Pros and cons of having kids

[cistanche_enjoyer]

For those of you who are parents (or want to become parents), what did you take into account when making this decision?

Are kids a distraction from spiritual work? But also, aren’t kids like an “investment” for when you become older (they can take care of you, be a companion, especially if you manage to build a good relationship with them)?

[enchanted]

Follow the golden rule: treat other's the way you would like to be treated. Alot of people wish their parents never gave birth to them. As long as your kid isn't one of those people you will make a good parent. 

Edited 23 hours ago by enchanted

[Schizophonia]

I want some children.

[cistanche_enjoyer]

22 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

 

I want some children.

 

Why? What do you think you will get out of having kids? 

[CARDOZZO]

I would love to be a father.

Actually, I am working towards it. The whole point of pickup is to find a great woman to become your partner in crime 😋

[Schizophonia]

30 minutes ago, cistanche_enjoyer said:

Why? What do you think you will get out of having kids? 

Make a family.

[Sugarcoat]

Having kids is for normies

[Schizophonia]

1 minute ago, Sugarcoat said:

Having kids is for normies

Pistachio ice cream is for normies 

[Sugarcoat]

Just now, Schizophonia said:

Pistachio ice cream is for normies

no

[Schizophonia]

Just now, Sugarcoat said:

no

Yes

[aurum]

I don't have kids but I'd be open to it if I met the right person.

My sense is that it would help round out my development. Kids are definitely a distraction from spiritual work, but I've also already had a lot of success in the spiritual domain. Not having kids at this point leaves me feeling a bit lopsided.

There's also an argument to be made about having kids being important to society. 

I don't think about it in terms of an "investment" when I'm older or anything like that. Although that probably is true.

[Schizophonia]

If you're at all loving, you'll naturally be quite open to children.

Happiness lies in building relationships and creating a future; without it, your life may be quite comfortable, but it will never be satisfying.

[Travisty]

I think viewing children as an investment is the wrong attitude to take. If you want children it should be because you feel that is your life purpose, you shouldn't have them hoping to gain something from it in the future. You also should be capable of unconditional love since that is the most important thing a child needs to grow up and be functional. Not just unconditional love for them but also yourself and others. 

Biggest pro is it can be a very rewarding process that makes life about something larger than yourself.

Biggest con is you are brining someone into this world without their permission and even if you do everything right their life could still end up being filled with pain and suffering. 

I think the most moral way to do this is adopt a child that is already here and needs a good home. I wouldn't personally have my own child when there are so many are in need of a good home as a result of their parent's unconscious actions. I think there is a lot of ego involved when someone only wants a child if it is their own genes.

Just know once you have that child your life as you know it is over and your life now becomes mainly about providing for them. It's the biggest decision you'll ever make in your life so don't take it lightly like most people unfortunately do.