Are You Aligned In Life?

[Wilhelm44]

2 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

This thread is not just about me and my dating problems.

How is everyone doing?

If this remains just as my topic, then we will move it to the dating sub-forum.

My apologies, I misread ur OP.

[Miguel1]

2 minutes ago, Wilhelm44 said:

I could be wrong, but I think if there was a recipe for this whole thing, it seems like the closer we can get that number to a 10, and just lose ourselves in life for a while without even thinking about any of this, the more fertile the ground becomes for love to surprise us, seemingly out of nowhere.

And as I said earlier, this is based on purely wishful thinking. Lots of people live like this and find no one.

As a naturally ambitious and extroverted person, I like to be proactive and take actions towards what I want.

[Miguel1]

2 minutes ago, Wilhelm44 said:

My apologies, I misread ur OP.

No problems, you have not done anything wrong yet. I appreciate you trying to help me.

[Wilhelm44]

19 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

And as I said earlier, this is based on purely wishful thinking. Lots of people live like this and find no one

I just need to clear up the misunderstanding here, and then I'm done. I'm not saying that one should be passive or do wishful thinking.

The point was simply this: The closer one gets to being completely okay with it happening or not happening, the easier it becomes for life/love to bring as that so called unicorn moment. Much love.

[WonderSeeker]

2 hours ago, Miguel1 said:

I have been doing much more socializing than I had planned for this summer. I did eventually reach a point now, where I am quite burned off from all the social games, superficiality, fakery and manipulations.

I follow you on IG and you seem to have a solid social life. You look happy.

Is the happiness short-lived or fake, and that's why you want to align with something more true to you? Just curious 

2 hours ago, Miguel1 said:

And so, I was inspired to create this thread to open a space for you to reflect:

”Am I aligned with what I am doing in life right now?”

”Is this what I want?”

”Is this headed to where I want my life to go?”

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How are you doing?

Honestly I am very aligned as far as career goes. Moved halfway around the world and am enjoying the slow process of soaking up new cultures.

Of course, there are some areas I'd like to work on. For one, getting back to home-cooked meals and eating whole foods. Also working out and taking care of other health things.

But otherwise the path I'm on is better than I expected 3 years ago. There's a lot of potential. Going to make a bigger post about it at some point 

Edited 1 hour ago by WonderSeeker

[Miguel1]

20 minutes ago, Wilhelm44 said:

The point was simply this: The closer one gets to being completely okay with it happening or not happening, the easier it becomes for life/love to bring as that so called unicorn moment. 

I agree. But at the same time it is not easy to be completely okay with something that is like a basic need.

It’s almost like saying: ”as long as you are okay with not having any money, then money will come!”

[Miguel1]

20 minutes ago, WonderSeeker said:

I follow you on IG and you seem to have a solid social life. You look happy.

Is the happiness short-lived or fake, and that's why you want to align with something more true to you? Just curious 

I have a bunch of friends, lots of them girls, they give me a ton of social proof.

But to manage all of that requires a lot of manuevering and mind games.

I am not deep down happy because it goes against my highest values, which is honesty, truth, integrity.

So yes, the happiness is short-lived. It’s fun for a while but not deeply fulfilling. Also, I can’t see it being sustainable, so it feels like a whole lotta waste of time. I will lose / let go of this social circle that I have built sooner or later. And sooner than later, as my focus is on way higher things than playing social games.

Edited 1 hour ago by Miguel1

[Miguel1]

20 minutes ago, WonderSeeker said:

I follow you on IG and you seem to have a solid social life. You look happy.

Is the happiness short-lived or fake, and that's why you want to align with something more true to you? Just curious 

Honestly I am very aligned as far as career goes. Moved halfway around the world and am enjoying the slow process of soaking up new cultures.

Of course, there are some areas I'd like to work on. For one, getting back to home-cooked meals and eating whole foods. Also working out and taking care of other health things.

But otherwise the path I'm on is better than I expected 3 years ago. There's a lot of potential. Going to make a bigger post about it at some point 

Great to hear, thanks for sharing!

[Human Mint]

I am planning my next social phase contrary to you. My biggest spiritual pursuit was after being socially depleted. Now I've run out of gas. I need those social shenanigans.

Also I am currently working a lot in my career, so I've had to put aside a lot of the social aspect.

Edited 30 minutes ago by Human Mint

[UnbornTao]

2 hours ago, Miguel1 said:

Can you make this simpler to understand? What are you trying to say?

No.