Learning from rejections.

[TheEnigma]

On 7/5/2025 at 0:46 PM, Rishabh R said:

I contemplated for 45 minutes - What can I learn from my past rejections ? These were the answers that came to me
- To pursue girl whom I like
-To not to pursue girls who show signs of disinterest
-To choose girls based on their actions towards me
-To not to be needy towards girls 
-That guys who are accepted by girls are not happier than me
- That I have overcome multiple rejections
-That girls who show signs of disinterest aren't worth spending time
-That it doesn't matter weather a girl rejects me or falls in love with me what matters weather I am overcoming rejections or not
-They didn't deserve me
- That some girls will like me while some will hate me

Do let me know your thoughts.

I think that's pretty wise. Just one thing, I don't think there is such thing as "deserving" someone or not. You just have to put yourself out there, and you will get what you get. 

Edited July 8 by TheEnigma

[Rishabh R]

2 hours ago, TheEnigma said:

I think that's pretty wise. Just one thing, I don't think there is such thing as "deserving" someone or not. You just have to put yourself out there, and you will get what you get. 

Well said.

[Schizophonia]

On 07/07/2025 at 5:58 AM, Natasha Tori Maru said:

Nah. 

You're just plain wrong with your statement. 

Here, I changed your statement to remove the errors. No healthy individual takes pleasure in rejecting others. You are projecting the pain of rejection onto the person just expressing their bias. Which they are entitled to. 

It’s a fantasy of the ego.

I’m very little mirrored but I would say it’s the usually game of the hero and the victime, and here a kind of game of “I am the one who is sincere, courageous, in good faith” and automatically to generate this persona you have to create the polar object of desire “she is perfidious and therefore in bad faith”

The mirror effect is immediate so if you contemplate you will see that the energy that pushed him to write this post is the same of the "treacherous women" that he imagines.
 

Calling someone an asshole = Acting like an asshole.

Calling someone pretentious = Acting with the same kind of energy that makes you pretentious.

Calling someone gay = Acting like someone fragile who is sensitive to social norms, just like more a woman or some gay men..

 

Etcetc

Edited July 8 by Schizophonia