Who's actually pickier in dating: men or women?

[Valach]

25 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

Yeah I’ve had plenty of women like this too

Which part? The not being picky around sex or not wanting to commit after it? 

[Miguel1]

57 minutes ago, Valach said:

Which part? The not being picky around sex or not wanting to commit after it? 

Both

[CARDOZZO]

Humans are pickier on people they think has less value (sexual, physical, financial, intellectual, emotional, material, spiritual) than themselves.

Attraction is a game. If you are tall, handsome and intelligent as I am, your life is pretty easy.

I think it is healthy for a woman to be pickier. If I was a woman, i would screen guys like an agent. 

[CARDOZZO]

@Tenebroso

Become a Chad, because your future is up to you. Do not hate the game, love the possibility that you can WIN.

Improve everything.

Edited 11 hours ago by CARDOZZO

[Miguel1]

28 minutes ago, CARDOZZO said:

I think it is healthy for a woman to be pickier. If I was a woman, i would screen guys like an agent. 

Totally.

[Jannes]

On 3.4.2026 at 7:03 PM, Tenebroso said:

@Jannes You are so predictable. All of this attention on incels when studies actually show incels are disproportionately liberal and less likely to actually harm someone. Just lazy responses.

You know me so well that I am predictable to you?

Well I exaggerated my point a bit but the "blue pill" helps to hold society together morally. Your claims about incels are very interesting, can you back them up with data?

[Tenebroso]

55 minutes ago, Jannes said:

You know me so well that I am predictable to you?

Well I exaggerated my point a bit but the "blue pill" helps to hold society together morally. Your claims about incels are very interesting, can you back them up with data?

Society is not worth holding together. The truth is more important. Sorry, I don't mean to be personal but that is a pathetic point. I can't take you seriously if this is how you think. Blue Pill thinking was a paradigm for centuries but there is a reason why it is falling apart because when women are free they expose their true nature and that true nature is incompatible with the building of families, community and nations.

Unlike Red Pillers I don't believe the solution is to turn back the clock and force women back into traditional rules, instead we should embrace the chaos; single motherhood, high std rates, less marriages, more crime........This is who we are as a species. Your point of view makes me sick. If a politician in my country said what you said during an election campaign I would throw eggs at him.

[Tenebroso]

2 hours ago, CARDOZZO said:

@Tenebroso

Become a Chad, because your future is up to you. Do not hate the game, love the possibility that you can WIN.

Improve everything.

The only choice is to completely avoid women or as you said become a Chad. Women don't deserve good, kind, selfless, emotionally available men.

[Tenebroso]

19 hours ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

@Tenebroso you have NO IDEA what women want, or how they work. I cannot help but chuckle!

Some things are on the mark, but then you are blind to the red pill stuff just hamfisted in there?!??! You can't see it?!???! There needs to be time spent critically assessing ideas and being aware of cognitive bias, prior to just absorbing it all. You will be much happier and get results!

Regarding OP I think men/women are picky in different domains, so it's hard to compare. I think with social media and 'grass is always greener' comparison syndrome... Both sexes 🤣

Here you come again always responding to me with this self righteousness as if you know better because you are a woman, you don't. I laugh at you too, so we are even.

The only thing I care about is the truth not what makes me feel good or gets me sex, what is good for men or women, or society. The truth. I talk to women way more than I talk to men, I listen to women, I observe the vast gap between what women say and what they do and I make my observations and I stand by them.

 

[Jannes]

4 minutes ago, Tenebroso said:

Society is not worth holding together. The truth is more important. Sorry, I don't mean to be personal but that is a pathetic point. I can't take you seriously if this is how you think. Blue Pill thinking was a paradigm for centuries but there is a reason why it is falling apart because when women are free they expose their true nature and that true nature is incompatible with the building of families, community and nations.

Unlike Red Pillers I don't believe the solution is to turn back the clock and force women back into traditional rules, instead we should embrace the chaos; single motherhood, high std rates, less marriages, more crime........This is who we are as a species. Your point of view makes me sick. If a politician in my country said what you said during an election campaign I would throw eggs at him.

I just said what its function is, I didnt comment on wether that is a good thing or not ...

I dont think society would change in such ways, no one would be really happy with that, not even the women. Look at the tradwive movement as a counter movement. 

[CARDOZZO]

3 hours ago, Tenebroso said:

The only choice is to completely avoid women or as you said become a Chad. Women don't deserve good, kind, selfless, emotionally available men.

Sure.

Don't waste your time hating on women or being resentful towards them.

Improve your avatar inside the dating game or leave it altogether.

Don't half ass. 0 or 1. 

Edited 5 hours ago by CARDOZZO

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Tenebroso yeah. I will respond to you that way.

Because the content you consume is making you a victim. You view yourself as some innocent person who is at the mercy of evil women. And you stereotype all women this way. 

You have all the power to go out and have a different experience. The sad thing is, manosphere 'red pill' and content creators that peddle this bullshit want to make you feel powerless so they can hold your biggest commodity; your attention. Your click. Your view. Your time and money. They want you powerless and you believe them. Don't. 

Listen to someone like @CARDOZZO who has the opposite of this victim mindset. And stop being sexist, stating 'all women are this'. No.

[CARDOZZO]

5 hours ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

Listen to someone like @CARDOZZO who has the opposite of this victim mindset. And stop being sexist, stating 'all women are this'. No.

Thanks 

@Tenebroso

If you were my son, I would say this to you:

You are stuck between hating woman and wanting to be a lover. The most paradoxical thing is that you love woman more than a lot of guys that you see with a GF. Your hate for woman can turn into a love so deep that it reflects onto yourself. 

You have to decide between:

1. You leave the dating game - you become a Monk, Sage, Mystic. You will NEVER talk about women again in your life. Make this promise to you. Leave them, let them be, whatever they are, you are free. 
2. You stay on your path, talking about woman, hating on them, shaming them, talking shit about them.
3. Admit to yourself you love woman and you want them in your life. You learn how to become a intelligent social hacker. You understand how the game really works. You gamify your goals. You study them. You make progress. You are a masterful social hacker. You are seeking mastery. You learn how to be a lover, friend, supporter of woman. You turn your hate on pure love. 

Decide. You have to let it go, no matter your choice.

Edited 1 hour ago by CARDOZZO

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@CARDOZZO appreciated 🙏🏻 unfortunately any truth I might speak on the matter will be dismissed, because I have a pair of tits over a cock. 

It's good, well rounded, healthy masculine men who need to lead the charge. More fathers who aren't 'genetic' fathers. I mean male leaders ❤️

My brother went through some resentment toward women for a while. When I really sat down with him a lot of what he spoke about was desperately wanting a woman. Loving women. But resenting them for not accepting him. Resentment because he felt he wasn't 'chosen'. That resentment was unconsciously coming out and women were turned off hardcore. 

He changed his mindset and deleted all social media. Now he has kids and solid relationship. Happy chappy carpenter 😄

Edited 2 hours ago by Natasha Tori Maru

[Ulax]

11 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

@CARDOZZO appreciated 🙏🏻 unfortunately any truth I might speak on the matter will be dismissed, because I have a pair of tits over a cock. 

It's good, well rounded, healthy masculine men who need to lead the charge. More fathers who aren't 'genetic' fathers. I mean male leaders ❤️

My brother went through some resentment toward women for a while. When I really sat down with him a lot of what he spoke about was desperately wanting a woman. Loving women. But resenting them for not accepting him. Resentment because he felt he wasn't 'chosen'. That resentment was unconsciously coming out and women were turned off hardcore. 

He changed his mindset and deleted all social media. Now he has kids and solid relationship. Happy chappy carpenter 😄

Dang Natasha out here doing god's work

[Natasha Tori Maru]

2 minutes ago, Ulax said:

Dang Natasha out here doing god's work

It was a long dialogue. We live in the same apartment complex and work together. Just little conversations here and there with lots of time between . Always different aspects of his troubles with women. I think the time between let him think about it, take small steps and watch how his results changed. I also think he had an idea of how women 'worked' and projected this onto all women. So he tried to apply some formula to 'get women'. Like step 1. 2. 3. = results. He had to let that go & a big part of it was realizing women are all different. All want different things. All respond differently. With some commonality of course.

I went out with him a few times as a 'wingwoman' at bars and clubs. It got him into places, and he also got to introduce chicks to his sister who was out having some fun with him. I think this made a lot of women feel safer around and acted as an icebreaker. I think the biggest thing it did was to open up opportunity so he could just speak to women like humans and not pedestalize them.

[Ulax]

1 hour ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

It was a long dialogue. We live in the same apartment complex and work together. Just little conversations here and there with lots of time between . Always different aspects of his troubles with women. I think the time between let him think about it, take small steps and watch how his results changed. I also think he had an idea of how women 'worked' and projected this onto all women. So he tried to apply some formula to 'get women'. Like step 1. 2. 3. = results. He had to let that go & a big part of it was realizing women are all different. All want different things. All respond differently. With some commonality of course.

I went out with him a few times as a 'wingwoman' at bars and clubs. It got him into places, and he also got to introduce chicks to his sister who was out having some fun with him. I think this made a lot of women feel safer around and acted as an icebreaker. I think the biggest thing it did was to open up opportunity so he could just speak to women like humans and not pedestalize them.

You deserve a sister of the century award holy quack