Dinesh Karki

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    2 hours ago, BlessedLion said:

    Hey man,

     

    I just wanted to say I really resonate with your post and everything you are saying here. I grew up in the US, Southern California and Texas. SoCal was dope but Texas was awful. Anyway, I went to college there and the second I graduated i got a job that let me travel remote (before it was mainstream, like 2017) This let me go to Colombia, Mexico, Bali, Brazil, Europe and I quickly learned that I had been a square peg trying to fit myself into a round hole my whole life. I always felt America was so tense, cold, and hyper competitve, and also just so indiviualistic with little care on community, connection or depth.

    I have been pursuing self actualization and consciousness for around a decade now and I spent about 8 years outside the US. For whatever reason this summer i had the "Call" to come back to America and see how it is. So i got an apartment in a city and have been living here for like 8 weeks now. 

    Man.... It's tough to live here. I'm not going to say it's all bad, there are positives, and this is a nuanced thing, but for the cost of living for the value is totally not worth it. I've also found it really tough to meet people, everyone is just kind of on their own pace and even in yoga events, ecstatic dance, etc people just come- do the event- and leave. The ability to connect here is lost, it feels like people have lost that skill, the individualism of American culture has backfired massively. Without drugs, or alcohol most people just can't dive deep or be themselves.

     

    I went out to some clubs and bars to try and socialize or have fun, it was so soul draining. So much performance and everyone is high and drunk as fuck. I've partied in other countries, yet in other countries it feels more like a celebration of life (Like in Brazil) but in the US it's like a numbing/escape. Luckily I have only 1 month left here and i can't wait to leave. Im either going to move to Mexico or Brazil, likely Brazil it has more than everything I'd ever want. 

    This was such a clarifying trip to me. I don't belong here, it's unconsious, and not very warm, it's tense, everyone is obsessed with politics. The dating scene is awful, the women here are mostly out of touch with their femininity for the large part- i couldn't hook up with them if i wanted to, so i've just been going into celibacy and semen retention practices here, which has been super potent. Idk, I just look around the city and get this huge "childish" vibe. Like everyone is living their little clay life, eating their avocado toast, walking their dogs, and living for the weekend, no one seems to be pursuing mastery of any sort and it's just coffee to scrolling to booze to porn to video games. My roomate is a good example of this, dude sits on his phone for 8-9 hours a day scrolling tik tok, then goes out to drink and fuck a random chick, his poor dog barely gets taken care of and i have to help it because i don't want it to suffer. 

     

    One of the most challenging things about self actualizing and development is that it gets lonely. You no longer care about what the masses care about, you see it as a waste of time, energy, and an opening to karma you don't want. I simply can't connect on these values and interests and i don't drink or do drugs so that cuts out a good portion of bonding activities. 

     

    Anyway, I think choosing to leave is a good call and you won't drown in debt either. There are much better places to live than America where you can find strong community and aligned vibes. 

     

    This is just my take, so i hope people don't get butthurt and start flinging shit at me because my perspective makes them insecure about their own decisions.

    Good to hear.

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    In your 20s, you go through a lot of realizations that shape your life. I’m 28 years old now, and I’ve been working on improving myself since I was 20. Looking back, my journey has been filled with growth, lessons, and self-discovery.

    I earned my bachelor's degree in Information Technology at the age of 22. During my fifth semester, I started working as a software engineer. After graduating, I felt like I was living a dream. I had a stable career, financial independence, opportunities to travel, and a vibrant social life filled with parties and fun. At the time, I believed I was successful. However, I soon realized there was more to life than material success.

    Emotionally, physically, and relationally, I had areas to work on. One major realization was that I had neglected my spiritual and personal development, which I had started exploring at the age of 20. Over time, I noticed how easily I had indulged in temporary pleasures, forgetting the deeper purpose of life.

    Here’s a list of the key lessons I’ve learned in my 20s:

    1.You need to lead your own life.
    Other people can give advice, but ultimately, it’s your responsibility to shape your path. No one else will create the life you want for you.

    2.Fulfill your basic needs before pursuing higher goals like spirituality.
    This might not apply to everyone, but I realized I needed to focus on building a stable foundation first.

    3.Not everything will work out as planned.
    Life is unpredictable, and setbacks are inevitable. Learning to adapt is key.

    4.Happiness doesn’t come from material possessions.
    At 21 or 22, I believed that having a car, a house, or a romantic relationship would make me happy. I now understand that true happiness comes from within.

    5.Health is more important than we think.
    I’ve been going to the gym for the past two years and eating a clean diet, which has transformed my physical and mental well-being.

    6.You don’t need external validation to be happy.
    Happiness is not about pleasing others or seeking approval. It comes from being content with yourself.

    7.Every goal is achievable with time and persistence.
    Patience and consistent effort can turn even the biggest dreams into reality.

    8.Taking responsibility is essential for success.
    You won’t see results unless you hold yourself accountable for your actions.

    9.Self-development brings clarity.
    The more effort you put into developing yourself, the clearer your life’s direction becomes. For instance, you can confidently switch careers if needed.

    10.You become more decisive through growth.
    Personal development helps you make better decisions and trust yourself.

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    Today, I want to share my life experience. I grew up in a small village in Nepal, where my dream was to work in a bank and eventually become a bank manager. At the age of 17, I left my village to pursue higher education in the city, choosing science as my major. However, I completed my studies with only passing marks. I was extremely introverted; I still remember the day someone asked me for directions—I knew the way but was too afraid to communicate. This kind of situation happened to me repeatedly over the next few years, and I often regretted my inability to speak up.

    In 2016, I experienced a turning point when I first gained access to the internet. This opened up a new phase in my life. I began watching TED Talks and still remember Brian Tracy’s advice to read books for personal growth. He recommended three books: How to Win Friends and Influence People, Think and Grow Rich, and The Power of Your Subconscious Mind. I read all three, and they fundamentally changed my mindset.

    By early 2017, I dove into self-help and personal development. I discovered Leo's videos on YouTube, and I can’t express how much they inspired me. His content opened my eyes and guided me toward a career in IT. By the end of 2019, I became a software engineer and dedicated myself to my career. I progressed from Junior Engineer to Senior Engineer, working day and night. Although I earned a good salary, I felt unfulfilled. I was overweight, tipping the scales at over 90 kg. On the outside, everyone said I was living the dream, but I was unhappy inside.

    In early 2022, I decided it was time to work on myself. I joined a gym, and after six months, I lost nearly 10 kg. Additionally, I began meditating for 10 minutes every day. After a few months of meditation, I felt calm and peaceful, so I incorporated Pranayama into my routine. Meditation, Pranayama, gym workouts, reading, traveling, and my job became integral parts of my daily life.

    After a year and a half of focusing on self-improvement, I felt a strong urge to quit my job and pursue a spiritual journey and personal growth. After months of contemplation, I submitted my resignation letter—everyone was shocked, especially since I had just been promoted to team lead from Senior Engineer.

    That is my story. I have learned so much along the way, and it feels like life unfolds in chapters. Thank you so much, Leo; without you, I can't imagine achieving such an extraordinary life.