Life Advice needed (mostly dating)

[Split Subject]

Hey, @Leo Gura,

I've been wanting to post this since forever, so I'm exhilarated I'm finally doing it. 

I've been following your channel for years, probably decade by now, so I feel that it's no coincidence I finally took the step to start interacting and not just passively watching your stuff, so again I'm very grateful and happy for it.

Right, so basically I recently turned 27 year old and I'm really thinking I need to finally take my life more seriously in all aspects, but dating and women is one of those which I feel I really left behind so to speak. Even though as my attraction to spirituality grows, my interest in so called mundane, or secular activities lessens (dating too), I feel that I have still karma to burn, because I feel the need for intimacy from time to time.

I currently live in a city with a population of 150k, I feel like that might be a little problematic because even in online dating, which is the main form of dating I do really, It's pretty tough to find something. 

Idk if looks matter that much, I feel like they do, because the times I got laid really I feel like it was looks (although I'm short) and just luck perhaps that let me succeed, because I couldn't say I'm good at game, especially irl. 

So yeah, where do I start? Am I in a shitty position? I'd appreciate any perspectives on my situation, I would love to get some feedback, even if it's basic stuff. Thank you so much.

VJ 

[Schizophonia]

Go outsides (bars, clubs, universities...) and hunt females.

[theleelajoker]

3 hours ago, Split Subject said:

So yeah, where do I start? 

Drop all expectations.

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Am I in a shitty position?

No

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just luck perhaps that let me succeed

There is no luck, just stuff happening

[something_else]

Moving to a bigger city will help a lot.

Small cities can work but it depends a lot on the city and whether it has good nightlife 

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uPKQuwyYScQ

http://davidtianphd.com/masterclass-content/

https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-get-started-picking-girls

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=twTrrGiRXtY

 

[Princess Arabia]

9 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

Go outsides (bars, clubs, universities...) and hunt females.

Jesus, you make women seem like deer. Go hunt females? Get the rifles out please. Sharp shooters only please.😏

[Schizophonia]

11 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

Jesus, you make women seem like deer. Go hunt females? Get the rifles out please. Sharp shooters only please.😏

I promise i am a nice hunter 

[Princess Arabia]

2 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

I promise i am a nice hunter 

🍌 🍓 facelift anyone.

[Schizophonia]

2 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

🍌 🍓 facelift anyone.

Everybody find this picture a bit pervert but i find it especially cute 

[enchanted]

On 18/08/2025 at 0:47 PM, Split Subject said:

Hey, @Leo Gura.......

 

Just always be nice, outgoing and give off friendly vibes.  Say hi, smile, wave to EVERYONE you pass throughout your day. Start small talk (if appropriate) with everyone who you are forced to stand beside or a few minutes (like in a line, elevator, bus stop etc).

Eventually you start noticing the different body language of those who are sexually attracted to you and eventually it will be someone you also find attractive. Then just ask if they have any plans on the weekend and if they say no, offer to do something. It's that easy. 

Everyone is lonely and everyone loves nice people talking to them for a bit. That's why we are on this forum for example, we are all bored and looking for interaction. Give that interaction to people that they crave. 

 

Edited August 19 by enchanted

[theleelajoker]

18 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

Jesus, you make women seem like deer. Go hunt females? Get the rifles out please. Sharp shooters only please.😏

One of my friends had a saying when the woman is very active in communicating and promoting a romantic encounter and he as man has to do nothing but not run away.

"it's like you drive in the forest and the deer jumps on top of your cargo area as soon as you reach the first trees 🦌🌲 🛻"

[enchanted]

 

[Split Subject]

Thank you guys so much for responses, I deeply appreciate that you took your time to help me out <3

[How to be wise]

On 18/08/2025 at 5:47 PM, Split Subject said:

Hey, @Leo Gura,

I've been wanting to post this since forever, so I'm exhilarated I'm finally doing it. 

I've been following your channel for years, probably decade by now, so I feel that it's no coincidence I finally took the step to start interacting and not just passively watching your stuff, so again I'm very grateful and happy for it.

Right, so basically I recently turned 27 year old and I'm really thinking I need to finally take my life more seriously in all aspects, but dating and women is one of those which I feel I really left behind so to speak. Even though as my attraction to spirituality grows, my interest in so called mundane, or secular activities lessens (dating too), I feel that I have still karma to burn, because I feel the need for intimacy from time to time.

I currently live in a city with a population of 150k, I feel like that might be a little problematic because even in online dating, which is the main form of dating I do really, It's pretty tough to find something. 

Idk if looks matter that much, I feel like they do, because the times I got laid really I feel like it was looks (although I'm short) and just luck perhaps that let me succeed, because I couldn't say I'm good at game, especially irl. 

So yeah, where do I start? Am I in a shitty position? I'd appreciate any perspectives on my situation, I would love to get some feedback, even if it's basic stuff. Thank you so much.

VJ 

I’m facing a similar problem as you, and I’ve decided to do coaching sessions. I want a dating coach to 'take on' my problem and solve it.

[felixk_priv]

@Split Subject  I have been working on my dating life as well . This might be useful for you or not . 

My two methods . 

Cold aproaoch :  if you were fully comfortable / fearless with women , what would your approaches look like ? How would you demeanor change , would it be much more attractive ? Genuine question how do you imagine it would look like ? 

. If you want this ability every single day  , here's my method . focus everyday on surrendering one action that makes you feel uncomfortable in this area . E.g. surrender to giving someone a compliment . If you can't do that find something you can surrender that's doable . But everyday focus on surrendering to that part of you that resists being fully comfortable with women . What your doing actually is surrending being fully comfortable showing your nervous feelings or whatever attachments you have  . -> when you surrender to being able to do that , it's the same as you stopping caring what they think right , being totally detached .  So you focus on facing this everyday ( being totally detached ) this means momentum will be that you will be so comfortable doing whatever baldy approaches in front of whoever everyday  . Max confidence . You can do more than one a day to get some more volume , but standard one a day . Also means you will have more ability to go outside your comfort zone , feel more masculine , feel more confident , and you will generally care less what people think of you because you are surrednering that everyday . 

Dating apps  :   you know what they say , it's about what you make the girl feel . My intent when opening is literally try and make her feel feelings and to be emotionally stimulating . Intuitively I'm sure you can come up with things yourself. I've definitely got more matches doing that . Also to be emotionally stimulating is my same method when cold aprooaching after number one principle , to stop resisting anything . E.i. be careless about the outcome first and foremost so you can be fully comfortable and confident .