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  1. Mastery if you refer to self-mastery, I think, yes.
  2. The Natural Lifestyles Valentino Kohen ‎David Tee Saul Tee
  3. Solo vs with people? Close friend who does it with you? What about ceremonic/shamanic setting? If solo indoor on thr couch or outdoor in nature? Preparation? Setting positive intentions/priming for letting go before the hit? What your first timer was?
  4. How one would use lucid dreaming for facilitating enlightenment?
  5. I practice mostly Anapana right now, which is the same as concentration practice with breath as meditation object. I sometimes would just "do nothing", and recently started experimenting with different guided and visualized meditations/self-inquiry to familiarize with different methods and styles out there, and find the most powerful ones. Guided meditations also come handy when I resist to meditate as it gives more 'novelty'. In terms of self-inquiry it's pretty much 24/7 on.
  6. It's finny that you mentioned this book, because I'm currently reading it haha. Thanks
  7. It's nothing wrong with scientific method per say. It's great. It's just limited to concepts; to how you can understand reality. Ask yourself if concepts are the only way to underatand reality? Also look into 'the philosophy of science'. You will see how arbitrary it actually is.
  8. Hey, I need suggestions for strategies and methods on how I could help to improve my 13 y/o sister's will, self-discipline and responsibility. My parents with my sister and brother live in different country than I do, so I see them just on holidays, and so when I'm here I want to make some impact. The problem is that, from what I've seen, while growing there and being with her, and what my mom noticed is that she is quite soft and spoilt when it comes to responsibilities and comitments, or would try to 'shorcut' learning. So for example, when she is learning something and she doesn't understand, she would give up immediatelly telling herself that she can't and start screaming. And wouldn't even try to come back to try it again. Or for example my mom told, that my sister borrowed money from her classmate's parent once, so she could have enough money to buy a toy pony she wanted. My mom suggested that my sister could start earning money by doing errands at home, like washing dishes, but she wouldn't do it. Eventually my mom gave back the money to that child's parent, and since my sister heard about it she feels like she doesn't need to do it now, and puts this 'i'm so beautiful to myself' face. She wouldn't do anything for the home. Don't get me wrong, she has other strenghts, like in creativity and arts, she grows up in a very loving family, and my mom is really wise and sets boundaries as she is this antropological women and understands the problem on some level. The problem is my dad who lacks will himself and unconsciously 'transfared' that to her. I think the problem is that my sister 'learned' that she doesn't need to put effort in things to get what she wants, to get stimuli, like sweets, cartoons, etc, because my dad would buy and play those despite whether she follows her responsibilities or not. Additionally, my dad would often clearly tell that he won't reward her with candies or play her cartoons when she didn't behave, but then the same evening she would be indulging anyway, because she would beg and demand again and again, until he breaks and allows it, because he doesn't have will to say 'no' and be consistent with his boundaries; he has weak boundaries. I think this has significant effect on my sisters psychology as she 'learns' that if you say something to yourself that you will do, or give a word to other, or if you have some external comitment, you don't necessary need to follow it, and you can always break or go around that rule without consequences. And I told this to my dad many times, and my mom keeps repeating this over and over again, and he understnads this 'logically' but he just keeps doing it, like many other bad habits he has. He has a bad habit of watching TV, and so my sister does too. And when he reasons about her lack of will or stubborness or irresponsibility he says "oh well, she is going to grow out of that naturally..." No she won't. It will carry on to the rest of her life if she doesn't internalize and learn the right behaviours and attitudes. And the later she learns it, the harder it will be. So really the question is how to convey this to my dad to trigger a change? In which other ways I could help her to develop in responsibility? How would you suggest talking with my sister? Did I missed something? What's your opinion is the best thing I could do while I'm on holidays with my family to trigger it into positive trajectory? P.S. They don't speak English. Cheers
  9. Or... savoring the moment in silence as you breath in deeply, look at her/your eyes and smile.
  10. Found this interesting so called "intelligent design" which is perceived as the best evidence for the religion argument. They say god created. They are right. Not knowingly... Indeed God created it. That mother fucking G.
  11. The key is to be developing Truthful relationship with yourself as nature first. That's the ground, always. Then every other relationship with people or objects follow up, because your relationship with yourself = your relationship with external. But that's only if you want to. Whether you decide to spend the rest of your life around people, or isolated in the cave, it's still the same relationship in the end It will not get you distracted if you have a good relationship with nature, but it will be if you don't.
  12. From what you wrote I can feel that you have a pretty toxic view towards "learning attraction", and been engaging in pretty low-consciousness content that focuses on 'techniques' and 'gimmicks' etc. Read Models: How To Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson (PDF here: http://alphamalementality.com/free/Models - Mark Manson - First 3 Chapters.pdf, but I would suggest buying it.) Reading this can totally transform the way you go about 'fixing' this area of your life, because it can help you to take off the pressure of trying to do robotic "pick up" and focus on ORGANICALLY improving yourself instead, so that you can start getting results. Not the first time I'm suggesting this book in this forum and there is reason. It shows how to attract women through personal development and self-awareness rather than using techniques and tactics. It focuses on emotional process of seduction rather than logical steps and how to create powerful connection with women rather than trying to impress them. Big theme on vulnerability and non-neediness. Covers how to develop yourself in three main pillars of seduction: honest living, honest action and honest communication. (And this is key, because what will you see after reading this book is that the conventional of "pick-up" plays a very small role in this process, because it's all about developing YOU first.) Focuses a lot on how to build your lifestyle in a way you're surrounded by high-quality women that resonate with your values. Full of question-exercises helping to find own limiting beliefs and increase self-awareness to help create more authentic living, action and communication. Full of real life situational examples of the author. Change how you view "learning attraction". It's not about sex, and all about emotional connection and the self-development part itself. Right now you want to fuck, but when this is fixed, you will want to build intimate relationships which boils down to the same thing - understanding female psychology and attraction. It's about learning to connect with other people and yourself! It's like the psychedelic odyssey for your mind.
  13. You say it destroyed your confidence? I can guarantee that it didn't. What happened is that after you took some action, started learning about dating, etc, you simply became aware of your incompetence around women, and this made you feel worse than before. Why? Because that's a natural stages we go through when we want to improve at anything. Before you ever took action you were in "unconscious incompetence" stage which is where we all start before learning any skill - overrating your own ability. But after you start learning you go to "conscious incompetence" - you start to be aware that you are much worse and that it's much harder that you expected. Going out didn't killed your confidence. It just made you conscious of how much is there yet to improve. Which in turn made you feel less confident than before. But that's good! Keep learning. Keep practicing. Work on your sticking points. Until you move to "conscious competence" and then to "unconscious competence". It's like when you are learning to drive a car - at first before ever driving a car, you feel pretty confident, but then when you actually sit on the wheel your confidence goes down. Then you practice, practice, and you become good, but it's not natural yet, you still need to be conscious of all the little things you have to do, but over years you become so used to it, that you don't even think about driving, you do it automatically. You wanna allow yourself to get a little bit worse in order to expand your comfort zone and move to more competent levels. Hope it helps.
  14. Different advice for different levels of development.
  15. A simple comfort zone challenge. Not easy to do. This website right here has some interesting challenges: http://www.comfortzonecrusher.com