Most Dating Books/Teachers Aren't Exceptional

[Ulax]

6 hours ago, Jirh said:

Me too, somehow, but it aged me backwards 😂

loool

[something_else]

1 hour ago, AION said:

If we use that definition, everybody has some bias including women. Because I don't see women looking at men from men's POV

Yea, that was the exact point being made. Most people are incredibly biased. That's the default. 

Being wise involves being acutely aware of your own biases, not denying their existence or claiming that you're above them. That is delusion.

Bias is incredibly subtle and tricky. It grabs the balls of your rational mind and puts them in a vice, then forces it to produce an endless stream of very logical reasons for why your biases are the right biases.

Edited 1 hour ago by something_else

[AION]

3 minutes ago, something_else said:

Yea, that was the exact point being made. Most people are incredibly biased. That's the default. 

Being wise involves being acutely aware of your own biases, not denying their existence or claiming that you're above them. That is delusion.

Bias is incredibly subtle and tricky. It grabs the balls of your rational mind and puts them in a vice, then forces it to produce an endless stream of very logical reasons for why your biases are the right biases.

Everybody has a bias for survival. And it is ok to know that and also ok to act upon that. So if somebody comes inside of your room and tries to rape your ass it is ok to defend yourself and act upon your bias for survival. I think you guys are conflating a lot of things. 

[Miguel1]

14 minutes ago, AION said:

So if somebody comes inside of your room and tries to rape your ass it is ok to defend yourself and act upon your bias for survival.

The problem comes when you act this way even in a normal comfortable situation, because your mind is just that biased.

[Ulax]

11 hours ago, Zen LaCroix said:

I noticed that in the forum in general a patternI have noticed for months you calling people immature. What is your meaning of immature?

It is just part of his development he is going through.

[something_else]

27 minutes ago, AION said:

Everybody has a bias for survival. And it is ok to know that and also ok to act upon that. So if somebody comes inside of your room and tries to rape your ass it is ok to defend yourself and act upon your bias for survival. I think you guys are conflating a lot of things. 

To a degree. Yes, bias can be useful in a genuine survival situation.

But if someone breaks into your room, you have direct evidence that person is dangerous. That is completely different from being generally prejudiced against men because one might hypothetically attack you. Or being generally prejudice against women because the only value you see in them is as being meat to stick your dick in.

Some biases being useful does not make all biases justified. Context matters a lot. In the vast majority of cases (e.g. the bias you show on this form towards women) your survival is not threatened enough to justify acting on bias instead of truth and understanding.

[Jirh]

1 hour ago, AION said:

Everybody has a bias for survival. And it is ok to know that and also ok to act upon that. So if somebody comes inside of your room and tries to rape your ass it is ok to defend yourself and act upon your bias for survival. I think you guys are conflating a lot of things. 

They are saying you are the one who is trying to rape their ass.