Dan Arnautu

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  2. Posted

    @Leo Gura My country is heavily blue with lots of red actually. It's a shit show here. 

    I consider myself very fortunate to have gotten into green because of the internet.

    I read books and follow teachers from all stages and by bombarding myself everyday with those. It's the only thing that's counteracting the downward pull. 

    I found very few people that are at green in my country, even in Bucharest. I can count them on two hands.

    I only found them by virtue of the law of attraction.

    That's why I want to relocate soon. I see no other choice and I don't want to stiffle my development. 

    I'm thinking of the Netherlands. 

  6. Posted

    8 minutes ago, Aimblack said:

    Get the book integral life practice which gives you a couple of distinctions that spiral dynamics doesn't have on it's own. Let's take the sexual dev, line for instance you would break down your experience down into 4 quadrants. And then ask yourself questions fitting for each of the for quadrants.

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    Questions I would ask would be: 

    I: How do I relate to sex mentally and emotionally, what does sex mean to me mentally/emotionally

    It;How does my body relate to sex ? 

    Etc..

    The answers you give will show how you view sex and what it is for you at the moment(Is it about power and dominance( or about is it mainly a physical need? Is more focused on you pleasure or a tool for communication? Is it a mundane mechanical act or is it something spiritual? 

     

    Thank you. This is helpful. Yeah, the lines of the development Leo mentioned are from Wilber. 

  7. Posted

    @Nahm You totally missed the point of the question, and totally the point of today's video.

    We know the assessment is relative, we know the models are conceptual constructions that collapse in nonduality. 

    Yet the concepts are still useful in the relative domain. You can go sit in a cave otherwise and forget all about them.

    But for those of us who are trying to understand the dynamics of the ego and the collective, these are useful. Don't throw the raft until you get to the other side... so they say. ;)

    Much love though.

  8. Posted

    Leo mentioned the lines of development in the new video:

    • Cognitive Development
    • The Values Line
    • The Moral Line
    • Career and Livelihood
    • Health, Nutrition and Diet
    • Personal Relationships
    • Metaphysical/Spiritual Line
    • Education Line
    • Political Dev. line
    • Sexual Dev. Line
    • Kinesthetic Dev. Line

    How does one assess where he is at when it comes to each line?

    I kind of intuitively assessed my own level on most, except the Spiritual and Kinesthetic line because I don't even know what those would look like. What are the questions I should ask myself?

    Or is there a resource I can use to find these out?

    Thanks in advance.

  11. Posted

    @AleksM I am familiar with David Hawkins' chart. When Leo talks about raising your consciousness, he doesn't refer only to increasing the quality of emotions you feel (ex. from courage to acceptance or from apathy to fear).

    Leo said a while ago that all the videos from Actualized.org raise your consciousness in some way. I do agree, but if that's the case, time management or becoming a strategic motherfucker doesn't fit David's model. A different definition might be needed.

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    How to Stop Being a Victim - Part one

    What is a victim?

    A person who gives away control.

     

    Ask yourself this:  "Who is ultimately responsible for the quality of your life?"

    Is it your

    • Parents?
    • Family?
    • Environment?
    • The country you grew up in?
    • Friends?
    • Coworkers?
    • Boss?
    • Husband/Wife/Kids?
    • Girlfriend/Boyfriend?
    • Genetics?
    • Economy?
    • Political climate?
    • Media?
    • Society?
    • Entertainment?
    • Hollywood?
    • The news?
    • History/how you were raised?

     

    If you answered anything but "me", you are thinking like a victim.

     

    You need to take responsibility of your own:

    • Success
    • Relationships
    • Most people will take responsibility of these two
    • Failures
    • Ex. A diet or a relationship that did not work
    • Emotions
    • They are not caused by external environments
    • Accidents
    • Circumstances
    • People love to use circumstances as excuses

     

    Stages of consciousness

    • The Victim
    • The Fighter
    • All about conflict
    • Thinks it's a dog eat dog world
    • That there always think life is a zero sum game
    • Always fighting stuff
    • The Creator
    • Someone who realizes that life is what you make of it
    • Focused on making stuff
    • Being at Peace
    • You don't have any control at all
    • Life force flowing through it
    • Everything goes smoothly, without resistances

     

    Responsibility vs Blaming

    • You don't need to BLAME yourself. You are not TO BLAME for your genetics, family, etc.
    • You just need to take responsibility
    • You need to choose how you react
    • If you were born in a not so developed country, you have the capability in the present moment to change your own situation and attitude towards that circumstance
    • Your brain is really good at creating excuses that will prevent you from going out of your comfort zone
    • It's almost like you can not trust yourself
    • If you are a victim right now, you need to be cautious of believing what you think and your excuses

     

    Why do people become victims?

    • Because it's scary to admit to yourself that you are responsible for everythingAnd that means that you suddenly have a lot of work to do
    • A lot of personal development has to happen

     

    The problem is that you are not taking enough action

    MASSIVE ACTION

    Without action, you won't overcome any obstacles

    Don't trust your brain to tell how much action you need to take

    It will always be too little

     

    A list of common phrases victims say to themselves and other people:

    • I can't
    • This is maybe the worst one
    • It's impossible
    • It's too hard
    • Life is unfair
    • I must/I need to/I have to
    • I've never done that
    • What if I fail?
    • It's his/her/it's fault
    • I already tried that
    • Most people haven't really tried that much
    • This will never happen
    • But this always happens
    • I'll give it a shot
    • Maybe/I think
    • I'm not good enough (at x,y,z)
    • But what's the point? There's no point
    • It's too much effort
    • Great for young people, but it's too late for me
    • Sure, it's easy for you. You had this and had that. I have this and that handicap
    • But how?

     

    How to Stop Being a Victim - Part Two

     

    What makes a victim a victim?

    • A victim thinks that  the external world is a much bigger obstacle than he is to himself
    • YOU, ARE, THE ONLY, OBSTACLE
    • It's your mind that's the problem
    • The problem is, if you are a victim, you won't believe this
    • Victims don't realize that the mind is the only obstacleVictims don't appreciate the possibility of self-deception
    • They don't take this very seriously

     

    What you should really worry about:

    • The internal world. Your
    • Mental filters
    • Attitude
    • Limiting beliefs
    • Judgements
    • Unquestioned assumptions about reality
    • Lack of introspection
    • Visualizations
    • Monkey mind
    • Model of reality
    • Emotional reactions
    • What you view as right and wrong and good and evil
    • The habits that you cultivate
    • Your self talk
    • The words you use, the tonality etc.
    • Awareness/Consciousness
    • Ego and it's relationships to other people

     

    Instead of this, you worry about the external world.

    Truth is, your internal world shapes your external world.

    Problems are not things that exist in the external world.

    They are projections of your mind.

    Until you become aware enough of this fact for yourself, you won't be able to let the problems go.

    Until then, the world will appear hostile, unfair and cruel.

  17. Posted

    I had terrible anxiety resulting frequently in panic attacks. The pqnic attacks usually came about from letting the mind run amok on existential questions and resisting both the feelings and the thoughts.

    I've set an alarm every hour labeled "Let go :)" to remind myself to do an internal check in to see if worry or anxiety had acumulated, especially in the abdomen. 

    After 3 alarms my abdomen still felt very contracted, my mind uneasy, and felt both anxiety and worry. 

    I started again asking the questions: Can I allow myself to feel this feeling fully? Can I let this feeling go? Would I let it go? When? 

    And after I got through those and said Now, I inhaled and clenched my fists really hard and then I let go in a swooping motion of my hands coupled with the exhale, and at the same time imagining a knot untangling from my abdomen area.

    Done this two times and all the worry and anxiety went away fully. Also felt a slight euphoria. 

    But what surprised me was that not only was it gone, COMPLETELY DISSOLVED, but I tried evoking it back to see if I could and I couldn't, haha. 

    For two hours I was in a state of deep peace and couldn't cause anxiety or fearful thoughts to myself. I was amazed. 

    I'm gonna keep doing it. This is just an update on my progress. Hope this helps some other people out. 

    I also had a terrible fear of heights, which resulted in 1 panic attack during my first flight. On my third flight I used deep diaphragmatic breathing coupled with the letting go technique and the flight was almost a breeze. I felt so proud and alive afterwards. 

  18. Posted

    I remember when I read "The 48 Laws of Power". Very sneaky and manipulative.

    I couldn't even read the whole "Art of Seduction". It was so sleazy and manipulative that it made me sick to my stomach and had to stop halfway through the book.

    I decided to give him another chance with his new book, "The Laws of Human Nature".

    Here, he is dissecting the bad in human nature and gives us ways to become more empathetic, to understand another's point of view, to understand our own shadow etc. He tries to make us understand human behavior and how to act more consciously.

    Glad he is starting to move up. He is not going to the root as much as actualized.org videos, but it's still a breath of fresh air imo.

    What do you think?

  21. Posted

    I want to find a few good high consciousness news sources. It doesn't have to be spiritually linked. I just want a news outlet that isn't that biased, that doesn't instigate hate, that doesn't prey on the human cognitive biases etc.

    I want to be aware of what's happening around me and around the world. It's easy to get confined to your own bubble. I'm looking for:

    - News and breakthroughs in tech

    - Unbiased analyses of what's happening in politics and environmental issues

    - New results from studies in psychology, neuroscience

    - What's happening with businesses around the world. Also, new, innovative start-ups that solve large issues

    - Unforeseen natural disasters

    - News about how different things affect humans (positively or negatively)

    I want to feel the pulse of the world around me. If you know any good news outlets, please let me know.

  24. Posted · Edited by Dan Arnautu

    @Heaven If you want to learn entrepreneurship, university is one of the worst places for that. Why? Because the market and the economy is changing way too fast for universities to keep up. What you learn in one semester is most likely already 2 years outdated. But of course, the professors aren't gonna recognize that. Their jobs are at stake.

    It's way more cost effective to shadow a successful entrepreneur that works in the niche you want to study. 

    Also, entrepreneurship is very hard to teach. Because to be a successful entrepreneur, you have go through uncharted territory, be creative and have a lot of grit. Only the field teaches you that.

    A quick way to assess if you have entrepreneurial blood in you is this:

    If you can't spend more than 1 or 2 months working for somebody without wanting to claw your leg off and do your own thing, you are most likely cut to be an entrepreneur.