A take on NoFap

[Jannes]

NoFap has been quite a big topic on this forum sometimes, I did it way back and got not much out of it, but I recently found out some healthier ways to go about porn. It comes down to this:

Notice the difference between physically being horny and psychologically wanting to distract yourself.

 

For me sometimes I get really horny, get a boner and its clear that my body gives me a signal. Its usually a very fast job and I feel okay afterwards. Imagination is usually enough as well. 

Other times I want to watch porn in the exact moment when things become difficult. It usually takes way longer and I feel messed up and confused afterwards. I can only do it with porn as well. 

 

Just becoming conscious of that difference will have some curative effect.

[Someone here]

No you're just making excuses.  So what if you get a hard on ? No boner lasts more than 30-60 seconds if you do not purposely arouse yourself by touching your dick or watching porn or imagining something. 

Get the biggest boner ever..just wait a sec and don't do anything..it will fade . No need to empty your nuts . Unless you took Viagra or some blonde bombshell is teasing you with her ass.

[aurum]

NoFap is good for increasing your motivation to get laid and maybe unwiring serious porn addiction problem. But that’s about it.

[Someone here]

1 minute ago, aurum said:

NoFap is good for increasing your motivation to get laid and maybe unwiring serious porn addiction problem. But that’s about it.

Semen is energy as well .

Plus you say this "but that's about it " as if  this is such a trivial thing.  Do you realize that teenagers are literally jerking their sacks dry to porn everyday all day?  Then you wonder why men nowadays are cowards who can't get a boner with a real girl ..cuz they are used to fucking their fist-pussy. The vagina is so wider and not as tight as your grip monkey wanking . Guys who jerk off for years go limp in real sex .

[Natasha Tori Maru]

Obviously I am dickless. So many grains of salt must be added:

Is it possible nofap is more about identifying when you are simply pleasure seeking in a hedonistic, hollow manner? And when you are truly relieving a serious level of pent up sexual energy/frustration? 

Like when you do your first 5 day fast and you really feel true hunger and low energy. First time I did that, really taught me how often I am rewarding and pleasure seeking with food. 

My mate, who can hands free orgasm with no release during meditation, reported learning that technique gave him a lot of clarity there. 

Became obvious when he was bored or looking for stimulation, and when he was genuinely feeling non-functional due to his dick being the rudder.

Edited July 11 by Natasha Tori Maru

[aurum]

2 hours ago, Someone here said:

Semen is energy as well .

Plus you say this "but that's about it " as if  this is such a trivial thing.  Do you realize that teenagers are literally jerking their sacks dry to porn everyday all day?  Then you wonder why men nowadays are cowards who can't get a boner with a real girl ..cuz they are used to fucking their fist-pussy. The vagina is so wider and not as tight as your grip monkey wanking . Guys who jerk off for years go limp in real sex .

It's not that I automatically think it's trivial. I agree that if guys have genuine bad habits, you might benefit from nofap.

It's more so that I think the benefits are overstated. Especially if you're already relatively healthy.

For a guy with decent habits, nofap is not going to do much. It'll probably make you somewhat hornier. You're not going to see some superhuman increase in energy, confidence or magnetism. 

If someone disagrees with me, you're more than welcome to run your n=1 experiment and report your results. I've experimented over the years and this is my conclusion. It's overrated, but potentially powerful if you're in a bad way.

Edited July 12 by aurum

[samijiben]

Nofap is so popular because lots of guys are ADDICTED to porn and masturbation. 

So it follows that people latch onto the ideology when they see that implementing the practice (no-fap) works. Why does it work?

Because they stopped their fucking addiction!

Obviously, you will feel better in your life or about your life if you kick an addiction. But this goes for any addiction. There is nothing especially insidious about furiously jerking off to more tabs than you can count of:

Dancing titties

Jiggling asses

Pink pussy!

Yayyy!!!! No, this ain't gonna kill you. Nothing wrong with a wank.

What is wrong is using your addiction to avoid confronting God. And masturbation is damn low on the long list of addictions that is being used to avoid confronting God!

[Sugarcoat]

Porn is one of those things that can give you excessive dopamine. So if you wanna take care of your brains reward pathways you wanna use it in moderation (or not at all). It’s like with social media, gaming, sweets etc. 
 

When you fantasize it usually doesn’t give you as much pleasure as porn because thoughts are more vague than images, so it’s more gentle on your reward pathways and its like you have to work for it a little because you’re the one actively imagining. So that is preferable in some cases. 
 

If you really wanna go all the way with it and keep things as natural as possible stick to real sex and fantasy. Then your reward pathways will be associating sex with something more natural. Plus porn has the risk of desensitizing you and making you accustomed to more violent material so it can corrupt your mind meanwhile if you stick to fantasy and sex you stay in touch with a more pure form of your sexuality that is untouched by culture.

Just some thoughts 

Edited July 12 by Sugarcoat

[Schizophonia]

There is no love in porn it's poor.

Or you have to do a serious effort of imagine the preliminaries; her smell, the touch of her skin, the rapprochement etc

[Basman]

Sounds like your using masturbation as a procrastination tool.

Procrastination is a fear response. It's always fear. It means you are putting great importance on the thing you are procrastinating. Procrastination is associating more pain to doing an act than not.

However, your imagination tends to be bad at predicting the future. The act itself is most likely less bad than you think. People tend to underestimate their ability due to fear, lack of experience and wanting to have it easy. 

[Jannes]

On 12.7.2025 at 1:54 AM, Natasha Tori Maru said:

My mate, who can hands free orgasm with no release during meditation, reported learning that technique gave him a lot of clarity there. 

I can almost do that when I am really conscious and that feels by far the healthiest. The more force you have to put in (physical and heavy porn) the less conscious and healthy on the mind it is. 

[Sugarcoat]

@Jannes I can get hands free orgasms when I dream sexually or have sleep paralysis 

[Jannes]

On 12.7.2025 at 7:22 PM, Schizophonia said:

There is no love in porn it's poor.

Or you have to do a serious effort of imagine the preliminaries; her smell, the touch of her skin, the rapprochement etc

There is more conscious porn out there if you actually care about that. Porn for females is usually more conscious. 

[Jannes]

Just now, Sugarcoat said:

@Jannes I can get hands free orgasms when I dream sexually or have sleep paralysis 

Wow, good for you. 

[Sugarcoat]

1 minute ago, Jannes said:

Wow, good for you. 

But I have absolutely zero libido in waking life LOL. It’s weird how it works for me, so I’m not lucky 

[Jannes]

Just now, Sugarcoat said:

But I have absolutely zero libido in waking life LOL. It’s weird how it works for me, so I’m not lucky 

That sucks. 

I am just thinking the obvious that we often process things in sleep that we repress in waking life, so maybe you repress your sexuality for some reason in waking life which results in sexual dreams. But I dont know your situation of course. 

[Sugarcoat]

4 minutes ago, Jannes said:

That sucks. 

I am just thinking the obvious that we often process things in sleep that we repress in waking life, so maybe you repress your sexuality for some reason in waking life which results in sexual dreams. But I dont know your situation of course. 

Thanks for the input but it’s not that for me. I have lack of emotion too it’s not due to repression it’s mostly due to a disconnect from self (kind of like depersonalization) in summary

I used to have sexuality for years before

Edited Monday at 01:50 PM by Sugarcoat