How to approach online game consciously?

[Ulax]

With pickup I've always found most of the teachers to be corrupt. Not necessarily in terms of the effectiveness of what they teach, but the ethicalness. I really value Leo's How to get Laid series because of this. It helps me how to think about pickup in a conscious way.

However, with online dating, I'm not aware of Leo producing content on this. I understand one way to get good would be to buy a product from someone who has studied the percentages of what gets results. However, again they don't talk about what is ethical, or a healthy way to approach it, its just seemingly "DO WHAT WORKS".

So, I'd like some perspectives on how to approach online dating consciously. (I want to do it alongside irl stuff) 

[Oppositionless]

I guess it's about balancing attractiveness with authenticity. I min-maxed a bit but I'm also naturally attractive and ended up with 60 matches and over 150 likes in a week, but only one person who was interesting to talk to . And they live 12 hours away (I was using tinder on a family reunion).

I'd much rather meet a girl through hobby groups than online or at a bar, both those environments attract a lot of low consciousness people. Also I notice using OLD degrades the quality of my consciousness, more so than going to a bar or even more than watching porn.

Edited 17 hours ago by Oppositionless

[Ulax]

@Oppositionless I get you. Thank you for your response.

[Tenebroso]

11 hours ago, Oppositionless said:

Also I notice using OLD degrades the quality of my consciousness, more so than going to a bar or even more than watching porn.

I would be interested in hearing more about this. Elaborate if you can.

[Leo Gura]

There is nothing to do in online dating.

If your looks are good you will get matches and dates, otherwise you won't. End of story.

[something_else]

I've posted this in a few online dating threads, but if you need a rough template to follow for a solid dating profile here is my advice for building a solid profile:

Quote

Let's assume you have 6 pics to fill up on Hinge/Bumble (probably the best two dating apps in most places) then a good template for a profile is something like this:

• Pic 1: Professional or high quality photo of yourself with a clear view of your face (this should be the only staged pic, the rest should be natural or it will likely end up look like a LinkedIn profile unless you really know what you're doing)
• Pic 2: Full body shot of you doing something cool or interesting
• Pic 3: Group pic where you look confident and sociable
• Pic 4: Another shot of you doing something cool or interesting
• Pic 5: Another group shot where you look confident and sociable, ideally with a different group of people
• Pic 6: Cute/funny/hot pic, basically a wildcard photo where you can express some personality, humour, or show off more of your good looks if you have them. If you have a nice body, show it off here but in a non-douchey way e.g. a beach pic

Bio/prompts should be something short and witty, and they should encourage a girl to swipe right or ask you about something. It helps if the bio ties into one of your pics. In my case I have a pic of me holding a giant rat in my profile and my bio is "Yes that's a giant rat I'm holding, it's a cool story and you should ask me about it"

You don't have to follow this template exactly, but it's a solid starting point.

 

[Valach]

19 minutes ago, something_else said:

I've posted this in a few online dating threads, but if you need a rough template to follow for a solid dating profile here is my advice for building a solid profile:

 

Dang. Like this a great advice, but it then it makes me feel so artificial to curate a profile in such a way.

[something_else]

6 minutes ago, Valach said:

Dang. Like this a great advice, but it then it makes me feel so artificial to curate a profile in such a way.

Yea, I do get that. It helps if you get into the habit of taking photos of your life a bit more regularly, not just specifically for online dating

[Valach]

Yeah, that is the thing. Like I am sociable person and in a way do all these things you mention. But I just never take any photos. All the photos I have from last couple of years are just photos my gfs took of me. And I don't really like using those.

Edited 3 hours ago by Valach