Girl Power is a lie

[aurum]

1 hour ago, Hojo said:

@aurum Yes it is, you sit there till your brain unravels itself.

You are still going to experience normal human emotions.

Doesn't matter how much spiritual work you think you've done.

[Hojo]

@aurum No the end goal is staring at a screen just feeling one emotion. You experiencing anything other than the emotion of bliss is showing you something you need to work on. Because you arent in control of any of it happening to you, until you realize you are. When you realize you are you just pick the best one.

Edited 14 hours ago by Hojo

[Monster Energy]

37 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

ROFL thanks, I HATE IT 

Need a couple more em-dashes. A sprinkle more "it's this, not that" while we quietly smuggle in how we are noticing what others miss 

You got crazy weird jukes my man 

The fact that you can identify me from a few em dashes and a questionable analogy is honestly more concerning than anything I’ve written.

🤪

[Monster Energy]

42 minutes ago, LordFall said:

I think you have to be careful with sweeping generalizations. Some women operate in scarcity and just give two handed compliments and live in competition. Some others are happy for their friends doing well and just want to support other women and perhaps humans in general. 

I don't think it's healthy to be jaded about human nature. It doesn't make you a loser to believe in the goodness in people. Quite the opposite as long as it's not blind naivety. 

One of us is wrong.

It’s probably not me.

 

[Etherial Cat]

16 hours ago, Monster Energy said:

Girls hate other girls who are prettier than them. If you can’t understand this, then you’re truly a loser.

 

The real thing you've got to look at is that girls and women want to feel loved and attract positive experiences that help get their needs met.

Yes, being physically attractive can generate envy as a means of obtaining for oneself what is desired, but that is only a surface-level motivation. The root cause is that she wants to feel loved, cared for, and seen, and there is much more to it than physical attractiveness alone.

So what you are seeing is an obvious pain point, but it's just the tree that hides the forest. If she is well loved, feels good about herself, and understands that physical attractiveness is temporary, she will have the wisdom to accept herself as she is and get her core needs met in other ways.

Physical attractiveness is not the holy grail. It is not a solid enough foundation on its own, and it comes with its own set of problems. Why obsess over it when there are life circumstances and forms of companionship in which attraction is much more holistic, and where sexual attraction can endure far beyond one's outward appearance?

Sisterhood relies on a whole range of emotions, including love, compassion, nurturing and understanding. Many women develop an early dislike of objectification and commodification, and often have an ambivalent relationship with the power of physical attraction. I think that helps mitigate envy, because there is nothing more contrary to genuine love than wondering whether you are valued for your body or for who you are as a person. People want to be loved both unconditionally and conditionally at the same time. Feeling loved conditionally is terrifying because in this life, the relative will give you up and downs and conditional love is all about maintaining the highs which is impossible.

[Xonas Pitfall]

Humans, in general, regardless of gender, can get competitive over potential mates. If there's a handsome guy who might steal your girl, you may become competitive, hateful, jealous, emotional, sensitive, impulsive, or you might grow resentful, passive, or dismissive toward the girl. You might consciously or subconsciously try to paint the other guy as somehow inferior, whether in your own mind or in hers. That's more of a personality-based defense mechanism, but either way, you usually won't just easily and gracefully accept the situation.

Just as it might be shocking that a sweet girl could have these feelings, it can also be surprising that a stereotypically "masculine," macho, strong, blunt man can become very sensitive and emotional over the same thing.

These are human feelings. Gender isn't nearly as impactful as we're often led to believe by media portrayals. These are feelings that both men and women can be sensitive about. The problem is that society often frames the same emotions differently based on gender. When a person doesn't fit that stereotype, people may see it as shocking, deceptive, or somehow out of character.

You can equally say:

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I hate this huge facade that girls put up. Many people think they’re angels when it comes to judging others.

I hate this "macho" facade that many guys put up. People often assume their decisions are driven by pure logic, pragmatism, or an unwavering commitment to truth. In reality, many of those decisions are influenced by personal bias and sensitive emotions, just like anyone else's. Instead of admitting they're jealous, insecure, hurt, afraid, or threatened, they will reframe those feelings as competition, hierarchy, strength, rationality, or principle, and then use that framing to justify their trash behavior.

And then people might say, "Well, they don't have a choice. Society forces men into those roles."

But the same applies to women. All of us are shaped by social expectations, often without even realizing it. We absorb norms, stereotypes, and roles through conformity and social pressure.

That doesn't mean we should keep reinforcing them.

To me, these gendered expectations are part of a social game that deserves to be questioned rather than blindly followed.

Edited 6 hours ago by Xonas Pitfall

[LordFall]

9 hours ago, Monster Energy said:

One of us is wrong.

It’s probably not me.

 

Your position is obviously quite shallow. Feel free to input your own thread into an LLM and I'm sure it'll point out the shortcomings in your viewpoint. I'm not a psychologist but usually when someone projects that everyone else must have shallow and toxic relationships that's more a reflection of their own life than a truthful view of reality.

Obviously there's some truth in what you said but half-truths are some of the most dangerous generalizations you can make. 

Edited 4 hours ago by LordFall