superficiality of fame

[Olaf]

I think everyone consciously or unconsciously has a belief that fame makes you happy or at least feel successful. As someone who performs for many people every week, I can tell you that being famous is so superficial. It's like your parents applauding for you flushing down the toilet, if that makes any sense. Like good boy or girl, you flushed the toilet, now we clap for you. Now the worst thing is that nobody knows you truly, so they only know you from your performance, so they clap for your performance, that doesn´t mean they love you, it doesn´t even mean they like you, it means just an applause for whatever you do.

Now even if you made people cry in a full stadium, that doesn´t make them know you at all, its just a projection of who you are that is misplaced. They put you on a pedestal, when you're just a normal guy or girl. So truely its always on a very superficial level and it doesn´t even feel like its you, even if it is you, even if its authentically you, you are aware that social proof and your positioning is the only reason why they are reacting the way they do, if you would be a homeless junkie they would spit on you, its all because of your positioning and if you would position yourself differently they would act completly differently to you.

So what is the goal of aiming for fame? If the fame leads to purpose or money, sure, then it makes sense, but for the sake of fame alone, that doesn't make any sense, because the validation is just empty encouragement. Chasing validation is like chasing an empty cloud, it brings you nothing, at least not in the happiness or inner fulfillment level.

My best performance, everyone cheering, clapping, giving me positive feedback etc. At the end I went to bed feeling almost disassociated with myself, like they were clapping for who I presented myself to be (aka performance) not for me. These people would be the same people who would laugh at me if I failed, who would ignore me if I didn't have any social proof and who wouldn't care if I lived or died, only because I got social proof, the right positioning and a good performance, they "love" me. What is not me at all, it's just a few minutes of a quick impression of my performance, not a 10-hour-long deep talk, talking deeply about the depths of me or whatever they want to get to know about me. Anyways thats enough about me hahaha, just wanted to share this for someone that is chasing empty fame consciously or unconsciously and give you a heads up of what it feels like. Don't chase a high, do it for the money or for a purpose.

[Joseph Maynor]

Fame is not bad necessarily.  It can be the foundation for a successful business.  It can be used for good.

[Olaf]

@Joseph Maynor I am not saying its bad, its just not fulfilling, inner fulfillment, thats why I said do it for purpose or for money, not for fame itself.