Are You Aligned In Life?

[Elliott]

Let love in ❤️ 💙 💜 💖 💗 💘 ❤️ 💙  be moral!!!!! Hell, marry 4 of them, WWJD. Strength in numbers, love is infinite. 👰‍♂ 👰‍♀ 🤵‍♂️👰‍♀ 👰‍♀ 

Edited 59 minutes ago by Elliott

[zurew]

48 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

I have not said I am tier 2. There are other ways to measure development, than just Spiral Dynamics.

But certainly I have some tier 2 traits in me.

You didnt explicitly say you are tier 2,but you implied it here (where you layed down who would be a good match for you). 

2 hours ago, Miguel1 said:

With a green person, it would be even less different, but still different, altho it should be doable. Would I be the happiest? Probably not.

But in any case, I can grant that there are multiple  metrics on which you can  score higher than most 25 year old girls. (Although, again, depending on which metrics we use, we can achieve this for almost anyone)

The error you make, in my opinion, is picking and emphasizing the metrics on which you might score higher than most 25-year-old women, then creating a relationship standard from that (that's difficult to satisfy based on those metrics) and equating that with some objective development (where development is just mostly defined by having your standards).

The reason this is an issue is because if you think most of your relationship standards come from your level of development, then you are in a difficult position unless you believe that reaching a higher level of development will solve the problem. 

On the other hand, if you acknowledge that your relationship standards are largely shaped by many other factors (not just your level of development) - then you might leave room for questioning and changing some of those standards.

 

If it turns out that your standards cant be changed, then you are in a fucked position -- especially if those standards prevent you from connecting deeply enough with other people. ( But again , that seems to be an issue for most people right now, and its largely related to the meaning crisis)

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[Miguel1]

@zurew It is as obvious as day, that an average 25 year old isn’t nearly as capable of being as unbiased, as objective, as selfless, as truthful and honest, as mature in their behaviour, as empathetic, as capable of thinking big picture, systems, nature of reality as me.

It is obvious that an average 25 year old is way more stuck in ego survival than I am.

It is straight up disrespectful to state otherwise. I have been doing this work for 15 years, as one my top priorities.

A normie cannot compare.

Don’t take this work for granted. Actually go out and talk to people, you will notice that most people are simply unconscious survival zombies. It will make you realize how alone you are in this world.

[emil1234]

i can recommend practicing authentic relating, attending tantra / consciousness festivals. it is possible to socialize almost without any fakery or facade, you just need the right community

[Miguel1]

1 minute ago, emil1234 said:

i can recommend practicing authentic relating, attending tantra / consciousness festivals. it is possible to socialize almost without any fakery or facade, you just need the right community

There is one spiritual festival here in Finland. It’s relatively popular. It’s literally just conformity. You can’t talk with them about anything authentic, cuz they are all high on their bliss.

The more we niche down into serious spiritual events and retreats, the creepier it gets to go there to approach people romantically.

And finally, in these more serious spaces, there is virtually no one I find attractive.

[Joseph Maynor]

@Miguel1 I didn't know you lived in Finland.  That is amazing.