Easiest "pick up" lines, share your own

[Zenterus]

@Ulax I'm totally with you when it comes to what you said about being in a catch-22.

Advanced guys who have gone through the journey and came out with a strong frame and strong subcommunications often forget that they first had to go through the journey to get the reference experiences that eventually made that shift for them.

I have a friend that I'm sort of "mentoring" unofficially. He's younger by 4-5 years, and he's been in the game for 3 years (compared to my 10). When I go out with him, I can clearly see all his low value behaviours, his neediness emanating from every pore of his body and how his behaviour massively emphasizes his low self esteem even though he studies game a lot (big fan of Julien, this guy). However, I often have to hold myself back from giving him advice such as what @Valach states above because it's just not useful to him. You can't skip steps on the journey.

It's easy for us to speak about letting it go, trusting in yourself, having self esteem and a sense of love for yourself, but those are all lessons we learned *through* pick up and he has to go on his journey.

So whenever I'm with this friend, I nudge him in the right direction by asking him super deep questions such as "Why are you in the game? Like, what are you hoping to truly get out of this? Is there a way to fulfill that need for yourself?" Or "Why did you approach her like that? Like, how are you perceiving yourself in comparison to the girl, that inspired that approach, you think?" And more such questions.

But I also do give him technical advice too. Because, again, @Valach, @Miguel1 and I, probably have solid subcommunications because we internalized attractive behaviours through massive repetition and also positive reinforcement from the women. So, ignoring all that history and telling him to "just let go and be yourself" is unhelpful at best and condescending at worst. So yeah, I will check him on his subcommunications, I will let him know when he is being too polarizing and unrelatable, or too reactive, etc.

You have to meet people where they're at.

Edited yesterday at 06:53 PM by Zenterus

[cle103]

Hey, are you my Tinder date? Oh, you're not Sarah, what's your name?

You know what's crazy? I was about to wear the exact same outfit tonight... think it would've looked a bit better on me tho. (If she's wearing something super feminine). 

Did you just check out my ass? 

You're cute, almost as cute as me. 

Damn, I love your (tattoo, piercing, dress, blue hair... whatever I like about her). 

[Valach]

3 hours ago, Zenterus said:

Why are you in the game? Like, what are you hoping to truly get out of this? Is there a way to fulfill that need for yourself?"

This is an excellent question and I hint on that often as well. However if people answered to that truthfully and really fulfilled that for themselfs, they would probably stop gaming. Or at the very least went out way less. So again, a catch 22 in a way.

[LordFall]

Hey you're cute, what are you up to

I'm not very good at indirect game so I like to convey interest right away so this line is both casual but it screens quite quickly whether they're receptive or not. 

[Zenterus]

57 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Hey you're cute, what are you up to

I'm not very good at indirect game so I like to convey interest right away so this line is both casual but it screens quite quickly whether they're receptive or not. 

Hey brother! I totally get the discomfort that comes with going more indirect. It is something you can improve on with practise -- which is worth it cause it tends to yield better results long term -- but if thats not really your stylr, going direct is totally valid as well.

In my humble opinion though, this opener will disqualify you from most really attractive girls (which i know thats your target demographic based on previous posts of yours).

If you're gonna go direct, I suggest you come up with a more unique opener. 

Some examples are:

"Hey [pause] I like your face ;)"

"Excuse me.. I have to get going but I need to know: Who. Are. You??" [Mostly subcommunicated intention]

"Hey you. You're fucking adorable, you know that? Who are you?"

"You can't just walk past me looking like that."

 

These are just quick examples off the top of my head. Obviously come up with your own that are congruent to you. But the "hey you're cute" opener is too overused, too generic, shows very little personality and lumps you up with all the other "chodes" that girls reject on a daily basis.

[LordFall]

I think you're right that it's worth experimenting. I don't really do a lot of cold approach at the moment but I can see some of those working. When I warm myself up though after a while from not doing it I try to keep it as simple as possible to not overthink it and just get some reps and momentum in so I just use the hey, you're cute line as it works good enough.

"Hey I saw you while I was walking and wanted to say hi. What are you up to?" is another classic one that's hard to fuck up and usually works. 

[something_else]

1 hour ago, LordFall said:

I think you're right that it's worth experimenting. I don't really do a lot of cold approach at the moment but I can see some of those working. When I warm myself up though after a while from not doing it I try to keep it as simple as possible to not overthink it and just get some reps and momentum in so I just use the hey, you're cute line as it works good enough.

"Hey I saw you while I was walking and wanted to say hi. What are you up to?" is another classic one that's hard to fuck up and usually works. 

Agreed. I feel like cheesy pickup lines are not that great. If you are funny you can improvise them on the spot and they may work quite well, but I suspect many dudes with pre-planned 'funny' pickup lines are likely coming across as a bit weird, not charming.

I've never really done much approaching outside of nightclubs or bars to be fair, but in bars/clubs I always just found some way to start a normal conversation. "Hey, how's your night going?" was my go to. I believe in myself enough to know that if I start a conversation with a girl it'll naturally go somewhere interesting, I don't need to force it. And if it doesn't then it wasn't meant to be.

[Valach]

Yeah, I am also fan of simple "lines" like @something_else

I remember one time when I was with my "pickup coach", I was approaching with the rule of me not allowing to say anything except to answer questions I got. So I would just walk up to a woman and say "hi" and then we would stare at each other for 20 seconds before they would say some question I could answer. It sounds quite weird, but it was unreal to see how many woman literally melted from this.

[enchanted]

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DZ5nO3Wh8Y9/

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DZ3WC4fB7Dd/

This one is good: "if you can make me laugh you can get my number" and then just laugh at the first word. 

Edited 7 hours ago by enchanted

[LordFall]

1 hour ago, Valach said:

Yeah, I am also fan of simple "lines" like @something_else

I remember one time when I was with my "pickup coach", I was approaching with the rule of me not allowing to say anything except to answer questions I got. So I would just walk up to a woman and say "hi" and then we would stare at each other for 20 seconds before they would say some question I could answer. It sounds quite weird, but it was unreal to see how many woman literally melted from this.

I’m down to try that I like game exercises they teach you a lot about dynamics. What I get from what you’re saying is it you look good and have cocky eye contact she’ll find herself qualifying and asking the questions which is a good frame to have in cold approach. Worst you can do is ask boring questions right after another and bore the girl.

Women are comfortable talking about themselves but they need to be challenged and intrigued to really have a memorable interaction. 

[Valach]

5 minutes ago, LordFall said:

I’m down to try that I like game exercises they teach you a lot about dynamics. What I get from what you’re saying is it you look good and have cocky eye contact she’ll find herself qualifying and asking the questions which is a good frame to have in cold approach. Worst you can do is ask boring questions right after another and bore the girl.

Women are comfortable talking about themselves but they need to be challenged and intrigued to really have a memorable interaction. 

Yes. And I am relaxed, that is the most importatnt part. The core of this "exercise" was that there was a lot of akward silence, obviously. And I had to get okay with that.

[Miguel1]

1 hour ago, Valach said:

Yeah, I am also fan of simple "lines" like @something_else

Me too. I love them simple lines most of the time. I let my energy and presence do the speaking. I also love walking up to a girls and just smiling and saying nothing until they open me.

[Valach]

1 hour ago, Miguel1 said:

Me too. I love them simple lines most of the time. I let my energy and presence do the speaking. I also love walking up to a girls and just smiling and saying nothing until they open me.

Its always amusing how they come up with the most boring questions ever 😀

[Miguel1]

2 minutes ago, Valach said:

Its always amusing how they come up with the most boring questions ever 😀

Girls are naturals at game, until they have to practice game Consciously, then they are fucking terrible at it 

[Yimpa]

3 hours ago, Miguel1 said:

I let my energy and presence do the speaking. I also love walking up to a girls and just smiling and saying nothing until they open me.

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