I used to need everything pre-planned, planned out in detail. Then I did pickup and it drilled into me how to be spontaneous and not need plans for anything. How to make decisions quickly without needing to be sure.

@StarStruck That's your big mistake right there. DO NOT HIDE YOUR RAW DESIRE FOR THE GIRL FROM THE GIRL.
It should be obvious from your approach that you desire her. But you can express thia desire in a needy or non-needy way.
Try opening with the line: "I desire you." And then just stand there looking smug and see how she reacts.
Girls LOVE to be desired by high value guys!
Also, lower your standards from 9's and 10's to 6's. You need EXPERIENCE! Go fuck a 200 pound girl just for the experience! I don't care if you don't enjoy it.

Incels are not incels because they don't value women or treat women well. They are Incels because they don't ever meet any women.
Guys who get laid a lot do not value women. The more a guy gets laid the less he values women. But these guys socialize a lot, and Incels don't.
The idea that valuing women gets you laid is laughable and only something a woman could believe.

Dude, what you don't understand is that having pussy on tap was never a thing unless you were a king.
Most guys who lose a girlfriend will need years to replace her. Guys struggling to get sex is the norm even if they are moderately social.
If you want an abundance of sexual options there is nothing natural about that. That is a highly artifical scenario which requires special design and effort. It's not enough to just be social, you must be insanely social, out every night hunting for girls. That or become a celebrity.
Getting laid was never easy. Which is why guys found one girl and got married for life.

I appreciate your creativity and effort, but truly, these are really bad openers.
Here's why:
Because they are corny, gimmicky, awkward, try-hard, and inauthentic.
Think of it this way: if you were a high value guy, like Brad Pitt, would you sit around inventing these kind of openers to get girls? No. What would be Brad Pitt's opener? "Hey there. You're kinda cute. I'm Brad Pitt. Who are you?"
Openers need to be simple and authentic. Because the opener is never what gets you laid. No girl is gonna hear your amazing clever opener and fall in love with you. It doesn't work that way. The opener is just a way to get a conversation started.
Try to talk to a girl like a normal human being. Stop being so gamey. Gameyness is the hallmark of bad game.
It's really not about the words you say but your confidence, vibe, energy, smile, and eye contact. If you got that down you can open with, "I love cucumbers!"

Of course the eaziest way to get a girl is to already have one under your arm.
Girls are attracted to status and leadership. Leaders are surrounded by followers and orbiters.
This goes back to old school Mystery Method principles. You can use girls to get more girls. The effect is exponential.
An effective way to cheat this system is to do lots of set merging. Walk up to a randon group of girls and immediately introduce them to another random group of girls. Then pick off your girl and walk away with her while the others keep each other busy. Solid technique. Helps build state too and good way to warm up if you enter the club solo.

Just cause you love a girl does not mean you gotta have her in your house every day. This is not healthy.
I love ice cream but I don't eat it every morning. And if I did I would get sick of it.
If you like a girl, create space for the chemistry to recharge. It's like you're draining a battery and never giving it time to recharge.
Not to mention that as a man you got other things to be doing than babysitting your girl. You need space to work on your life purpose and she should have something she's working on too, not just middling around your house.
Obviously do whatever you want, but I would urge you to think about how you might be shooting yourself in the foot by unconsciously following the "normal" path without thinking it through. Why do you need a girl living in your house? Think about it. Is that really wise?

Tell her to move out.
Don't allow distractions like that. Your space is divine and should not be given up for any girl.
Living together is only gonna make you two hate each other soon.
If you love a girl, the best way to ruin it is to see her too often. And everyday is the worst.

Game sober. Learn to manage your own emotional state.
You need to literally just practice leading for like a solid month.
Go into a club, just walk up to a girl, don't say anything, gently take her by the hand, and walk her over to the bar. Do this 100 times and just see what happens. Some girls will reject you hard, but a few will just come along. This will teach you leading.
Treat the girl like she is yours from the get-go. Take her wherever you want. That is the proper attitude. It's her choice not come along and you never take that personally. You should always err on the side of leading too much rather than second-guessing yourself. The worst that will happen is she will say No. And even then you can still continue flirting with her and try again in 5 minutes.
As soon as you see a girl likes you, take her by the hand and lead her somewhere, anywhere, if only 10ft to the left. Once you succeed at that, try leading her 100ft. Then 1000ft. Then to your car. Then to your house. Then to your bed.

1) You shouldn't be high when doing pickup. Ever.
2) Don't waste your time trying to pick up girls who are high on Molly. Their state will crash soon and you'll just be babysitting an emotional mess, not having sex.
Whenever I meet a girl on Molly in the club, I just immediately move on another girl. I don't wanna deal with her bullshit.
Pulling girls who are drunk or high will come back to bite you in the ass. Focus on more sober girls.
Other than that, it doesn't matter the location as long as there are girls you like there. Approach every girl you find hot, talk to her, screen her quickly for being too drunk or too high. You should be screening for the pull right off the bat. If she's not pullable, don't waste your time, move on to the next girl. Keep your game tight. You're not there to waste time on nonsense.

Lots of practice makes perfect.
The only way to learn game is to go out there and do it until you are smooth like a baby's ass. It all fixes itself with years of approaching and socializing.

In daytime situations like that your best bet is an authentic opener that just narrates how you feel. Like this:
"Hey there. I know this seems random, but I was literally just sitting there when I saw you and felt the urge to say Hello but didn't know what to say because I thought it would come off weird. But anyways, here we are. My name is _____ . Who are you?"
Or you can just do a very streamlined opener:
"Hey there. You caught my eye so I wanted to meet you real quick. Hi, I'm ______ ."
This opener works for basically any situation and it is honest.
The most powerful openers are observational and situational. You notice something about the girl's appearance and make a comment based on that. These kind of openers are a bit more advanced because you have to train yourself to be good at observing the girl. These require experience.

@spiritual memes
You can apply this story to yourself and all beings whom you come to argument with
The Story of the Donkey and Tiger
The donkey told the tiger: 
′′The grass is blue". 
The tiger replied: 
′′No, the grass is green".
The discussion became heated up, and the two decided to submit the issue to arbitration, and to do so they approached the lion, King of the Jungle. 
Before reaching the clearing in the forest where the lion was sitting on his throne, the donkey started screaming:
′′Your Highness, is it true that grass is blue?".
The lion replied:
"True, the grass is blue". 
The donkey rushed forward and continued: 
′′The tiger disagrees with me and contradicts me and annoys me please punish him".
The king then declared:
′′The tiger will be punished with 5 years of silence".
The donkey jumped for joy and went on his way, content and repeating:
′′The grass is blue"...
The tiger accepted his punishment, but he asked the lion:
′′Your Majesty, why have you punished me, after all, the grass is green?"
The lion replied:
′′In fact, the grass is green".
The tiger asked:
′′So why do you punish me?"
The lion replied:
′′That has nothing to do with the question of whether the grass is blue or green. The punishment is because it is not possible for a brave, intelligent creature like you to waste time arguing with a donkey, and on top of that to come and bother me with that question".
The worst waste of time is arguing with the fool and fanatic who doesn't care about truth or reality, but only the victory of their beliefs and illusions. Never waste time on discussions that make no sense... There are people who for all the evidence presented to them, do not have the ability to understand, and others who are blinded by ego, hatred and resentment, and the only thing that they want is to be right even if they aren’t. When ignorance screams, intelligence shuts up. Your peace and tranquility are worth more.
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@TheGreekSeeker Lol
Dude, this girl is total trash. You should not be wasting 1 second of your life thinking about her.
Don't supplicate to girls. If she cannot appreciate your value, she's being stupid and you just move on to the next girl. << this is the proper mindset.
Do not work so hard to please girls. If a girl is not into you within the first 5 minutes, she never will be. There is no magic thing you can say or do to make her like you.
P.S. FOB Asian girls can be very stand-offish. They tend to keep to their kind. They are very conformist. If you want quality Asian girls, you need Asian-American girls or cosmopolitan Asian girls. Find yourself an Asian girl who really appreciates a white guy.
The consolation is that you lost nothing because this girl was trash and not right for you. But you gained a good learning experience of how not to behave with girls in the future.
You need to be approaching way more girls and not getting so invested in them until after sex. Your whole approach is way too slow. Set a sexual frame right from the start and test whether she is attracted to you. Don't be wasting hours and days trying to butter girls up into liking you. You should be getting attraction within the first 5 minutes, otherwise you move on to other girls.

I'm gonna share this book today as I've never seen it mentioned before but it's one of the most powerful books I've read. The likeability factor by Tim Sanders 

 It's most likely the best book on social skills/charisma I've ever read. Much simpler and straight to the point than How to win friends and influence people. It breaks down charisma into 4 parts: friendliness, empathy, relevance, and authenticity, and then breaks down each part to give examples of it and explains how to develop it. 
Highly recommend it for anyone looking to make more friends/dates as well as anyone in a corporate setting where charisma and being well-liked are essential to their career. 
It's quite short at 224 pages so you can read it and start implementing it within a week. 
Solid 8/10, Must Read 

@Ar_Senses This strange loopiness is only a feature of the symbolic mind.
In the ultimate sense, there is only one substance, one thing in existence, so it is incapable of pointing at itself because it is itself!
Ultimately there is only Being. All symbols collapse into Being.
A snake eating its tail ultimately just turns into a dimensionless dot.
You are the universe trying to point at itself without realizing that pointing is impossible because when you are the whole universe anything you point to is you and anything you point with is also you!
What you are overlooking is Being! Direct Being!
Being cannot be known symbolically. You must BE it.
You must realize that all knowledge and thought is a 2nd order phenomenon, the foundation of which is Being. A 2nd order phenomenon cannot grasp 1st order phenomenon. Just like an image on an LCD screen cannot grasp a pixel because it is made out pixels! An image cannot know pixels because it IS pixels!

@Emotionalmosquito Way too try-hard. Dancing at the club is not about being technically good. It's about just being a goofball.
The #1 mistake of dancing at the club is trying to make it look smooth, cool, and professional. When you behave this way you're not properly in state and you will make girls cringe.
Stop caring how you look. Get into state and then just open every girl.
Enjoy yourself rather than trying to impress people.
A good technique is to dance like an idiot on purpose. You and your wing try to dance in the most idiotic way possible. It's a race to the bottom, not the top.
Don't confuse club dancing with pro dancing you see in music videos. That shit is all fake and staged. No one is having fun doing that.

From the Orange stage, paranormal phenomena cannot exist.
Orange is ego-driven, and paranormal phenomena are very subtle. So the ego cannot discern them, because it dismisses them as irrational, impossible, and "pseudo-scientific", and also paranormal phenomena are very difficult to employ towards materialistic needs or desires like money or sex, in the way that stage Orange envisions (although some rotten mystics still manage to do it). So you're not likely to use psychic powers to win the lottery.
The reason Sadhguru -- or any other masterful teacher of nonduality -- do not openly discuss or encourage paranormal development -- is because they know that it can be a path of delusion and distraction. It's like shiny object the ego likes to chase and try to abuse. Also, people who have paranormal abilities do not go around talking about it with random strangers because they would just be dismissed as New Age kooks. But if you think back into your own life, you can actually probably remember meeting a person who told you something paranormal, but you dismissed it as naivete on their part. Well, you might have to re-examine that judgment. Maybe it was right under your nose the whole time, but you ignored it.
I've personally met multiple highly conscious/spiritually developed people who have paranormal abilities. But they consider it totally normal. And they're very grounded and rational people.
Peter Ralston, for example, used psychic abilities to help him in this martial arts to win the full-contact championship in Asia in the 70's. People got killed in those tournaments sometimes, Bloodsport-style. He told me he could "know" the intent of his attacker prior to the attacker himself knowing it! How can you lose if you know every move a second in advance? Well... he never lost, from what I hear You do not wanna mess with him! Some of his opponents would refuse to even enter the ring after watching him warming up! Lol
He doesn't mention it much because he knows its a distraction for your ego. Now you want psychic powers to abuse. But it doesn't really work that way.
Almost every highly advanced enlightened person I've met has reported some kind of paranormal abilities or phenomena to me. Not that I explicit try to drag it out of them. Usually it's pretty subtle stuff. And it just gets mentioned as casual aside. As in, "Oh, yeah... by the way, I can heal people."
What?!!!
In the Eastern traditions, Sorcerer Yogis are quite a common path. Some people devote their entire lives to it. In the West, we have various schools and long-running traditions of occultism.
It all makes a hell of a lot of sense if you just study and research broadly enough, practice meditation, and have an enlightenment experience or two.
Reality is not a classical Newtonian physical system. It's a mystical, infinite, conscious singularity that defies all logic.
But don't believe me. Go discover for yourself what's true.

@Dinesh Karki Legally immigrating here will be very difficult these days. The number of permanent residencies given out each year is very tiny. You're about as likely to win the lottery.
The best way to move here is to start a successful business in your home country, then expand it into the US and hire 20 employees here. Then they will give you residency and citizenship.
That's how my dad did it.
As always, if you want something in life, rather than asking others to give you value, you become the provider of value. Don't ask the USA to provide you with free value. Provide the USA with value first, and then the doors will open to you.
This is a general strategy for anything you want it life. Provide massive value to others first without asking anything in return.
If you really want something, you gotta be willing to work for it and be super creative.

You don't need dick extension surgery if you are hung like Mark Wahlberg in Boogie Nights.
Anyone doing professional sports is exceptionally genetically gifted. Such people are in the top 1% of the bell curve. If they weren't they would not even have a chance to compete. Merely the cost of entry into that arena is having top 1% genetics. This is true of all sports. Which is why all competitive sports are stupid. All you're doing is comparing genetic lottery numbers while telling yourself how good you are. You are only that good because you had the foundation to be that good. You didn't create the foundation, God gave it to you.
This is true of all the world's greatest mystics. The dirty secret is that they didn't do it, they were given it. And Bashar is no exception to this. The idea that some technique will replace the right foundation is one of the greatest scams in human history. Foundation will always trump technique and effort.

Building a good level of masculinity and strength  has been one of my top priorities lately as I have noticed that I am nowhere near a sufficent level in those things. So I started asking myself what it really mean to be strong and I came up with this list.
Being able to stand your ground and face situations not run away from them I always felt shacky, I never felt that I can stand my ground when I need to. This is very important. I feel that running away from things is the natural response that I am programmed to do when I face danger and it can be useful a lot of times but one must be able to stand his ground at will. It is one of the most basic aspect of masculinity. Being able to attack and defend When I am in a bad situation I feel hopless, my tounge stop working and I tend to freeze. I need to be able to verbally defend myself in a calm manner when I have too. It is like being in a debate and not being able to defend your opinions despite them being more true. The more masculine and strong you are, the more you are able to do so. Feeling safe on the inside Yes! this is it. I don't feel safe inside of me. I feel exposed and weak, like a little lamb. How could one feel this shitty? I want to feel like a lion on the inside, safe and secure. Love yourself regardless of anything Low levels of self love is very common amongst beta males. It is like you let others dectate your value and you are always on the look for their apporval and repsect. Drop that behaviour and replace it with self love and respect. You need to build this love as a daily practice. No strength without self-love. Social smoothness and charismam and minimal social fears I feel akward and unsafe with others. I cannot express myself and my emotions won't come out easily. I am very stiff and anxious. I need to learn to let go. Let socialization become a joyful experience to you. Also, learn to be really smooth socially. it is very important and will save you a lot of headaches in life. When you feel safe around others, it will become much easier to be smooth and charismatic. Make enemies True alpha males make a lot of enemies. I don't say that is quite healthy, but making some enemies is essnetial in life. Looking back at it, I have never made an enemy in my life, this feels stupid Being aggressive when you need to It is essential to be able to shut people down when they are acting all silly. And sometimes you need to put some fear into their hearts. Learn to be a threatening presence when you need to. Leadership instead of followership Beta males are desgined to be followers not leaders. Learn how to lead others, by emotions, by words, by presence. Betas are quite bad at that. Watch leaders, how they act, how they have a very strong presence, how their words are very strong and effective. You need some of that for sure. Trust your self and your instincts As Betas we are very vulnerable to others gaslighting us, We are never sure of ourselves or our opinions or decisions. This needs some change. Learn to feel stable even when others try to belittle your opinions. Don't  shake and learn to be cool and calm even when others try to gaslight you. Expression not repression Beta males tend to repress their desitres, sexuality and even emotions. They Feel the guilt for expressing their desires and emotions and they tend to repress them. Learn to adopt the mindset of expression rather than repression. Express your emotions, your love, your sadness, your anger. Feel quite comfortable with expressing your sexual desires, or your desire for material things, like fame or money. Don't repress, express instead. Learn to live dangerously As Betas we prefer to be safe, we tend to become anxious when things become challenging in any manner especially in  social situations and that's why we make bad leaders, We cannot handle it, we are too anxious! A true alpha male can hadle a lot of "danger" and challenges before he becomes anxious. Stress and anxiety destroy any potential for leadership. Learn to free yourself from anxiety.  
Don't confuse being strong with any of the following: Being angry, aggresive being an asshole manipulating others building muscles being rich or powerful Getting into fights These are the basics of masculinity and strength. If you master those, then you have a healthy amount of masculinity. But don't confuse those things for true strength. True strength comes from spirituality. To remove all fear and resistance from your experience is true strength.

Paypal was developed by like 10 guys. Many of them smart and serious. But also, Paypal, like most early internet successes, simply lucked out by being at the right place at the right time. That's mostly what massive success is about, not work effort or being the best.
Also, success breeds arrogance. Musk's success has gone to his ego I suspect. When you get that much money, power, and fame, it really tests your character and highlights all your flaws. Musk can afford to be sloppy these days. And his political beliefs have always been shallow, as businessmen tend to be because it suits them.
Ethics and good politics is bad for business. It's as simple as that. You get ahead by being a narcissitic ruthless asshole. Which is why women are attracted to it.
You don't get to be the richest guy in the world without being ruthless and insensitive.

The funny thing is that when it comes to sex, women are far more discriminating than men.
Woman is not going to give love to a low-value guy.

When you are less physically powerful you must learn to survive using sleight of hand, games, and avoidance.
She's never going to explicitly reject you, she's just going to avoid you so as not to risk a confrontation.