Question to women

[SimpleGuy]

Girls, I`m as a man thrilled about shit-tests. Where did they come from? And, most interestingly, how does it feel when you`re about to do some shit-test to someone? I`m not judging here, I`m really curious how doing shit-test to your boyfriend, in example, feels like from a perspective of a woman. 

Hey, if you`re not a woman, it`s fine. I still want to listen to you.

[Sandroew]

Well, i was about to write a comment here, but then i tought, lets see what the women here would have to say for themselves first?

Edited 23 hours ago by Sandroew

[something_else]

It’s usually just some light teasing or flirting that socially awkward pickup dudes have given a name to because they don’t know how to respond

[Sugarcoat]

I think shit testing is a subconscious thing , almost manipulation in some cases, where you’re trying to gather information about someone to asses them more accurately, especially if you’re having suspicions or if you have negative experiences in the past so you wanna be on the safe side. You might not wanna expose this to the other person so to not ruin the mood, so you do it in sneaky indirect way instead. I’m a woman and I’m not sure if I do shit testing, if I think about it, maybe if I’m unsure about a guy  I might make jokes to him about him having “side chicks” , about him “only wanting one thing” or something of that sort, and the response could give me a clue. But if you like a person, and the vibe is well, you aren’t doing it with the intent to expose something bad in them, because you get the vibe they’re good, but you can’t always know that for sure so you might try to feel more sure by doing these “shit tests”. If I’m understanding you correctly 

Maybe I sound like a massive party pooper or something hahahahaah

[Leo Gura]

@SimpleGuy Dude, women don't think in terms of shit-tests. That's a pickup concept.

[Princess Arabia]

10 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

@SimpleGuy Dude, women don't think in terms of shit-tests. That's a pickup concept.

Was wondering what he was talking about. Didn't want to get involved with that shit test.😏

[Natasha Tori Maru]

I am not 100% sure what a shit test is. 

Is it just seeing how each partner reacts to situations and experience, when you engage in something together? That's part of screening on a deeper level. Learning about the other person.

If you are talking setting up a situation to deliberately see how the other reacts? I don't do it. There will be inherent bias in doing that. Loaded hypothesis. One would have to consider how that is going to make your partner feel, that they are taking part in some arbitrary experiement. It says more about the person doing it than the recipient.

Also, is it another loaded premise falsely attributed to gender? 

[Raze]

https://www.girlschase.com/content/why-do-women-test-find-dominant-males

[Xonas Pitfall]

Shit tests are really just playful banter! 

When you’re unconsciously picking out your male best friends or noticing which friendships or couples have the best “dynamics,” it’s usually the ones who can bounce off each other, trash-talk, poke fun, and be silly together. That’s really all it comes down to. The "coolest" guy in a voice chat during gaming is the one cracking jokes and just having a good time. Dating’s no different. The way you might joke with a friend is often the same way a girl will joke with you, just with differences in style and humor. So, the way you’d want your friend to respond to some playful banter is how you should respond to her teasing, too.

Of course, I know some people take shit tests way too far with nasty comments, and those people aren’t worth your time. But the normal, light-hearted “shit tests” are just fun. I remember a video where Leo talked about a stunning girl, jokingly saying she had a cock to "throw him off his game". He was shocked and recognized it as a “shit test.” In reality, it was just a playful jab. Still, since he responded calmly and with humor, he “passed” the test. It’s the same with friends; those who don’t get all whiny about a little trash talk are the ones who end up being the closest hommies! 

[Hojo]

Shit test is to see how man will react so they can judge if hes scary or not.

[SimpleGuy]

Thanks everyone. Before this I viewed shit-test as something different from simple teasing. You changed my view

[SimpleGuy]

13 hours ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

Also, is it another loaded premise falsely attributed to gender? 

Men also do it, but usually way rarely. About other animals I don`t know.

[Xonas Pitfall]

2 hours ago, SimpleGuy said:

Men also do it, but usually way rarely. About other animals I don`t know.

Nope! Men do it a ton, too. What people call trash‑talk, bro‑talk, banter, or teasing are often just forms of social shit‑testing!