NoSelfSelf

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  1. Conteplation is a tool for getting the truth there is a saying for enligtment the one who starts contemplation will be ended by contenplation and for other truths contemplation is useful so you dont aceppt anything on blind fate(you will know its true when it comes from concept to direct experience)cool game i sometimes like to play is like i just arrived on earth and i dont know anything about anything and im queastioning myself whats that what is this thing and almost always what i really think it is its just an assumption about that thing..


  2. Maybe you are big picture learner first go threw the book examine it (if you know spead reading it even better) then when you know the skeleton you can learn the bones(detailes) in last leos video he said if you want to know something you should learn all the association words around the word you need to know(that makes perfect sense and that is why i sucked at learning because you should know all previous informations about that word to truly understand it) and thats why many people hate learning because they start to learn late when subject is developed(especially in math) and they try to catch up by learning something but they dont have fundation from previous lectures...


  3. Today i revisited video about neurosis (40 examples that you are neurotic) i recommend you to watch it again if you are on path of self realization it helped me to accept what actually is in profound way but one thing still confuses me paradox of self improvment is to aceppt what is but still work on yourself in authentic way towards self actualization Leo didnt mention what he meant by that(authentic).This Paradox is so tricky and contradictory it would be nice if @Leo Gura clear this one or someone who figured it out tnx...


  4. To find your authentic personality you should ask yourself what gives you energy being around people or alone(extrovert or introvert)how do you take in information threw senses or intuition you like practical action steps or how will things play out (psychology around it) you have 3 more parts but i need to finish the book im reading this should also help https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test


  5. 2 mistakes i see (but i understand you completely) 1.You never give up on anything or let her change you,she will love you more when she sees you on your path and that she is not your path(making her number 1 will always end up bad)

    2.You are her boyfriend not her therapist you are not there to help her or to fix her you are there to give her fun and to be someone to talk to (in rare cases she will ask you for help ) 

    Good luck ...