Where to find friends who are interested in Personal Development or/AND Spirituality?

[Magnanimous]

I haven't had a friend to talk to about these subjects in 8 years because people like that are so far strung from each other. I LOVE socializing and I believe a charisma/leadership related role will become my life purpose. I do have mates at school but we will never forge a truly deep connection/have consistent things to talk about because we don't have the same interests.

The population of my city is 176,000 people.

Is my city big enough to find like-minded friends?

How do I find them?

A LOT of socializing is necessary for my happiness and I don't want to continue missing out on one of the joys of life just because I have no friends like this.

[Leo Gura]

Join stage Green communities and social events like yoga classes, burns, festivals, seminars, workshops, etc.

You'll have to look beyond your city.

You can relocated to more Green cities like Austin, Bay Area, Oregon, etc.

Edited Wednesday at 02:59 AM by Leo Gura

[Recursoinominado]

Here, and nowhere else.

Not even kidding. 

I have been on this journey for 15+ years. 

Spirituality since 2015, and i could not find anyone past stage green (which, mostly, rejects self-development as something too "orange" and don't take spirituality seriously)

The loneliness of stage Yellow is absolutely true.

I wonder if i will ever marry someone since she has to be at least a little bit Yellow or otherwise i cannot relate or respect too much. 

[Magnanimous]

16 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Join stage Green communities and social events like yoga classes, burns, festivals, seminars, workshops, etc.

You'll have to look beyond your city.

You can relocated to more Green cities like Austin, Bay Area, Oregon, etc.

@Leo Gura You already know I wanna move to London for pickup. With that kind of population and importance I'm sure it'll have plenty of personal development minded people but how about spiritual? Surely both because a lot of massively successful people are into manifestation (spirituality, metaphysics).

Also how about LA? I haven't properly planned life after London yet but its the city I'm currently most favoring to move into post-pickup

[samijiben]

15 minutes ago, Recursoinominado said:

Here, and nowhere else.

Not even kidding. 

I have been on this journey for 15+ years. 

Spirituality since 2015, and i could not find anyone past stage green (which, mostly, rejects self-development as something too "orange" and don't take spirituality seriously)

The loneliness of stage Yellow is absolutely true.

I wonder if i will ever marry someone since she has to be at least a little bit Yellow or otherwise i cannot relate or respect too much. 

This response is pretty kickass. Hard to beat it.

To answer your question, go to Pokhara.

[Leo Gura]

6 minutes ago, Magnanimous said:

@Leo Gura You already know I wanna move to London for pickup. With that kind of population and importance I'm sure it'll have plenty of personal development minded people but how about spiritual? Surely both because a lot of massively successful people are into manifestation (spirituality, metaphysics).

Also how about LA? I haven't properly planned life after London yet but its the city I'm currently most favoring to move into post-pickup

London is so large that you can find anything there probably. But it's going to be mostly Orange people.

Austin is superior to LA in my opinion. I would not want to live in LA.

If you want a very Green area, Sedona Arizona is the place. But it's very small.

I suggest you fly around and vacation a bit in each of these Green cities to find which one you like best. Visit Austin, visit Oregon, visit Seattle, etc. You will tell just by vibes which place suits you to settle down.

Edited Wednesday at 03:16 AM by Leo Gura

[Magnanimous]

Just now, Leo Gura said:

London is so large that you can find anything there probably. But it's going to be mostly Orange people.

Austin is superior to LA in my opinion.

If you want a very Green area, Sedona Arizona is the place.

@Leo Gura Any yellow/turquoise areas? 

As I start doing psychedelics and Awakening, I assume I might feel called to move again due to an increase in consciousness.

[Leo Gura]

Just now, Magnanimous said:

Any yellow/turquoise areas?

No

[samijiben]

1 minute ago, Magnanimous said:

Any yellow/turquoise areas? 

There IS a niche "community" of yellow folks wandering the streets of Pokhara and other small hippie towns around the subcontinent. 

But they are usually shy and don't want to be your friend anyways.

So, what recursonsimananando said.

[Wilhelm44]

3 hours ago, Recursoinominado said:

Here, and nowhere else.

Not even kidding. 

I have been on this journey for 15+ years. 

Spirituality since 2015, and i could not find anyone past stage green (which, mostly, rejects self-development as something too "orange" and don't take spirituality seriously)

The loneliness of stage Yellow is absolutely true.

I wonder if i will ever marry someone since she has to be at least a little bit Yellow or otherwise i cannot relate or respect too much. 

Perhaps the belief that there's hardly anyone on ur stage of development, is what's preventing you from meeting the right person. I don't think there has been any time in recorded history when so many people have been into this stuff. Keep an open mind. She might be living close by.

[Wilhelm44]

I heard that Boulder, Colorado is also quite conscious.

[cistanche_enjoyer]

I’ve actually found “spiritual” people to be insufferable and annoying. Basically what Leo said in his latest video about fake spirituality.

I prefer having stage orange friends over fake spiritual people. At least it’s more fun for burning my karma when I’m still young 

And then I can do real spirituality alone in my room anyway.

[Lyubov]

Generally speaking, friends who make their identity and whatnot about growth and development aren’t very fun or interesting to hang out with. This is just my opinion. To find meaningful friendships I think all you really need to do is be honest, so you attract honest people. And lastly have something that you are doing with your life that is interesting. Aside from that, you will meet many people if you are living a lifestyle that has people coming through. You will be able to then find a few you want to spend time with. 

[Lyubov]

7 hours ago, Recursoinominado said:

Here, and nowhere else.

Not even kidding. 

I have been on this journey for 15+ years. 

Spirituality since 2015, and i could not find anyone past stage green (which, mostly, rejects self-development as something too "orange" and don't take spirituality seriously)

The loneliness of stage Yellow is absolutely true.

I wonder if i will ever marry someone since she has to be at least a little bit Yellow or otherwise i cannot relate or respect too much. 

Man I think this “passing other people in development” is just a romanticized way of saying you are closed minded and aren’t willing to socialize in the present moment as it is. Unless you know you are a person who doesn’t really like socializing and it’s not a problem for you to not really have friends, then I think scapegoating spirituality and your development as the reason is sort of a cop out. You can learn a lot from people different from you and just being opened to experience, continually putting yourself out there, can open up all sorts of doors. Creating this hierarchy and model of one person being more developed than another just creates separation. I used to say the same thing about how it’s hard to find real people, conscious, etc. I’m not saying every place is equal in terms of opportunities but this overall mindset I think creates more limitations than there actually are. To me, being more developed means being more authentic and usually differences are seen less as barriers and more as opportunities to learn from different people and accept them as they are, not because you have to but because you see genuine value in at least recognizing and accepting people different from you. I do know it’s sometimes not as rewarding as spending time with an old friend you have a ton in common with. 

Edited Wednesday at 10:40 AM by Lyubov

[nerdspeak]

London has some cool people, but mostly people are so stressed trying to survive, dealing with long commutes and housing prices, that even people with good intentions get caught up in the grind after a while and degenerate into a mix of orange and the more bitter variants of green. 

My advice: Avoid banking cities (London, New York, Hong Kong, Toronto) and tech/real estate boom cities (SF, LA). 

Places where it's easy to live a middle-class lifestyle with a normal 8 hour per day job and a reasonable commute are usually better. Even if you don't want that kind of lifestyle, it means that people will have the time and space to explore their interests outside of their career, and the general stress levels will be lower. 

Places like that where I've enjoyed living: Berlin, Ghent, Montreal, Ultrecht, Bourdeaux, LIlle

Cheap expat places can be okay. The locals will be stressed, but the expats will usually be chill. The problem is it's a bit alienating after a while, and the locals are usually in a mix of red and blue. But it's still better than moving to London/New York and getting stomped on by the super-rich.  

Places like that where I've enjoyed living: Kyiv, Tallinn, Krakow, Budapest, Bucharest 

Despite the locals mostly being in red/blue/beginnings of orange, pre-war Kyiv was probably my favorite place. Bucharest is also pretty great even though the architecture is mostly ugly. 

Edited Wednesday at 11:39 AM by nerdspeak

[nerdspeak]

@Magnanimous London is not good for pickup, there’s a reason all the “Euro jaunt” borderline incel people come from there. 

Pick a cheap walkable city where you can live close to the clubs and aren’t competing with billionaires for girls. 

[Magnanimous]

8 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Austin is superior to LA in my opinion. I would not want to live in LA.

@Leo Gura I wanted to move to LA because of all the stuff to do (entertainment capital of the world), and I'm sure with the population and what I've heard there's a lot of people interested in spirituality/personal development.

How come you wouldn't want to live there? I just don't know enough reasons.

[Magnanimous]

8 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Austin is superior to LA in my opinion. I would not want to live in LA.

@Leo Gura I wanted to move to LA because of all the stuff to do (entertainment capital of the world), and I'm sure with the population and what I've heard there's a lot of people interested in spirituality/personal development.

How come you wouldn't want to live there? I just don't know enough reasons.

[something_else]

1 hour ago, nerdspeak said:

@Magnanimous London is not good for pickup, there’s a reason all the “Euro jaunt” borderline incel people come from there. 

Pick a cheap walkable city where you can live close to the clubs and aren’t competing with billionaires for girls. 

London is great. Every time I've gone out there I've ended up hooking up with someone.

The biggest issue is that it's an expensive city both in terms of rent and going out. You end up having to live in shitty multi-person accommodation, or miles out of the city. And a drink at a popular club can be upwards of £20. These aren't unmanageable hurdles, but it does suck.

It's an amazing city for nightlife if you're staying there for a few days in a hotel in the centre of the city, I'm just not sure I'd want to live there.

I think traditional daygame is pretty degen and I've never really done it, so I can't talk about whether that is good in London or not. People in the UK don't tend to have a high tolerance for annoying strangers so it probably sucks.

[Schizophonia]

Just find people you get along with; you're looking for friends, not colleagues.

Many spiritual people will be unpleasant to you, and others won't be spiritual at all but are very pleasant to be around.

Besides, what does being spiritual even mean?