Muslim family wants to find me a wife.

[Raze]

10 hours ago, Husseinisdoingfine said:

I don't know if this is exactly the case, but according to her family and my uncle, the family is "very strict", and I can't "do anything" until marriage. So she very well might be a virgin, but you never know. Young people are always hiding things from their parents.

I'm not interested though as I met a very nice and liberal (she's not political at all, but very lax attitudes towards life) woman in Europe. She identifies as "asexual" but agreed to date and be in a relationship with me. 

Why would you be in a relationship with an asexual? Do you want a dead bedroom 

[Ramanujan]

@Husseinisdoingfine

On 4/23/2026 at 0:06 AM, Husseinisdoingfine said:

I don't know if this is exactly the case, but according to her family and my uncle, the family is "very strict", and I can't "do anything" until marriage. So she very well might be a virgin, but you never know. Young people are always hiding things from their parents.

I'm not interested though as I met a very nice and liberal (she's not political at all, but very lax attitudes towards life) woman in Europe. She identifies as "asexual" but agreed to date and be in a relationship with me. 

yeah good for you

body count matters. the more dudes she fucked , the less chance of marriga success

if she is a virgin , marriage will last by 80%

also the semen from all the guys she fucked, part of it goes into her brain , and when you fuck her and have a kid , that kid is gonna inherit some parts of every dude she fucked. 

 

[Sucuk Ekmek]

21 hours ago, Ramanujan said:

@Husseinisdoingfine

 

also the semen from all the guys she fucked, part of it goes into her brain , and when you fuck her and have a kid , that kid is gonna inherit some parts of every dude she fucked. 

 

This is the textbook for weak masculine identity. 

[Ramanujan]

1 minute ago, Sucuk Ekmek said:

This is the textbook for weak masculine identity. 

this is from scientific research

[Sucuk Ekmek]

16 minutes ago, Ramanujan said:

this is from scientific research

 

I don’t have a problem with that.

The same goes for the air we inhale and exhale; it co-creates our biology depending on the humans around us.

It’s just that your cum is no more special than an animal’s

[Ramanujan]

7 minutes ago, Sucuk Ekmek said:

 

I don’t have a problem with that.

 

average guy does

 

7 minutes ago, Sucuk Ekmek said:

The same goes for the air we inhale and exhale; it co-creates our biology depending on the humans around us.

not the same thing

 

7 minutes ago, Sucuk Ekmek said:

 

 

It’s just that your cum is no more special than an animal’s

i care a lot whether  my kids inherits parts of every dude she fucked .

[Raze]

1 hour ago, Ramanujan said:

this is from scientific research

None of that is backed up by science 

[Ramanujan]

Just now, Raze said:

None of that is backed up by science 

yes it is

[Raze]

2 hours ago, Ramanujan said:

yes it is

No it isn’t. No study finds 80% increase in marriage stability if they are a Virgin and the DNA thing was from a study about flies, not humans. 

[Husseinisdoingfine]

My family is getting more serious about finding me a wife, and I recently received a phone call from my Uncle saying that they had already found me a wife, and that I'm schedule to meet with her soon. I spoke to her father over the phone, and he said that if I get married, they'll start to teach me all about Islam and such. 

I'm wondering if this is a good idea. One part of me is considering that this is a good idea because it would involve no effort on my part. I just have to meet this woman, see if I like her, and maybe we'll hit it off.

But another part of me is rejecting this because I view this as a betrayal of my values. The thing with this woman is that she is some sort of Muslim. If I get married to a Muslim, she and her family will try to rub off her values onto me and try to make me a Muslim. I feel as if this would be antithetical to the values I built up over the years watching Actualized.org videos, going on meditation retreats, and reading spiritual books. 

I'm so confused right now. Are married people happy? @Leo Gura Do you personally feel as if you missed out on happiness because you never got married or had children? I don't know why I'm even considering this. I think its because the cultural forces of my Arab family are pressuring me to conform, but I'm wondering if it will make me happy.