[Group paradigms and resisting negative social conditioning]

Dime con quién andas, y te diré quién eres

Tell me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are

- Spanish proverb 

[I Get Annoyed At Less Developed People]

It's probably your shadow. There's a shadow work book on leos booklist , and it talks about one technique to find your shadow aspect is to look at things that

- 'annoy' you

- things that you judge 

Then you can integrate it 

[How to Build a Large Social Circle Without Alcohol/Partying?]

On 8/21/2023 at 5:05 PM, Insightful27 said:

I just started my first year at Uni and I know nobody (I went out of state). I'm not sure how to go about building a large, fun social network that doesn't revolve around clubbing, partying, and alcohol. Finding a spiritual community would be great, but the vast majority of students aren't into serious spirituality. 

Any advice? 

If you go to a big school in usa ull find tons of small spiritual communities 

[Why do men get rejected a lot more than women do for a first date?]

one pov is that when you approach a girl you rejected the ones next to her or before her ? 

So you've done your rejecting already by picking a certain girl 

And the way girls reject is they pick from those that approach

 

Just interesting when phrased like this

 

[notes]

A think a value is just something that is very important to you? 

For example when I'm misaligned to my value of equality , it makes me feel really bad, like this is not who I want to be nor the impact I want to have on the world 

 

So I guess a value is just a manifestation of what you feel is most important 

Value = important 

[Toxic people get more love than normies]

Great post

New pillar of game. 

Insults:

- bitch 

- hoe 

- fatty 

- hippo 

- weird nose lookin ahh

 

Any other suggestions, please post thank you. 

[Library of Juicy Insights]

Damn such a beautiful thread. This is like infinite intelligence at play

[When to go for the kiss?]

@Princess Arabia

I feel like asking for consent is important bc like every girl is diff and some need it. I'd hate to misread a nonsign and it ended up being a lack of consent yk 

[Where can I find more stage green people?]

You can try meetup.com, there will be tons of groups like that

I know someone that went to a couple diff meetups and found a friend group eventually 

[True face of Porn]

Tate is a psychopath

Honestly be careful bc if you think tate is not a very dangerous/bad guy  then you could get manipulated by a tate-like person in person as well

Be conscious of what are red flags in people, and assess people by them

[notes]

Productivity insights p3;

we fall to the level of our systems

- james clear

 

I only think about making 3 good decisions a day 

- Jeff bozos 

= 

- come up optimal morning routine

- come up with optimal morning journalling structure

=

No fucking way I deleted my fucking p1 productivity notes. I'm Kms ...

 

By memory...

big goals is just the small in aggregate

- sam altman 

A project is just a ton of subtasks 

- tiago forte 

 

[Ultimate self improvment habbits by Alex]

 cold approach is great but #1? Donno 

 

[The Value of Arrogance, Humility, and Confidence]

Very interesting thanks for sharing 

[Are men capable of actually loving a woman?]

15 hours ago, Jayson G said:

Is when guys think about it sort of logically

Honestly i think this is the main thing about preferences in general. Even when if a girl prefers 6ft etc. When you hit a girl in the emotions, those logical checklists fly out the window 

[notes]

Pending questions:

1. What are the fundamentals of a good life?

 

[Holding breath while playing intense video games]

@Carl-Richard I see yeah, i could def see a distinction where you are meditating and you are not actually playing bc your main focus is on something like spirituality/meditation. 

But there's definietely a way to improve your endeavor with mindfulness, it's actually like really well (scientifically) studied. More focus, flow, clarity, presence. It's great stuff honestly 

->

https://chat.openai.com/share/a4e8ca61-7243-4cd9-94d2-9af4678744aa

[Are men capable of actually loving a woman?]

Definietely

There are men who are into connection, emotions, love and all that. Men who like older women, personality more, don't care about looks. If you look you'll see it's common af. A lot of them. It's more about discernment for the guys you are looking for

Also make sure to differentiate between words a man says versus their personality. 

There's a difference between a guy who says he's X (maybe like emotionally available), and a guy that IS X (in this case emotionally available). So learning to discern here can help.. 

So in the case of emotionally available, you can see if he holds space, is empathetic, can listen to your emotions etc. 

 

[Holding breath while playing intense video games]

@Snader

Nah I don't compete I'd had to start way younger. My main choices are basketball and tetris rn. Just been into mastery past few years 

[Holding breath while playing intense video games]

@Carl-Richard 

1 minute ago, Carl-Richard said:

Do mindfulness before playing, then play. Be fully immersed in the game. That is how you become good.

Before helps a lot but I noticed there was a drop off in my mindfulness if I didnt continue it while doing it. it would continue for a bit but would taper off

I find during the most significant but before is also critical 

[Holding breath while playing intense video games]

@Carl-Richard flow state is caused when the challenge is just slightly above your current level 

It's not about high/low skill

[Holding breath while playing intense video games]

@Carl-Richard not for me, practice alone wont help at least in my experience, bc the better i got, the better the opponent so the challenge is always there 

Tho it is true because my anxiety would be gone for the weaker opponents 

[Holding breath while playing intense video games]

@Snader opposite happens for me. My main intention is focus so when i do mindfulness practices my focus actually increases 

I'm using focus as my intent and using mindfulness as a background boost. Idk if that makes sense 

I'm using mindfulness with labeling which has concentration baked into it so maybe this why 

 

Tho I've had a friend I brought this upto and he does vipassana. He said he doesn't do meditation when playing bc he loses focus. Idk if he's doing it wrong tho 

[I Asked Peter Ralston About Psychedelics, Here Is His Response...]

42 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

That may work for neurotypical folks, but for those like me and @LSD-Rumi who have OCD, labeling practices or techniques can actually turn into a compulsion if we’re not careful

u might be able to apply the practice to the compulsive "practice" I think 

 

This has happened to me before, using a practice as a reactive compulsion. But the compulsive one not even a practice , i later realized,  i was doing it in like an ocd compulsive way 

[Swedish prison system]

https://thehorizonsun.com/features/2020/12/18/the-swedish-prison-system/

America could use Sweden prison system. 

Sweden apparently treats prisoners as people with psychological needs and prisons as rehabilitation centers 

They also apparently have the lowest prisoner re-enter rate

In America, prison employees usually  say the phrase "you'll be back" to the prisoners. It's a known trope which speaks to how poorly they are run

[my short friend is crushing instagram and online dating]

@Leo Gura leo why don't u get a hair system? Ik looks arent everyting but looksmaxing helps a lot for game