Learning from rejections.

[Rishabh R]

I contemplated for 45 minutes - What can I learn from my past rejections ? These were the answers that came to me
- To pursue girl whom I like
-To not to pursue girls who show signs of disinterest
-To choose girls based on their actions towards me
-To not to be needy towards girls 
-That guys who are accepted by girls are not happier than me
- That I have overcome multiple rejections
-That girls who show signs of disinterest aren't worth spending time
-That it doesn't matter weather a girl rejects me or falls in love with me what matters weather I am overcoming rejections or not
-They didn't deserve me
- That some girls will like me while some will hate me

Do let me know your thoughts.

Edited Saturday at 06:58 PM by Rishabh R

[Harikrishnan]

There are some girls who likes you  and you think is special, you can waste years with them but will not end up in your bed. If sex is intention Dont waste time with them.

Edited Monday at 01:59 AM by Harikrishnan

[Princess Arabia]

6 hours ago, Harikrishnan said:

There are some girls who likes you but will not end up in your bed. Dont waste time with them.

Did you ask him first if he wanted sex. If that's why he's interested. There are some that don't care about that and some that likes to do it with someone special and maybe that someone special takes time and in the meantime enjoying a woman's company is satisfying for now to them until maybe it leads to something special or not. I'm not saying this is the case with op but you just automatically assumed that's what he was chasing..,,,,,,maybe because it's all you chase but not every man chases random sex. Your comment almost made me puke. 

[Princess Arabia]

@Rishabh RNice to see you're showing yourself some love. Long way from focusing on the hurt like you're used to doing in the past and now moving on to see how you can turn the tables from feeling victimized to empowerment.

[Rishabh R]

@Princess Arabia Thanks. By the way you may disagree with me here but I am trying to accept my negative emotions due to past rejections and reminding myself that I have overcame them.

Rejection is truly a redirection to something better.

[Princess Arabia]

21 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

@Princess Arabia Thanks. By the way you may disagree with me here but I am trying to accept my negative emotions due to past rejections and reminding myself that I have overcame them.

Rejection is truly a redirection to something better.

Where do you see disagreement on my part with you?

[Rishabh R]

@Princess Arabia I just assumed that you would disagree with me in your next comment. But that assumption was wrong as it was based on your past disagreements with me in the spirituality section where we were talking about suffering and you said to overcome suffering something else other than acceptance of suffering is required. It was long ago.

Edited Sunday at 03:59 PM by Rishabh R

[Princess Arabia]

5 hours ago, Rishabh R said:

@Princess Arabia I just assumed that you would disagree with me in your next comment. But that assumption was wrong as it was based on your past disagreements with me in the spirituality section where we were talking about suffering and you said to overcome suffering something else other than acceptance of suffering is required. It was long ago.

That's the past. Today is a new day. Do you stay the same everyday. Lots of stories in your head. Respond to what's happening, not what you think will happen. 

[Harikrishnan]

12 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

Did you ask him first if he wanted sex. If that's why he's interested. There are some that don't care about that and some that likes to do it with someone special and maybe that someone special takes time and in the meantime enjoying a woman's company is satisfying for now to them until maybe it leads to something special or not. I'm not saying this is the case with op but you just automatically assumed that's what he was chasing..,,,,,,maybe because it's all you chase but not every man chases random sex. Your comment almost made me puke. 

No I didn’t ask him. I was making assumption. Now, dont hold on go puke.

Edited Monday at 01:39 AM by Harikrishnan

[Princess Arabia]

3 minutes ago, Harikrishnan said:

No I didn’t ask him. I was making assumption. Now, dont hold on go puke.

Lol. Now that you put it that way. At least you didn't curse me out for saying that and also made no apologies. We both have a right for feeling the way we do and it's a healthy take when we both can express that. I already puked right after reading it. 

[Harikrishnan]

Just now, Princess Arabia said:

Lol. Now that you put it that way. At least you didn't curse me out for saying that and also made no apologies. We both have a right for feeling the way we do and it's a healthy take when we both can express that. I already puked right after reading it. 

Why would I curse you for saying your feeling? Why would I say apologies for assuming? Is that how some man do!

yeah good for you that you puked now inside maybe clean. 

[Tenebroso]

Rejection is the norm. Women take great pleasure in rejecting men, I wonder if the reward centers in a woman's brain light up when she gets to reject an unworthy man.

[TheGod]

22 minutes ago, Tenebroso said:

Rejection is the norm. Women take great pleasure in rejecting men, I wonder if the reward centers in a woman's brain light up when she gets to reject an unworthy man.

Don't generalize and demonize women. There are some women like this but most of them do not feed of rejections. Go approach women and verify it for yourself. 

[Tenebroso]

@TheGod I will say and do as I please. I have approached women, there you go making assumptions not very enlightened.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

42 minutes ago, Tenebroso said:

@TheGod I will say and do as I please. I have approached women, there you go making assumptions not very enlightened.

Nah. 

You're just plain wrong with your statement. 

1 hour ago, Tenebroso said:

Personal preference is the norm. Mentally deranged people take great pleasure in rejecting others, I wonder if the reward centers in a their brains light up when they get to reject a person. 

Here, I changed your statement to remove the errors. No healthy individual takes pleasure in rejecting others. You are projecting the pain of rejection onto the person just expressing their bias. Which they are entitled to. 

Edited Monday at 03:59 AM by Natasha Tori Maru

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

9 hours ago, Tenebroso said:

Rejection is the norm. Women take great pleasure in rejecting men, I wonder if the reward centers in a woman's brain light up when she gets to reject an unworthy man.

Some of them definitely do take great pleasure in it, it would be dishonest to claim otherwise

[theleelajoker]

Ok I was about to write it's not true... but I remember one time where the girl clearly had pleasure teasing and rejecting me 😂

Edited Monday at 12:08 PM by theleelajoker

[Rishabh R]

@theleelajoker A girl rejected me , abused me and her friend threatened me. When I asked her why she did it she said that I deserve it all the time. 

@NewKidOnTheBlock Yeah few of them are like that.

Edited Monday at 02:48 PM by Rishabh R

[TheGod]

3 hours ago, Rishabh R said:

A girl rejected me , abused me and her friend threatened me. When I asked her why she did it she said that I deserve it all the time. 

Can you give more details on how it happened exactly? How did you approach her, what she said etc. 

It's hard for me to imagine a girl that could be as mean as you are talking about. 

[Rishabh R]

@TheGod  I was talking to her over text and then once I told her - I love you. She told - Are you crazy man. 

I told- I like you.

She asked why ?

I told that she is beautiful and reply me.

Then she said - I will slap you in the face and that's the reply.

The next day I got a call from a guy friend of her threatening me. He told me that you have come to college then study and don't do all these things. You don't know who I am , ask to others in college if you don't want to get disturbed.

3-4 months later after this incident happened unfortunately my mother passed away due to cancer.

Then after an year I told to other girls of my batch about it and also to one senior of mine.

Then I talked to her again over text and she abused me. Her guy friend who threatend me earlier - I told him that I have been hurt from him.

He told whom did you propose and stop crying.( Even though I wasn't crying 😂) Also he abused me but I argued with him.

I talked to her over phone and she again abused me why did I told to him and told me to say sorry to him. I told him sorry and I told to him was trying to communicate with him. He said ok.

She told me over text that I am a child and a cry baby.

In college when we all transitioned from online to offline semester. I saw him and she told me that this is the guy. I ignored them.

Then she went on to date other guys of my class. She ignored me etc.

But with that being said , now my college is over and I overcame it.

Now I am responsible for moving  forward and finding someone who will love me for who I am.

It feels light to write this.