Uhh, I really suck at flirting

[Something Funny]

I've been on a second date with this girl, and it went really well in general. The talking felt natural and smooth, moments of silence weren't uncomfortable, she initiated a lot of discussions.

But I still am not sure if she is into me romantically or if she sees me as a friend. And I don't know how to properly break this barier of physical touch.

Do I just take a risk and grab her hand? Do I ask her about it?

Important note is that she is from my work place, so I am afraid of being too bold with her.

[Spiral]

 I prefer shoulder as a first contact point or kissing I suppose.

[eliasvelez]

How about sitting next to her in the next date? At a bench, in the park in the grass. And what I do when im not shure is I just ask: „I feel like holding your hand, is that okay?“  „I feel the urge to put my head on your shoulder, how do you feel about that?“ or I come closer, shoulder to shoulder and ask her if it is okay or I tell her how it is for me in this moment „I feel a bit shy being so close to you…how is it for you?“ Sincire and withlout excusing myself. I ask myself, what do I want? And then, how do I own my actions and lead to that ? Either by owning it and doing it or bey just communicating it. Open communication is such an Icebreaker. I got appeoached once by a girl while walking home because of some shirt I was wearing, we talked, after like 1 hour we where cuddleing at some park bench and after 2 hours she invited my to her appartement. Btw one of the best tips I got on kissing is: when you are at a date, and you feel like if she would initiate a kiss and it would feel right and good for you. Than just do it. Make it the right moment. Say it, that you feel like kissing her or just initiate it. But be sensitive, you will feel when she does not want it, relax abd mabey later…. And when you „try“ flirtinf, that is the moemnt you are not doing it. Be present, courious, show yourself, hoe you are and express what is real now for you. Flirting happens then, when you are real and in connection

 

Edited 1 hour ago by eliasvelez

[Sincerity]

So was it a date, or a friendly meeting?

Did you lead? Did you take any action (at least a step) on the romantic/sexual intention, or did you just „go with the flow” and do friendly talk?

Even if the conversation was smooth, it doesn’t matter if you weren’t leading the relationship anywhere. You MUST lead it in a romantic direction. It doesn’t happen by itself! The default flow is non-romantic.

Don’t just GRAB HER HAND, like a zombie grabbing someone’s foot from below the ground. First see whether she is even receptive to subtle romantic intention (which you might not have expressed yet). If she is then progress, like with subtle touch. I know it might be unhelpful to hear, but you gotta be NATURAL with it!

I personally wouldn’t mess with a person from my workplace. „Don’t shit where you eat”. But that’s just me, I guess it can work.

Edited 1 hour ago by Sincerity