Koeke

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  1. Posted

    3 hours ago, Javfly33 said:

    Is not about kidding myself. Is about setting the bar to a level that is enough high so the word "being Awake" means actually something real.

    I do not consider anyone to be awake if he falls into ego.

    Since Reality is always Now, if Now you are not awake, that's it, you lost.

    You might as well say that you awakened 10 years ago, but the previous 9years you have been a crack addict with a miserable life in very poor and compressed states of consciousness.

     

    I like how you set the bar high. But maybe you are setting it a little too high. See if you experience that same mystical wonder for the sensations inside your body. 

  2. Posted

    11 hours ago, Tyler Robinson said:

    This is what happens when a woman approaches a man. We get questioned and looked at with suspicion. 

    *insert nuclear Facepalm. 

     

    Haha, I guess this just hadn't ever happened. In the original post I made my suspicions sound more serious than they were. I was just taken aback and was confused / deflecting the compliment.

    I did say yes to the date though and will go. 

  4. Posted · Edited by Koeke

    10 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

    P.S. It isn't gamey, it's just an honest, natural approach. Good game mirrors natural mating patterns.

    Meaning: she just followed her natural attraction instincts? I agree. She was honest and it was natural but she was relying on a script because of her anxiousness. It was gamey in the sense that she wasn't really capable of having a relaxed conversation with another normal person with flaws. The anxiousness of the approach just filled her mind up too much I guess. Another reason for the rigid conversation was because I was taken aback a bit.

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    I, a 21 year old male, got approached by a woman yesterday, who I suppose was a few years older than me, telling me I was good looking and she asked me on a date. I said yes. Now, she wasn't the most beautiful woman out there, but decent looking. Her face at least. I didn't check out her body really but she had a healthy weight... Anyway, she told me she studied some kind of animation thing. High male ratio. In my view she shouldn't have a problem dating wise or sex wise. Where does she get the energy and commitment from to approach me? Mind you, she was quite "gamey" and nervous. She said something along the lines of: "Hi, I know this is forward but I saw you and thought you were really attractive. You probably get this a lot but I wanted to come and talk to you." ie.: a very standard opening line. Seemed like she had seen some videos about gaming. I responded by saying that I don't get told this more often. She said I should. What I'm trying to illustrate is that it was a bit try hard. Why didn't she have a good abundance of men interested in her such that she'd have no motivation to go through this inner struggle of approaching me? Don't get me wrong, I admire her for this, but still.. why? During the conversation I was actually reasonably disconcerted being suspicious of her intentions (like I imagine a woman would be if the roles were reversed) even though I could empathize well with her struggle and nervousness. Thing is, I just never saw this in a woman! 

    Am I just her type? Does she just want sex? I told her before she asked me on a date that I'm only staying in the city for 2 weeks. Good chance this didn't compute for her and she wasn't really listening and running on a script. Again, she was quite nervous. A sentence or two later she asked me on a date and the 5 minute conversation afterwards didn't run too smoothly either.

    I'm also doubting about going on the date. I would honestly only go to talk to a native Bostonian to get to know the city better and to have a chance at sex. 

    How unusual is this considering she's probably just insecure and doesn't recognize it when guys (who probably aren't too smooth either) hit on her? 

    Please enlighten me y'all!

  7. Posted

    14 hours ago, flowboy said:

    Tests have been done on people claiming to be enlightened through meditation.

    Their endorphin levels were through the roof.

    Meaning their repression system was working overtime.

    They were feeling blissed out, having no idea that their bodies and subconscious were still chronically stressed.

    This is not to knock meditation, consciousness and a calm mind are very useful to train.

    Can you please send some links for more info on this?

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    3 hours ago, Gesundheit2 said:

    Cuz both of them are the primary go-to places when you are bored, hurt, or single, depending on your gender.

    3 hours ago, Gesundheit2 said:

    Cuz both of them are the primary go-to places when you are bored, hurt, or single, depending on your gender.

    Well maybe, but porn is a lot more shallow than genuine friendship.. 

    If a woman only has guy-friends things would seem very fishy to me. If not, they don't have to be. I would always be suspicious, but I have had decent friends for a while who were attractive women about which I was clear early on that I wouldn't pursue them. I guess it comes down to how clear your gf and her male friends are about the potential for a romantic relationship to emerge between them. 

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    So I have a girlfriend who has a lot more common sense than most people but she cringes at and ridicules spirituality. I have been telling myself that spirituality is about truth and that it doesn't really matter "what side you're on" (it is about vertical growth, not horizontal differences) and so whether she is "on the side of spirituality" seemed irrelevant to me. She only sees the shallow side of how spirituality is understood in our culture (the vast majority), is rightly put off by it, and is closed off to the valid and deeper truths explained that simply aren't probed as much in non-spiritual contexts. It felt off but I haven't confronted her about it much because I say to myself she is just making fun of shallow people, which I find childish but kept brushing away. 

    One question I have is: Of what significance is this thing we might call spirituality, as an idea to be identified with, useful/a catalyst in terms of getting more conscious? As a general direction of who we want to be and what we want to look into in our contemplations?

    I guess it isn't all that much. I mean, you can substitute spirituality for : radical but grounded skepticism, radical introspection, not-knowing, among many others. 

    When I said in a frustrated way that I have meditated my ass of for almost 2 years (average of 3 hours a day) to more or less say: "I think this spirituality thing is important, am I deluded? Am I the same as these people? Do I open my mouth too to pretend I'm so spiritual? How do you reconcile that?" She initially dismissed it but later said she was open to read something I think good.

    I haven't recommended her anything because she didn't mention this again. I guess I'm just too passive here, too much of a 'good boy' who tries not to be seen 'preaching' and being defensive.

     

    So what is this relationship between vertical growth and horizontal differences? Why are there memes that seem to correspond at every stage? Why do people who embrace spiritual ideas generally seem so dumb and shallow compared to a lot of people who don't, while at the same time the spiritual ideas, actually understood, are the deepest? (I think I'm overestimating the degree of difference between dumbness and shallowness between these two groups here. Also I am from the Netherlands where most people aren't really open-minded to esoteric spirituality. Could be worse tho.) 


    When she asked me about spirituality and why it is true or important (don't remember) I couldn't answer. I don't have a ready-made answer for such a question and at that time nothing came to mind because, for a while now, I kinda want to move past seeing spirituality as a lifestyle choice comparing me to others or as an intellectual position to be defended philosophically. So I felt a bit trapped there.

    It's true tho, these spiritual ideas and out-there philosophical ideas take uncontrolled reign over my mind a lot of the time. Simply because they feel impressive and somehow more true; the problem is that, in the midst I lose sight of my core sense of truth. This causes me to be scattered, frustrated, idealistic, ungrounded, and above all, unable to actually contemplate. However the results of these contemplations (higher levels of consciousness) demand such a strong level of authenticity making me feel very lost. Operating and contemplating from this grounded core just leaves me speechless when it comes to spirituality.

    How to communicate that spirituality is important to me and that dismissing it implies dismissing me (to a certain degree) without being and coming across as closed-minded? 

     

    I guess I'm asking for relationship advice, intellectual clarification, insights into culture and all-round feedback on my authenticity and how I view spirituality. Anything you might want to add :) 

    Excuse my ramblings and thanks for reading

  17. Posted · Edited by Koeke

    I am looking for genuinely interesting things in Spanish to learn the language, but it has to be about B1 level. This is a difficult category to find content in. 

    So instead of consuming content merely for learning the language, I want the language to feed me with entertainment/interesting things.

    I'm interested in what most people here are interested in. Don't be afraid to suggest something that is seemingly very different, though. 

    Thank you!

  18. Posted

    25 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:
    26 minutes ago, ThePoint said:

    What psychedelics has he tried?

    From what I know, 1000ug of LSD.

    Where does he talk about it? I think that this might settle some of the arguments. Seeing what Ralston thinks he has gotten from psychedelics. If they have opened his mind such that contemplation of the Absolute happened more effectively but that they themselves didn't cause any increase in consciousness would be coherent with Leo's pov, I think. Either way, I would highly appreciate Ralston's trip report :)

  19. Posted

    I have some experience with Reichian therapy. That seems effective. I stopped after a few months because it was impractical in my daily schedule. 
    Please share your experiences and sources. Especially if you have experience with multiple approaches. Also, a source concerning a meta-analysis of the approaches would be really appreciated.

    I am looking for one method to commit myself to. 

  21. Posted · Edited by Koeke

    43 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    God-realization is not a "therapy" of any kind and it is not an evolution or anything of the sort. All of that is dream stuff and God-realization cuts through all that BS. It's not a process either.

    But then why are you saying that every awakening you have is deeper than the previous one in which you claimed you had a God-realization too?

  22. Posted · Edited by Koeke

    12 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    God-realization is a distinct event from changing your human self. You can have one without the other, and vice versa.

    But if God-realization and changing your (human) self are an infinite process, then how are they different? Aren't they both "therapies" on the same spectrum, going toward the same thing? 

    In other words: how is evolution within the self (becoming more whole/integrated) different from the evolution of the self as a whole (transcending and including itself)?

  24. Posted · Edited by Koeke

    @MarkKol I think the distinction between art and non-art in our culture is at least partially based on the perceived utility. So when something is perceived as almost useless but sorta pretty, we call it art. 
    Art and culture are so embedded, we can't really explain what art does to us. We only know it by feeling and experiencing art and reflecting on these feelings. You are looking for a 'dry' explanation but that cannot capture the essence of art. 

    Didn't put too much thought behind this one though :S