Leo can't fix you because you are Neurodivergent

[Basman]

1 hour ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

I know I am an excellent profiler of people. My dad actually sends me to meetings just to scope out body language and facial expression. My colleague does all minutes so I can focus on that. Then I speak to stakeholders one on one in follow-up video calls under the guise of general clarity and agendas. I use AI to record the conversation and profile them, take notes regarding what they emphasise, how the conversation is directed and what they volunteer as information unprompted. These are the keys to subconscious motivations.

Then after first meeting, I submit a small profile of each stakeholder. This helps us develop relationships with these members, because often we work with them repeatedly across projects because they really enjoy working with us. I'll admit it's a lot of manipulation, but it's for a good cause (building hospitals within budget, time and to maximum profit).

I've been almost 100% correct with my profiles so far. One guy totally had me stumped though, be was so emotionally and expressively flat I couldn't really gauge his needs. We work with these project managers/architects/consultants and clients for a year at a time. Sometimes more. So it is worth the time investment.

Legit CIA-worthy resume shit LOL. That's really cool. 

I bet you could use those skills working for some kind of agency, if your a little "morally flexible".

[Natasha Tori Maru]

57 minutes ago, Basman said:

Legit CIA-worthy resume shit LOL. That's really cool. 

I bet you could use those skills working for some kind of agency, if your a little "morally flexible".

I tend to just do the process I described in my head. When we started to work with many different clients I recorded it down due to volume. Prior to this I was always fascinated with what motivates people, how they tick, how they make decisions and what their values/core needs are. My initial introduction to the process was, funnily enough, going through pretty extreme childhood trauma. Living with caretakers who had clinical pathologies (cluster B) I had to learn to read people so quickly. In a flash. My safety depended on my ability to do this, and pretzel myself into what that person needed in an effort to bring peace. Unfortunate beginnings that spawned my ability, and then interest. 

Recording has been quite interesting. I pick up more subtle patterns I sometimes miss. Micro-expressions happen in a flash. But they tend to reveal the most. I think you called it 'morally flexible', because to be frank, I used to be a manipulative cu**. Internet troll. Intentionally fucking with people. Arrogant and power hungry. I try to be a nice girl now 

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When you try to "figure it out" instead of just going with the flow your more likely going to get it wrong

This. I go with my first intuitive instinct. Sometimes I need to pause and consider - but this is mostly when I did not have a strong initial feeling to go on. The longer I take to answer, the less likely I will be accurate. This did take some time. Lots of inquiry around feeling, emotion. More than what is normally inquired about - we don't really like to deeply investigate our emotions, I have found. I had to build up trust in my feelings, and the truth to be found there. I have to know when a feeling is true, stemming from a belief, part of conditioning I haven't yet dissolved, false, or even when feelings are just vestigial limbs that are tacked onto thoughts that aren't relevant. I have to know precisely where my feeling or emotion is coming from, else I cannot trust it. Lots of reverse engineering internally.

I think it definitely helps to be very open and non-judgmental with this process. We can never really, truly know what others are thinking, feeling. Their meaning or history. I am always open to not knowing and being wrong. 

Everyone has a different set of habits and tells. The longer you work with them, you build up a context around the person to better help you understand. But I always prepare for a surprise  

Edited 4 hours ago by Natasha Tori Maru