Women are attracted to emotional guys

[Someone here]

Most women are attracted to emotional intimacy and romance . Actually the more feminine and beautiful she is the more she is attracted towards Emotional guys . Let me explain what I mean by emotional guys . Women aren’t actually( in real life )attracted to super masculine dudes who are just like lions in terms of physical strength and personality . She wants a “cute guy”. Not necessarily very handsome but they do care about looks to a bare minimum degree ..the guy has to be good looking . She is super attracted to Witt and sense of humor..they find that irresistible in guys . And finally romance . Most women are attracted to romance and sweet romantic talk . And romantic cinematic Situations..like kneeling down to her and presenting a rose to her and calling her “darling “. They are super attracted to these things . They are actually not attracted to super masculine and emotionally crude men . I feel like I want to share this since a lot of young guys are struggling with figuring out what attracts women and how can they become a type of person who is attractive to a woman . This is my opinion of course. And I don’t have any issue being disagreed with from guys who have lots of experience with women .In my opinion ..many women are drawn less to emotional toughness and more to emotional connection. By “emotional” I don’t mean being dramatic  but I mean being warm..expressive and funny..And especially romantic.  Despite all the jokes about romantic movies  ..I think many women genuinely enjoy thoughtful gestures and affectionate words. A flower..a heartfelt compliment ..or simply saying “You look beautiful today” often has more impact than trying to act like an untouchable alpha male.

Ironically ..many men think they have to become colder..tougher ..and less expressive to be attractive. I suspect the opposite is often true. Confidence is attractive..but so are kindness and  emotional intelligence playfulness and the ability to make her laugh.

 

 

Edited 4 hours ago by Someone here

[Joseph Maynor]

Women are attracted to entertaining guys.  

[Someone here]

4 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

Women are attracted to entertaining guys.  

I agree . Humor is a facet to this as well. A very introverted and shy guy who talks too little and a guy who is so edgy and strict are both very uninteresting to most women . They want a delicate balance between playfulness and confidence.

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[Leo Gura]

Of course. Because women are emotional creatures. They don't care about anything else.

But still. They are attracted to raw masculinity too. They will sleep with stone-cold men just because of the masculine vibes. But then later they will regret it because that stone-cold guy will not be capable of intimacy, which she truly craves.

Who women sleep with and who they stay with are different things. They will sleep with a Terminator but he's not boyfriend material.

Women are looking for a paradox: a stone-cold guy who is also very intimate and emotionally stimulating.

Edited 4 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Joseph Maynor]

Some women are very masculine too.  Just because someone is a woman doesn't mean they have the stereotypical feminine personality.  

[AION]

It is about polarity which causes attraction. As women age they become more masculine so that is why they want a feminine guy who is emotional, soft and easy to handle. 

[bazera]

25 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Women are looking for a paradox: a stone-cold guy who is also very intimate and emotionally stimulating.

So, as a guy, what should you be prioritizing when learning how to attract feminine girls? 

Becoming more musculine, or getting in touch with your emotional and humorous side, developing capacities to be emotionally intimate with a woman.

I guess both.

[Joseph Maynor]

1 hour ago, Someone here said:

I agree . Humor is a facet to this as well. A very introverted and shy guy who talks too little and a guy who is so edgy and strict are both very uninteresting to most women . They want a delicate balance between playfulness and confidence.

This is a great pointer IMO.  

[Leo Gura]

11 minutes ago, bazera said:

So, as a guy, what should you be prioritizing when learning how to attract feminine girls? 

Becoming more musculine, or getting in touch with your emotional and humorous side, developing capacities to be emotionally intimate with a woman.

I guess both.

Pickup/game trains up both.

You need to masculine but not in a way where you are verbally and emotionally unexpressive.  You can be stoic in certain ways, but not in your facial and verbal expression. You need to be able to hold emotionally stimulating conversation. Logical conversional is what kills attraction.

But you can be masculine in the other ways.

Bottom line: Don't be so masculine that you're boring, robotic, and serious all the time.

Edited 3 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Jirh]

It's not either or. You have to be able to hold both sides, not simultaneously, but at the appropriate time and place.

Being a simp and being a dick are two sides of the same coin. They both can spark attraction at first, but they cannot maintain it or take it to the next level.

You have to be grounded in your masculinity and lead from the masculine core that you have. Only then you can show emotions. Because emotions without the masculine container are just more chaos to the feminine. Strength comes first, then a hint of vulnerability.

Women need that masculine container to hold their emotional system and allow it to breathe freely. They delegate the responsibility of logical thinking for that masculine container. That's what inspires trust, emotional and relational safety, which is the most attractive thing. Not simping.

However, in desiring this, many get tricked and ignore their intuition and then fall for a simp or a jerk.

[Someone here]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

Of course. Because women are emotional creatures. They don't care about anything else.

But still. They are attracted to raw masculinity too. They will sleep with stone-cold men just because of the masculine vibes. But then later they will regret it because that stone-cold guy will not be capable of intimacy, which she truly craves.

Who women sleep with and who they stay with are different things. They will sleep with a Terminator but he's not boyfriend material.

Women are looking for a paradox: a stone-cold guy who is also very intimate and emotionally stimulating.

Exactly. I wanted to add that too . Obviously too much sappiness is a huge turn off . We have to balance it with maturity ..confidence.. and making her feel safe because she is with a man for real . It’s difficult for a woman to marry or be in a long term relationship with a man who lacks those things . Just like men demand a loyal woman if he is planning to marry her . These are like at the top of the check list . Hopefully any guy who’s got his basic life together can possess these qualities. But these qualities are not enough to attract a woman in a man . He also needs to be the don and have a feminine romantic vibe to him.

Edited 2 hours ago by Someone here

[Someone here]

@Jirh exactly that’s what I just said now . We said the same thing at the same moment lol.

[Schizophonia]

The women I feel most drawn to are those who are emotionally similar to me.
 

[Raze]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

Of course. Because women are emotional creatures. They don't care about anything else.

But still. They are attracted to raw masculinity too. They will sleep with stone-cold men just because of the masculine vibes. But then later they will regret it because that stone-cold guy will not be capable of intimacy, which she truly craves.

Who women sleep with and who they stay with are different things. They will sleep with a Terminator but he's not boyfriend material.

Women are looking for a paradox: a stone-cold guy who is also very intimate and emotionally stimulating.

Except they’d be more likely to sleep with the emotional guy and regret it because he’s exiting but unpredictable. The masculine guy would be more logical and mature.

[Ulax]

My opinion is they are attracted to high-value guys who's value they see as relatable and attainable. Or you can also say trust instead of R&A.

Value is mainly determined by what made sense in caveman time as value. And then life experiences/ social conditioning adds a unique twist to what value ultimately looks like for the girl.

Examples of cavemen value are:

- Competence, power & influence, social status

And things like humor are attractive in so far as they imply you have one of these caveman values. I.e. humor implies competence of intelligence. Further its an honest signal you're relaxed enough to have fun which implies social status and competence, as if you had had terrible social experiences you wouldn't be relaxed enough to be humorous, or feel safe enough to attempt it.

Trust works the same as value in this way.

But these emotional things you describe I'd mainly class as in the trust part of the equation.

And, these emotional things you list only make her happy if they see him as a high-value guy who they trust. So, if she smiles receiving a flower, she isn't smiling because its romantic. Its because its a positive thing occurring between her and a high-value guy who she trusts, or she's smiling because its bumping the trust levels up.

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[Schizophonia]

Surrendering to your emotional reality is precisely what will make you masculine.The impression of stoicism comes precisely from being absorbed by one's emotional world.

If it is in fact emotional crushing, it may superficially resemble masculinity from a certain point of view, but it is actually feminizing since the source is unconsciously castration anxiety. We can talk about neurodivergence, obsessive neurosis…

 

[Leo Gura]

16 minutes ago, Raze said:

Except they’d be more likely to sleep with the emotional guy and regret it because he’s exiting but unpredictable. The masculine guy would be more logical and mature.

Yeah, but attraction ain't logical.

[Schizophonia]

2 minutes ago, Ulax said:

My opinion is they are attracted to high-value guys who's value they see as relatable and attainable. Or you can also say trust instead of R&A.

 

High value according to her values *

[Ulax]

3 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

High value according to her values *

?

If you mean that what is high-value in the context of female attraction isn't an objective status signal for men, then I agree. Whenever I say high-value guy I mean it in the context of what female attraction regards as a high-value guy.

[Schizophonia]

3 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Yeah, but attraction ain't logical.

Thinking that the "logical and mature" guy is better is begging the question.

It's a coping mechanism because you identify with that profile; instead of admitting that you're putting the wrong shape into the wrong hole, you tell yourself the toy is stupid anyway.

And conversely since you’ve internalized the same values regarding women you once declared that your dick generally didn't go for the "good girls," but for the crazy ones. But it makes sense that you're drawn to crazy women; your persona is built for it. Who else but a crazy woman would have any use for a tedious guru with a bald spot and rolled-up shirt sleeves.

The libidinal machine precedes value judgments.