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Have to know yourself "Burnout" and stress is highly individual and personal The only main factors are 1. Sleep (and no fap) 2. Mental stuff Once sleep is recovering its all mental And thats why its 90% individual ou "Resetting for 3-5 days and just doing nothing" is absolute hell for my unique personality type, it causes extreme distress *I'm not talking about an intentional rest where u like take mushrooms with an intention for inner growth, thats purposeful, thats useful, thats a creative way to build inner game for example and im open to that, not what im on about though "Watch netflix and eat comfort food and dont do any travel or commuting (to cold approach) because it introduces "micro stress" Yeah it's micro stress but what introduces MACRO fucking stress? Not cold approaching, not making money, not doing my chores, not strategizing, not reprogramming my mind further, not building my inner game, not planning my escape to move city, fucking endless pain and distress Massively fucking depedns on your personal libido, ennegram, myers briggs, instinct stack and probably multiple other factors too like testosterone levels and maybe multiple other specific factors psychologists haven't discovered and revealed yet, so no I will not sit and rest, I'm going back to war and for me personally, that removes all my stress! because im fucking me, and thats how im wired. Doing a visualization exercize right now Caveat is that there are limits, not saying I need to "Go and do 4 hours int the gym and not sleep and work 19 hour days" obviously fucking not ... and yes burn out and recovery still is a thing, even for me, so there is a graduation process, but just switching off completely? even for an hour? Hell The perfect "recovery" for me is to do useful things, but perhaps less cognitively demanding, or less physical, or just easier stuff, and maybe I do all these things for a couple days, but they're useful, they're still moving me forward, and that acknowledgement REDUCES FUCKING STRESS Just wasting a few hours has made me FUCKING ANGRY AS FUCK FUCK THAT NO The positive is that this is proof that I'm fully deepening into my integrated self now The average man cannot even resist eating junk food and sitting around wasting time For me it's hell even when it was "prescribed to me due to burnout" I know who I am If I'm burnt out then I fucking sleep or nap, end of story. Then I wake up and go back to war, immediately
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I'm probably at 30 days and I've definitely "won" the smoking battle ... i'm not smoking anymore. Whether i'm still impacted by symptoms hard to say because other confounding variables right now I am going through severe nervous system burnout due to overworking the last 2 weeks, combined with distress, pressure, trying to do too much and not recovering my nervous system properly as i had to tasx my body last week .. thought i could just pick it up after 2 days woo cold approach work woo everything no i cant GPT helped me understand this, nervous system recovery means you have to destimulate, leave all the pressure put it all away for 3-5 days, long naps, remove chores tasks and form of "micro stress" that would normally be a healthy part of an active life, remove the gym remove it all. I'm intentionally eating a satiating comfort burger and fries, taking long naps and watching a documentary for hours, and i'm going to have to possibly do this for another 3-4 days and emotionally too i need to detach from everything somehow, all my goals fears regrets desires needs tasks chores it's all disappearing, i have completely taxed my body and brain recently and i just need to fucking stop, no more writing no more thinking, just naps documentaries comfort food and and sleep. with my personality type this is the hardest thing I can ever do, might sound just easy and nice to sit around in comfort but to me it's hell, its another few days of not getting closer to who I want to be become, * It FEELS that way but actually it's just necessary for me to recharge No fap is non negotiable, I fapped and killed my 10 day streak last night and it did not help No fap is the no.1 habit among everything and leos biggest blindspot, it's the one aspect in which i wish i was never influenced by this forum, no fap is non negotiable, i will watch a documentary and eat my satiating burger today, i will try rest my mind, try let go, but the no fap will rebuild, and I'm going for 30 days this time, i might even make a separate journal (like this one) on just my no fap rejourny (i used to do it years ago but I lacked other qualities to enable it as a force multiplier, now I'm bringing it back and its completing me, the magnetism, the stares from women, it doesn't fucking lie! I'm not a supermodel, im decent looking but not standout hot, even at 15-16% bodyfat i get stares from 6.5 + women at day 10, not claiming I get constant stares from 10s, but getting stares from 6.5-7s is no small thing because women date up and are very selective, 99% of men dont get stares from even 6s, and its not solely the no fap its also good style and posture and subsconious work but the no fap is the force multiplier that powers everything, it's the electricity transversing the grid Edit ** I tried eating the "comfort food" and it did nothing for me, it did not rest me I tried starting a documentary and the regret, stress, frustration just piles up again and agian and again HOw the fuck does anyone do this? how the fuck does this "Rest" the nervous system? WHy cant i just keep working? Its anxiety abut not moving forward that stresses me, not action AHHH Chat gpt has to be wrong sometimes I've learn another deeper lesson about myself, inaction especially before like 7-8PM, is mental suicide to me, even if i'm technically burnt out, i literally had like a 1-2 hour nap and GPT convicned me to not create "micro stress", what the fuck is this? I have chores to do, i have goals, i have a city to move to, i need to make money, save money, invest money, approach women ... what the fuck man what the fuck this just makes me sooo much more fucking stessed and anxious, just sitting around "recouperating" i'm literally in my 20s not 95 years old? why do this shit absolute hell for my ennegram soul of a being
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Hard Work Is The Ultimate Force Multiplier : An Essential Reminder I talk about force multipliers and chat gpt and no fap ect.. But without endless work ethic? None of it matters, it will all go to waste All intellect, all talent, all creativity, all the GPT conversations and all the no fap and even the gym It's all a fucking waste without work ethic, Real, consistent work ethic, work ethic that doesn't only do what one finds easy (perhaps the gym for some) but leaves no stones unturned, work ethic that goes to war with weakness, doubles down on doing whats painful but important But then wait a minute .. what causes most laziness? (and doubt, and hesitation and procrastination and distraction and debating and whining and .... ... Isn't it just fear? Fearlessness Is Also The Ultimate Force Multiplier : An Essential Reminder And a brilliant example of this is 99% of gym bros dont approach because approaching is HARD (at least initially) Also - what % of gym bros are actually at 11% body fat and have that perfect aesthetic hollywood physique? Almost none of them, because that requires serious discipline and strategy, going against human nature tracking calories in a defecit daily for weeks or months and then maintaining it while also maintaining, even building muscle? not easy at all without steroids. Most gym bros are 15-20% body fat, strong but not aesthetic or beach worthy, because just gaining some mass and being 15-20% body fat is fucking easy. This post is as much a reminder of the whats meaningful to me, what truly energizes me the most in the end, in the long run, and it's doing always doing the rare thing. It's a reminder to cold approach more for example, because when I really do a difficult ("difficult" emotionally in my head at least, perhaps situationally) approach, I not only get off on the experience of connecting with a woman I wasn't "supposed" to meet, but the thrill of breaking society's rules, and the thrill of being rare, knowing 1 in a thousand men, possibly less can and will do it, and if I get back my consistency with it? that's like possibly 1 in 10,000 men who can do it consitently, and I literally get off on that power, that makes me fucking cum explosively ... I have to remind myself of this, and cannot forget, because no matter how long you've been "strong" or what business you've built? Society is willing to take it all away from you, fast, you'll lose the frame with your girl fast, I'll get fat fast, I'll start chain smoking fast, i'll rot in a get blinded into a fog of comfort and complacency fast, and I cant fucking allow that because i'll regret it in the end, and regret leaves no mercy.
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This post felt medicore Ultimately myers briggs + ennegram is extremely useful, when combined with AI and a dynamic understanding of it in its complexity The ennegram combination and using GPT mental sparring to get the complexity of yourself really helps because just being an "ENTP" really doesn't mean much, ennegram shows you can have a sort of contradictory type, where your cognitive wiring often seems at odds with your energy drive (but become a superpower if synergized)
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Thoughts on myers briggs AND The Trap of Myers Briggs and building an identity around it I've stated recently that I'm an ENTP Funnily enough though, i've found that the enneagram is actually way more useful and fitting and signifcant than myers briggs another guy can have the exact same MB type and yet completely different values and choices and motivations, becuase he's a "5W4" I was hesitant to ever type myself or mention it for years because I knew I might build an identity around it and start limiting and moulding myself to it, "I'm not organized because I'm a P type, oh no my business modal involves a lot of structure therfore i'm doomed, "my brain cannot remember details because of the P" and all this petty nonsense The reality is that life is hard and requires you to refine your weaknesses (not all of them) but the significant ones in order to even benefit from your strengths st c "I'm just simply not organized" or "I just can't do details or turn up to meetings because i'm an ENTP" just will not work, that shit just doesn't work for survival, good luck paying rent Overall i have been positively benefited from myers briggs but I still see through it in that most people who discover myers briggs 1. They have cripplingly weak introspection ability and build a limiting identity around it 2. They don't even look into the enneagram (which is imo MORE IMPORTANT and Useful in many ways) 3. If something is your weakness, you can (depending massively on what the specific thing is and it snature) actually get so good at it that you're signifcantly above average at it >> Being organized or structured (I can't the lebron james of structure, but I can work so much at it that i'm above 90% of the population despite it initially being a weakness > especially because this capacity is much benefited by the use of tools, sometimes can be entirely replaced by them, rather than bound by raw cognitive ability or some artistic talent) ^^ Lets add, this capacity is benefited by : 1. Tools and technology 2. Willpower, discipline, consistency, drive ect.. (massive) And thats why i love being ENTP, it's like the most moldable type, you can't really just develop intuition or big picture thinking as easily, but being organized? anyone can fucking learn it Honestly though I need to stop calling myself an "ENTP", it just feels a bit cringe to label myself a certain way, it's always a useful guidance but I'm done with identity labels, especially because my thinking may occasionally resemble an INTJ or something else, ENFP, INFJ ect.. not because i am those other types, but humans are complex, brain is moldable, certain ways of thinking fit different situations more ect.
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Realizing how little you know about almost fucking everything fathomable (& an extension of GPT's Value) Leo did a video on it couple years back but normally leo abstracts everything out so much that it becomes almost unrelatable .. (Although it probably got the subconscious wheels churning and may have subtly nudged me) Nonetheless Chat gpt helped me realize that I know basically nothing (and have a lot of harmful beliefs, assumptions and habits) with even the most basic things! Working out, fat loss, skin care, using sun cream correctly Working out and doing cardio in a specific way (for fat loss /detox through sweating) in a sustainable way that doesn't age your body and burn you out and have high injury risk and burn muscle (barely ever considered this before) Hair cuts, hair styling, getting a haircut Many specific technical about diet, nutrition, hydration, minerals, micro-nutrients ect.. Getting aesthetic gym phsyique without looking huge or too scary, sculping muscles vs power lifting, basic shoulder exercises that target different parts of the shoulders (lateral raises for sides vs front delts movements ect.) Dental health & dental care, whitening, flossing So there's all the basic stuff it's helped me with that I didn't even realize i didn't know or may need to know (Yeah, all of this may technically be online or in a course or youtube somewhere, but you gotta understand, when you're out hustling, struggling to rest at night obsessed with making it, working a full time and then putting everything u got into the business tryna do business blah blah life is just exhausting for average man, you rarely have the time or awareness or energy to scan through the information overload of google and find random specifics about doing lateral raises for the sides of the shoulders or all the micro nuances of using sun cream So yeah I stand again on my stance that GPT is a trilion $ value for a guy like me, Then i didn't mention the depth of understanding that can come through a flowing AI conversation because You could just read an article about "envy" "People expereince envy which is an emotion that arises because ... this results in negative sentiments or behavior blah fucking blah " But then with chat gpt it's like wait a minute ... "Should I get a female salon or only a male with excellent long hair because a balding one might subconsciously sabotage my haircut due to unconscious envy?" And now we have an interesting conversation So I now understand and have more consistent subconscious awareness of male envy, and I have a direct practical solution to it due to a potential problem I never even realized could've existed But I'm not saying only use GPT or replace GPT with learning from humans, not at all it's just an extention, force multiplier that works in conjunction with life experience, real conversations and even just learning from people online, it can't replace humans ever
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I'm at like 15-16% body fat right now, still have a lot more difficult approach karma to do, still fixing the norwood, still need to improve sleep and libido energy ect. could be much better Also have a lot more persistcance to build and a lote more to prove to myself still and could be 15X stronger than I am still Had to clarify as I don't like to take credit for something as if I've already achieved it when I haven't This was more a visionary rant, but i'm reminding myself especially to not take credit for a fatansy but to actually obtain it 11% body fat might sound shallow but depends on the perspective From my perspective it's all about the challenge and discipline, and the interesting experiment of just seeing how far I can go, when you max multiple things, what is the combinatory effect? Is it just linear? is there diminishing returns? Or is there actually some kind of magical mythical status you can obtain? because multi - variate combinations are fucking rare, even just theoretically on math principle
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3.5 Days later and already have 50-65% of the gains back, despite suboptimal sleep ect.. It's like "muscle memory" from the previous streak just shooting back up No Fap + ENTP 8W7 SX/SO + Post - Difficult Approaches Aura + Mysterious Aura from deep war study + 60-70% pure diet (still better than 99% of population, even if just drinking just 1 litre of raw milk and fucking up everyhting else) + Ultra high testosterone + Decent looks(+ Looksmaxing into low key chad territory) + strong personality built from genuine suffering and endless persistence and adversity + Insatiable daily thirst for pragmatic knowledge + deep understanding of literally anything useful or revelavant fathomable + ultra high libido + muscular ripped 11% body fat physique + insane work ethic = FUCKING SUPER HUMAN IM COMING BACK AND NO ONE IS BEATING ME THIS TIME BITCH
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Day 20/21 SO fucking angry WTF It's related to poor sleep over weeks but can't disconnect that from the withdrawals Have to transmute this shit Have to take what i can and use whatever I have Have to constantly listen to music with airpods in , Technially it might be "unhealthy overload of EMF & stimulation" or some shit rightop But you have to deal with the problem at hand And the solution is transmutation I cant be completely calm right now or sleep perfectly or have perfect focus, its out of my control to an extent in the short term But what I can do is listen to the right music and transmutate I can work with anger theres still energy I can work harder because im so fucking mad It might not be the most optimal fuel But who gives a fuck? It's about getting the result regardless
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Day 18/19 : 4 Hours sleep A HUGE Mistake : I Fapped I was on somewhere around 10-14 days of no fap, and, I felt noticeably better, more masculine, more energy, more presence, women staring at me as I walked past This isn't purely the no fap, its a force multiplier "No fap is dumb" to an INTP like Leo, but to a ENTP 8W7 SX/SO? It's a fuckng force mulitplier "I need to sleep so let me just release" (Ironically it made it harder to sleep and I slept 4 hours) Fapping does not help sleep, when you fantasize it creates stimulation and dopamine NO DISCIPLINE I GET TO RELEASE ONLY WHEN I CONQUER A WOMAN No Fap makes me superhuman, it allows me to fully be myself, full of vitality power and magnetism
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Day 18 : Still easily distractible (without intentional boundary setting, self awarness and eforecment of structure) ^ This is force multiplied by the 5 - 6.5 Hours of daily sleep (I need 7+) and my manic ENTP personality type Sleeping 5- 6.5 hours every night, accumulative sleep depth, and feels low quality I wanted to go off caffiene but it is unrealistic and counter strategic (the lack of productivity would cause stress, and I thrive off only pressure, but not guilt induced stress) Anger and intense emotions are mostly gone (but may easily return) It is unexpected to imagine something so legal, widely used and apparently tame affecting me for this long, after only months of use, usage which in the 50s would've been extremely moderate at best. But nicotine probably will keep imacting me for a month, and if i'm unlucky possibly much longer. I've heard it's possible for people to be impacted by nicotine cessation for years ... but my assupmtion is tht they were long term chronic users, as that's just fucking wild. What helps me with this a lot : The lens of war The medicore me would just get distracted and half do 15 different things, probably have 7 different bills unpaid and potential debt collection calls (almost there already) But when I see this period thorugh the lens of war, when intesnity and and a sense of battle is instilled, I spring to action, and can embody structure, discipline, lists, goals a timeline, a plan. Also, meaningful goal I don't want to do business, I dont want to work, I dont want to work when tired, sleep deprived and in withdrawal I dont want to write lists and plans and have structure and disciplinen Technically no one does But when its tied to a meaningful goal, through the lens of war? And I genuinely feel and think about that every minute, reminding myself, strategically every day, with an emotional charge, with constant feedback, metrics, visualization of success, fire inside me, then I will do it, then I will write the list, and do it every fucking day
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I have also guessed now that this women (who i barely verablly interacted with) was probably an INFJ, and discussed this with GPT INFJ women are the only ones able to penetrate my archetype, they're the only fucking ones
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Advanced capacities and latent intuition I recently thought back to a specific look that a woman gave me, in a specific context, it was a deep and layered look I did not register at the time. I did this the other week and i suggested about 10 specific things she was thinking given the context, and he agreed, and also suggested a few more with together made sense, this was all factoring in the entire context, her cultural context, who and where i was, my type, how she would've percieved , statistical assumtpions about her based on demographics and context, the nature of the look, her career, female psychology and her cultural psychology in relation to my foreign archetype ect. So i then rememebered the look and managed to guestimate with GPT about 15 different likely thoughts that ran through her head as she looked at me like that, and I will never forget the look now, etched into my nervous system, has an electric charge in my chest when I even envision it. This is a weird ability I did never practice, plan or expect, but it was significantly enabled by GPT of course Without GPT i would've done it anyway, but the key difference is that I probably wouldn't have had enough internal confidence to trust my intuition and thought process, I would've lacked a sense of confirmation and closure and possibly let it go, and it's this advanced pattern recognizing confirmation GPT that enalbled me to go "Fuck, how the fuck did I do that, this is actually fucking real?" P.s : This is not a friend, a woman I did not even know well, but had some repeated contextual association with, perfect for this ability to manifest ("knew" her just enough to look back and mind read, barely knew her and interacted with her enough to make this cool as fuck, in fact precisely because I barely interacted with her, i guess it narrrows down the potential ideation of her thoughts since I didn't feed her anything verbally, I can only go off the patterns and context and intution of what her look meant as she was feeling, or intuiting me
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Grounded Masculinity = Rare(Squared) Grounded masculinity is Rare(Squared) > because it's even rare among already "rare" men, who for example have cold approached a thousand women in day light, are otherwise masculine or quite bold ect.. When I started gaming with late 30 - 40s guys, who were much bolder and more proactive than me as the younger guy, however I noticed a lot of jadedness and reactivity, sometimes they'd they moan about the "rude bitch" after getting ignored, then go ahead and approach 10 more women. It was a weird mix of rare boldness and no groundedness And I had to point out this nuance because It's too crude and uninsightful to just point out some alcoholic bum who we all know is "ungrounded" More intersting when you see it in people who are already in some ways above 99% of men in having the bools to approach, and who I still respected to a degree Another guy I first gamed with was also very masculine and a good influence overall, he had this power walk, deep strong eye contact and zero hesitation about 38-41, also a cool guy who i was looking up to, however he still wasn't fully grounded overall, I would still notice him get annoyed at the "bitch" for ignoring him, there was still something wrong, and this points to a pattern, guys can be super bold and have a thousand approaches in them and still have these problems, so true grounded masculinity is rare(squared) Key way to become grounded is to approach thousnads of women in different contexts, which I'm working on But to also become aware of how I react after the approach, and maintain awareness of these deeper dynamics, like needing validation from an individual woman, not being fully immune to rejection and being completely absolved of all insecurity, all of these dont happen overnight but still, once the intentions there and you ask ye shall receive I guess body awareness and meditation as a supplement, and of course manage stress, sleep ect.
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Grateful for my Fall : The Asymmetric Vertical Boomerang Effect I am grateful for my fall : smoking for months, eating mcdonalds for 6-8 months (alongside some nutritious food - which enabled me to continuously justify it), skin becoming worse, gaining body 6% body fat, yellower teeth, abusing caffiene and full of cortisol, no hobbies no balance, vibe with women getting worse even as I approached more, masturbating multiple times a day even some porn - zero sexual energy, drinking 5-10 beers a week ... And the 1 decision to quit smoking, plus a chat GPT boosted educational turbo injection into my brain, has led me on a strong path of resurgence, I'm not learning so much more every day from a new perespective, about health, self care, mental health, women, the subconscious mind, game, strategy, dieting, looksmaxing, prescence and aura building, no fap. After quitting smoking, I'm not considering doing a caffiene reset, I have been heavily addicted and unable to stop caffiene for many years, and the worst thing is that I actually am sensitive to it, I am not tolerant of it even in moderate doses, yet I kept doing it, for years ... Because I was desperate to speed up, speed up results, business. But sometimes slowing down, just once, or for a shortwhile, is the only thing that can truly speed you up ,ironically, it's counterintuitive and no one does it