... but less fulfilling for the woman.

That's not what I have found.   What I have found is that women fall in love if you have the touch, and the words.   And just to let you know, actually guys don't establish the connection via sex.  Man is made to have sex with multiple women.  It takes something else for us to fall in love.  Maybe it's a combination of physical and emotional, but it's not the sex or the orgasm.  From what I have found, and again I have slept with over 100 women and had relationships with many, that you have it opposite

 

Edited 6 hours ago by Inliytened1

[JoshB]

3 hours ago, Inliytened1 said:

Stacy has told me that I'm the only one who can hit her spot.  The only one.  I'm not making this up.  Its the only reason she put up with my shenanigans for so long.  Now granted..she was married, but that's another matter.  So like I said it wasn't all me.

 

Crazy bro , our boys a home wrecker lol

Edited 20 hours ago by JoshB

[Inliytened1]

5 minutes ago, JoshB said:

 

Crazy bro , our boys a home wrecker lol

Haha never been a homewrecker myself.

[Inliytened1]

@JoshB Stacy is the mom in my dream haha. But good one.

[Inliytened1]

You guys are too young for this movie but watch Fast Times at Ridgemont High.  This scene will live in infamy forever 

 

Edited 14 hours ago by Inliytened1

[Inliytened1]

Reposted second video not first

[pursuitofspirit]

A better question is, "why do you want to lock a woman down at all?" 

She is going to think about other people, no matter what. It's natural to consider if you can have a better option. The only determining factor then is: are you attractive enough to her that she never acts on those thoughts?

[LordFall]

20 minutes ago, pursuitofspirit said:

A better question is, "why do you want to lock a woman down at all?" 

She is going to think about other people, no matter what. It's natural to consider if you can have a better option. The only determining factor then is: are you attractive enough to her that she never acts on those thoughts?

100%. The old way was to get married and if she cheats shun her from the community and ruin her life so other women and men in the community have a deep fear of adultery.

Nowadays we have a dating free market where divorce is not really a big deal so the best way is just to adopt a continuous self-development mindset and offer a lot of value to the people you're dating in a way that's hard to replicate 

[Inliytened1]

42 minutes ago, pursuitofspirit said:

A better question is, "why do you want to lock a woman down at all?" 

She is going to think about other people, no matter what. It's natural to consider if you can have a better option. The only determining factor then is: are you attractive enough to her that she never acts on those thoughts?

That misses the whole point.   So, by lock we have established means falling in love.  If they fall in love with you but wait for another option would that be love?

[LordFall]

3 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

That misses the whole point.   So, by lock we have established means falling in love.  If they fall in love with you but wait for another option would that be love?

Falling in love is so hard to define and quantify though. It can include codependent love, shallow short term infatuation like new relationship energy in polyamory, bipolar type love where someone loves you and then you offend them and they hate you 1 hour later, etc 

[Inliytened1]

Just now, LordFall said:

Falling in love is so hard to define and quantify though. It can include codependent love, shallow short term infatuation like new relationship energy in polyamory, bipolar type love where someone loves you and then you offend them and they hate you 1 hour later, etc 

What isn't hard to quantify.  Reality is hard to quantify.  It's an Absolute Relativity.   No. When you're in love as a woman I think it is obvious.   A magnetic force takes over.

[LordFall]

20 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

What isn't hard to quantify.  Reality is hard to quantify.  It's an Absolute Relativity.   No. When you're in love as a woman I think it is obvious.   A magnetic force takes over.

Sure so you mean infatuation then? A lot of times people "fall in love" with people that are toxic for them and it leads to messy breakups down the line. I don't think that's an admirable type of love.

I think true love includes both genuine infatuation with the other but also alignment with your goals and desires so you can keep dating them for long periods of time without predictable issues coming up to ruin it. 

[Inliytened1]

8 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Sure so you mean infatuation then? A lot of times people "fall in love" with people that are toxic for them and it leads to messy breakups down the line. I don't think that's an admirable type of love.

I think true love includes both genuine infatuation with the other but also alignment with your goals and desires so you can keep dating them for long periods of time without predictable issues coming up to ruin it. 

Well..this brings us back now.  What is it? Is it the touch? Is it the orgasm? Is it hitting the right spot? All I can tell you is you will have her completely locked in if you do it right. Nothing to fear.