How's your dating life in 2026?

[LordFall]

Share the state of your dating life.

Myself I've been going monk mode and taking a break from sex & dating since 2023. Was not happy with the quality of the women in my life and I'm a firm believer of the adage you don't attract what you want, you attract who you are.

Now my social circle and business are doing better and looking forward to going harder and dating multiple girls/guys to date in spring and summer. 

[Valach]

It is quite early to ask I have barely noticed it is 2026 already.
I am also taking break from dating and sex as I struggled with my last breakup since November. But I feel like I am about to return to the game but do it with more clear intentions.

If I may ask, did you not have any sex at all since 2023?

[something_else]

Pretty good. After a year of travelling in 2024 I have a seriously solid dating profile put together and if I really put in effort I can get 2-3 dates per week from Hinge/Tinder.

I’ve got a really solid group of friends where I live now and I honestly think a lot of them will be lifelong mates. We go out most weekends which gives me loads of in-person chances to meet people. It doesn’t even feel like 'pickup' when you’re out with close friends, it just feels like partying and having a good time. I go out to make memories with them, not with the goal of getting laid. If it happens, it happens. I find that way more fun and way healthier than going out purely trying to pull.

Lonely socially anxious 20 year old me would be astonished and proud of how sociable I am now.

[CARDOZZO]

Good.

I became much more honest, clear, bold and direct with women. I simply say that I want sex on the first 5 minutes of the interaction. 

Let the chips fall where they may.

Edited yesterday at 03:50 PM by CARDOZZO

[LordFall]

15 hours ago, Valach said:

It is quite early to ask I have barely noticed it is 2026 already.
I am also taking break from dating and sex as I struggled with my last breakup since November. But I feel like I am about to return to the game but do it with more clear intentions.

If I may ask, did you not have any sex at all since 2023?

You got this! Nope not since Tuesday March 14th 2023, wrote the incident as a field report lol. Nice girl but I knew that I wanted something different and couldn't get it at the time. Have way more attractive women in my life now so it's about to time to get back on the horse or should I say horsing around.

 

4 hours ago, something_else said:

Pretty good. After a year of travelling in 2024 I have a seriously solid dating profile put together and if I really put in effort I can get 2-3 dates per week from Hinge/Tinder.

I’ve got a really solid group of friends where I live now and I honestly think a lot of them will be lifelong mates. We go out most weekends which gives me loads of in-person chances to meet people. It doesn’t even feel like 'pickup' when you’re out with close friends, it just feels like partying and having a good time. I go out to make memories with them, not with the goal of getting laid. If it happens, it happens. I find that way more fun and way healthier than going out purely trying to pull.

Lonely socially anxious 20 year old me would be astonished and proud of how sociable I am now.

Love that! 100% agree that a regular crew i.e. social circle makes the whole process so much more fun and effective. Same me at 13 would be mind blown if I showed him my Instagram today. 

 

1 hour ago, CARDOZZO said:

Good.

I became much more honest, clear, bold and direct with women. I simply say that I want sex on the first 5 minutes of the interaction. 

Let the chips fall where they may.

Lol that's funny. Can you elaborate on how you say it and in what context? Like on the street after a cold approch or on a dinner date? I agree that being sexually direct can be very effective but it's an advanced form of game that can definitely backfire.  

[Hojo]

Haven't been on a date in 10 years. I have only been exclusive to one person. Then I saw the hidden dimension of identity. I don't really relate to woman to want to talk to them or date them. I get along with them perfectly on a superficial level but I'm very edgy and intelligent.

I'm not attracted to woman on a intellectual level at all. I actually find them repulsive on an intellectual level. I am attracted to men on an intellectual level and woman on physical level.

I wasn't even attracted to the person I was with for 15 years on an intellectual level. But was tricked. Looking back i remeber the person being incredible boring.

I'm not saying there aren't woman out there who are intelligent or more intelligent than me but most of my conversation I talk and hear are purely about relations with people they know or family or what happened in their lives recently and it is very snoozefest to me. Seeing as I don't know these people they are talking about.

I see woman talk about their families to eachother and they feint interest in eachother families and friends when they don't even know the person they are talking about. I don't want to do that.

If I need to converse I would rather just be absolutely retarded in what I am talking about like fart jokes or saying really dumb things cause then at least I am not faking that these conversations hold any serious value.

Edited yesterday at 09:09 PM by Hojo

[Ulax]

0 atm.

Hoping to get back out there soon though.

Fortunately sorted out some very foundational issues in my life that were fucking everything up. So hoping this time will be a smoother journey.

[enzyme]

Been putting myself out there more: nearly 30 myself and never dated so I felt like I had some catching up to do.

I'd say my game's alright but I'd like to try for something more committal and serious rather than just pulling and one night stands.

[CARDOZZO]

7 hours ago, LordFall said:

. Lol that's funny. Can you elaborate on how you say it and in what context? Like on the street after a cold approch or on a dinner date? I agree that being sexually direct can be very effective but it's an advanced form of game that can definitely backfire.  

Cold approach, online, bars. 

I just say what is on my mind. I say that I'm horny or that I love sex and if they want, we can fuck. 

Honest, direct, bold. No games, lies or manipulation.

[pablo_aka_god]

Last time I got laid was in early December, 2025 from a cold approach at the park.

I told the girl I didn't want to see her again after to search for someone better.

I go out every Saturday and do about 15 direct cold approaches. 

I need much more Sex to be happy so I think about this problem a lot.

Seems like for an average man today the default mode is to become an incel unless we put a ton of work.

[pablo_aka_god]

20 hours ago, CARDOZZO said:

Good.

I became much more honest, clear, bold and direct with women. I simply say that I want sex on the first 5 minutes of the interaction. 

Let the chips fall where they may.

@CARDOZZO LOL, how does this work? I wish it were that easy 

Edited 9 hours ago by pablo_aka_god

[CARDOZZO]

42 minutes ago, pablo_aka_god said:

@CARDOZZO LOL, how does this work? I wish it were that easy 

It is not easy. It is just radical honesty. Of course you sacrifice a lot of sex to be this way. 

Read:

• Radical Honesty - Brad Blanton
• Mode One - Alan Roger Currie

 

[Valach]

47 minutes ago, pablo_aka_god said:

Last time I got laid was in early December, 2025 from a cold approach at the park.

I told the girl I didn't want to see her again after to search for someone better.

I go out every Saturday and do about 15 direct cold approaches. 

I need much more Sex to be happy so I think about this problem a lot.

Seems like for an average man today the default mode is to become an incel unless we put a ton of work.

Interesting. Do you really find more sex to increase your happiness? I've found that it does not do much for me honestly. And I do have fairly high libido.

Edited 8 hours ago by Valach

[pablo_aka_god]

@Valach I lose sanity after 3 months without sex(prostitutes don't count). I could never spend years without it like some guys here. I would rather put my career to a halt and fly to Colombia or some region where it's easier to get it. I've done this before during dry times.

I'm at my healthiest moment right now where rather than being passive until I reach a point of dispair I consistently go out at least once a week.

It's psychological, there is no physical reason why I couldn't go years without sex. My mind can't conceive that situation

Edited 8 hours ago by pablo_aka_god

[Valach]

Ah I see. As I mentioned it at the start of the topic, I am currently taking a break from dating because of an breakup. It has been now 3 months without sex for me and I am surprised how fine I am with it. Like I do not have much motivation to go out just to get sex. Don't get me wrong, I will be going out since I want to find a partner but the sex thing? Not really keen on that as much.

I've had times when I would sleep with like ~5 new girls every months and it did nothing for my happiness. It was just draining it. I feel as you said, it is not really a physical desire but psychological. It is a desire for validation, for being wanted, for doing the same thing others are doing. But once you see through that, it's hard to find motivation to just go after sex with woman that you do not like that much. I still love sex, but I want to have a connection and strong attraction with someone for that. But that happens rarely. I've been on maybe like 50 dates over the last summer and most of the time I did not even feel like escalating (and I was feeling a lot of pressure to do so because of this conditioning). It is all so confusing isn't it.

[pablo_aka_god]

@Valach I realized i makes no sense for me to think about serious relationships with quality women If can't even get sex from them.

I believe being able to get quality and quantity sex comes before targetting for serious relationship

Edited 7 hours ago by pablo_aka_god

[Valach]

I thought so too in the past. I found out that this was just me conditioning myself that I am not good enough and that I need to do or achieve something to give myself permission to go after what I truly want.

[LordFall]

3 hours ago, pablo_aka_god said:

@Valach I lose sanity after 3 months without sex(prostitutes don't count). I could never spend years without it like some guys here. I would rather put my career to a halt and fly to Colombia or some region where it's easier to get it. I've done this before during dry times.

I'm at my healthiest moment right now where rather than being passive until I reach a point of dispair I consistently go out at least once a week.

It's psychological, there is no physical reason why I couldn't go years without sex. My mind can't conceive that situation

How did you find the colombia time? I want to check it out sometime this year or next one. I've dated in Canada mostly in Toronto and Calgary and it's fun but I wanna try global dating while being a digital nomad for a few years. Seems like a peak experience. 

[How to be wise]

I am engaged and hopefully will get married in a few months.

Good luck to everyone who is searching!