Power and sex go hand in hand

[AION]

I’ve been thinking a lot about why men grind so hard for money, status, promotions, gym gains, the whole thing. And honestly, it all comes back to one root cause: women.

At the end of the day, women are the ones who choose who they sleep with and who they commit to. They almost always pick the guy who’s higher up the ladder—better job, more confidence, more resources, stronger social circle, better looks from putting in the work. That’s hypergamy in action. Women naturally want the best option available to them, and “best” usually means the guy with the most power and status.

So men compete like crazy because the reward is access to the women we want. If women didn’t care about any of that stuff—if they were just as happy with the average chill guy who works a basic job and plays video games all weekend—a ton of us would probably relax, settle down early, and be perfectly content loving one woman without all the hustle.

But that’s not how it works. Women’s preferences create the hierarchy. The guys at the top get the most attention, the most options, the highest-quality partners. The guys in the middle and bottom get leftovers or nothing. So we’re all pushed to climb, outdo each other, take risks, build empires, hit the gym at 5 AM—because falling behind means fewer (or zero) romantic and sexual opportunities.

It’s brutal but simple: women hold the keys to sex and relationships, so their choices shape the male pecking order. The whole rat race exists largely because of what women select for.

[Sugarcoat]

But do you really think most women want the top guys really, I mean a bit “above” them is one thing, but if a woman is average or below in her “development” etc, then maybe some of her ego feels insecure if she feels they guy is “too good for her”, she might feel inadequate,  or that she can’t match him. I don’t know. 

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[NewKidOnTheBlock]

Not so sure about that, I don't see much evidence of most women giving much of a shit about any of these, only a certain demographic, in fact, if you give too much shit about what women think, you'd probably end up poor, weak etc. As they'd completely demotivate you from pursuing any of those things. But they are valuable on their own

[theleelajoker]

There is sth about your points, clearly. 

But it's not the whole truth you present it to be. It's the typical argument made by people to promote a certain narrative.

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It’s brutal but simple: women hold the keys to sex and relationships, so their choices shape the male pecking order. The whole rat race exists largely because of what women select for.

You want to feel inferior to women? OK have fun. 

My personal experience shows me that there are men and women that want to life an "average" life and an "average" partner. Also, it's very one-sided to say only women choose - both have to choose. 

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So we’re all pushed to climb, outdo each other, take risks, build empires, hit the gym at 5 AM—because falling behind means fewer (or zero) romantic and sexual opportunities.

That's the story you create for yourself. Not the truth.

"OMG this guy is so attractive and cool. He's just secure in himself, and he doesn't participate in this rat race about status, money, sixpack and so on. He transcended these ego games and is simply himself, friendly, open, funny and flowing with life. This vibe magically draws me to him..."

[AION]

16 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

But do you really think most women want the top guys really, I mean a bit “above” them is one thing, but if a woman is average or below in her “development” etc, then maybe some of her ego feels insecure if she feels they guy is “too good for her”, she might feel inadequate,  or that she can’t match him. I don’t know. 

Which woman wouldn't want a succesful guy though. I think only women who would want an unsuccesful guy is a woman that doesn't want to feel insecure herself. 

Most women, even the ones who are insecure want a guy who is confident. A guy who is confident goes a long way. And a guy  who is not confident but has a bunch of other things going but it not confident still has to go a long way.

I have friends who have evertyhign but they are not confident and it is a deal breaker for most women while I'm thinking these guys are loyal and have a good charachter so they are a good choice but then I hear from them that these dates of theirs goes with scum bags.

Edited 20 hours ago by AION

[enchanted]

"Everything is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power. " -unknown

[Sugarcoat]

1 hour ago, AION said:

Which woman wouldn't want a succesful guy though. I think only women who would want an unsuccesful guy is a woman that doesn't want to feel insecure herself. 

Most women, even the ones who are insecure want a guy who is confident. A guy who is confident goes a long way. And a guy  who is not confident but has a bunch of other things going but it not confident still has to go a long way.

I have friends who have evertyhign but they are not confident and it is a deal breaker for most women while I'm thinking these guys are loyal and have a good charachter so they are a good choice but then I hear from them that these dates of theirs goes with scum bags.

It makes sense what you’re saying. Maybe I’m just strawmanning a little. But I mean a guy who has average job, average ambition, decent confidence can still get decent woman, he doesn’t have to be top top man with all things going for him like top 10% men. But yea I think confidence in particular matters a lot, maybe more so than career and money. 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

Might apply to dating apps and online realms. Younger demographics.

Women hold the keys to sex, men are the gatekeepers of relationships and commitment though. Many do not realise it. It changes as you age up.

Just looksmax and be done. Once you ascend you can just mog everyone and chad status will do the work, right? 💀😏

Plus you miss the key to women - safety. Provide that and that's all the power you need. 

Any normal well adjusted person isn't going to jump ship because some dude earns $2 more an hour than their current man. Online realms are skewed as fuck. Look at your average dude with kids - not all chads who are ripped as shit with millions. Most are average normal dudes, dad bods and cricket on the weekend.

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

Those average dad bod chumps are all miserable af I can see throught the veil and BS. You gotta get ripped as fuck fr and maximize your earning potential for your own sake; seeking bitches approval will only demotivate you from doing that

[LordFall]

Different strokes for different folks. Any guy can get a girl if he lower his standards as well. Women having high stands is good, it's what drives our species forward. It also feels good to be a competent man with an above average life. Why settle for mediocrity? Isn't that the whole point of self-development overall?

Improving your social skills, creating a thriving social circle, learning to curate an image online and mastering the game of attraction and status is one most fun adventures of the human experience I would say. 

[AION]

There is a certain hierachy in dating like with the Titanic. Rich people are on the deck and the riff raff are under the deck.

Obviously the people below the deck are going to find each other and accept each other but it is very rare that a guy who belongs to the riff raff will be accepted by the upper Echelons.

To be powerful is to basically dump your riff raff friends and being part of the upper class. Cute girls who belong to be riff raff are usually fished out by this group. 

The only exception to this rule is that when women get older they have to accept lesser so I have seen older women with riff raff.

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[Ulax]

 David Buss hypothesises that Women look mostly for social status indicators, and Men look mostly for fertility signs (youth being favourite indicator). I can see the sense in that

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[aurum]

Survival is deeper in the stack than power or sex.

[AION]

2 hours ago, aurum said:

Survival is deeper in the stack than power or sex.

Sex is more important than survival because sex means survival of genes and consciousness over the centuries and beyond, while bare survival is just survival of you as a body.  

Sex is the fountain of life. Gnostic teachings are very clear about this. There is great spirituality in sexuality and fertility. Things you won't learn it over here.

Imagine a king who is infertile, his power ends there. It is the same with god who is infertile.

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[aurum]

45 minutes ago, AION said:

Sex is more important than survival because sex means survival of genes and consciousness over the centuries and beyond, while bare survival is just survival of you as a body.  

Either way, survival is still deeper in the stack.

Survival is about way more than your body.

41 minutes ago, AION said:

There is great spirituality in sexuality and fertility

No there isn't.

Sexuality is a dream.

[theleelajoker]

What about potatoes? 🥔 

Are they a dream? More important than survival? Less so? What about sex? Equally important? 

And let's not forget the 🍅! They are maybe the most sexual survival thing of all!

[AION]

51 minutes ago, aurum said:

Either way, survival is still deeper in the stack.

Survival is about way more than your body.

No there isn't.

Sexuality is a dream.

Stop listening to Leo. He lives in a bubble and projects his own shit onto reality. 
Obviously he doesn’t have kids and he never will. But most people do. And 99% of the people will choose their offsprings life over their own. So where is your survival here? 

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