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  1. Mastery
    Mastery Examples Mega-Thread
    Hey y’all!
    Lately I’ve been getting inspired a lot. Subsequently, the idea of a mastery mega-thread came to mind. This could be a place full of inspiration, watching masters do what they can best.
    Quick recap on how to recognize mastery:
    Mastery resists definition, yet can be instantly recognized Brings rich rewards, yet is not really a goal or a destination but rather a process, a journey Achieves a special poignancy, where muscle, mind and spirit come together in graceful and purposive movements through time and space Mastery’s true face is relaxed and serene, sometimes faintly smiling Difficult tasks are managed somehow to create harmony where chaos might otherwise prevail Practice, the path of mastery, exists only in the present  
    How to achieve mastery in any activity:
    Approach in a state of full awareness Conscious of everything happening around and within you Let this awareness extend to your own mental, physical, and emotional condition Perform all series of actions as ritual Feel the whole situation Attend carefully to all feelings and sensations surrounding your five senses This way of being will afford you many opportunities for practicing mastery Don’t downgrade things simply because they are common Everything can be high art Instead of focusing on getting behind things as quickly as possible, do them as a meditation If you choose this option, take a moment to compose yourself before beginning Maintain full awareness of each of your movements Avoid hasty shortcuts – above all, don’t hurry Rather than thinking about getting the job finished and going on to something else, stay wholly focused on the moment, on the task at hand  
    This should give you a first idea on what mastery is and how it can be recognized. And even if you don’t know anything about mastery, there’s still something about it, that can be felt.
    So, feel free to share anything, where you can see mastery! This could be really exciting.

  2. Motivational speech for learning social skills
    To All Struggling Males: Stop Playing Victim!
    I see a chronic problem on this sub-forum, which is young males who complain about lack of success with women and failing to take responsibility for their situation.
    The #1 rule of all growth and personal development is taking 100% responsibility for your situation. I know how hard that can be when you're struggling with women/sex. It feels very much like life is treating you unfairly and that it's the women's fault. Let me tell you right now: this is a total ILLUSION! It's not the women. It's not society. It's not post-modernists. It's not the Marxists. It's not the feminists. It's YOU!
    This is not me blaming you. This is simply how all personal development works. Whatever problem you have in life you must begin by getting honest with yourself how you created it. Sometimes this is difficult to accept. It's much easier to blame someone else, or even blame yourself (for being too ugly or too short or too introverted). I am not suggesting you blame yourself. Rather, take ownership of the fact that you are the creator of your life. Whatever is missing in your life, you can correct, but only if you stop blaming yourself and others.
    Be very mindful of how your ego-mind creates narratives which justify your sense of lack, brokenness, or inability to attract women. All of these narratives, justification, rationalizations, logic, "facts", scientific studies, proofs, etc are sneakily fabricated by your own mind! Your own mind is the enemy! Watch it like a hawk. Your mind will try to come up with reasons and excuses for why your life is unfair and how success with women is impossible. This is all horseshit! Do not believe your own mind here. Your mind is clouded by fear, insecurity, and neediness. That is totally normal and understandable, but you cannot resolve your problems from such a place. From such a place your problems will get worse as you start to blame the world and solidify your victim worldview with cherry-picked evidence, "science", and "logic". Be extra suspicious of "logic" and "science" here. There is nothing logical or scientific about your victim attitude or lack of success with women. It's purely about meeting the survival needs of your ego. Sex is a very powerful survival need which will drive your mind towards all manner of mental gymnastics to ensure that you get it, or at least feel better for not getting it.
    There's good news and bad news. The good news is: Your looks are NOT the problem! The bad news is: your personality, attitude, and mindset are terrible! The good news is, it's possible to change that. The bad news is, it won't be easy and you will resist it like the devil that you are.
    So what's the solution? Take ownership of your problem and commit to resolving it. For this you need faith and confidence in your ability to self-actualize. You must have enough hope and vision to see yourself get much better with attracting women. This is NOT a pipe dream or fuzzy thinking. The reality is that any man can become 100x better at attracting women if he really takes ownership of the matter. Yes, it takes serious work. But it's also highly worth it. Imagine that within 3 years you're able to attract pretty women and feel confident about yourself when it comes to dating. Isn't that worth the effort? It sure is. This is not a fantasy. I've done it, many men have done it, and so can you! Your looks are NOT the bottleneck, your mindset is.
    So what do you do after you've established this vision? You must do lots of research to educate yourself about how dating actually work (not how you think it works). Find videos, find books, buy online courses, hire a coach, take a bootcamp, take a workshop, etc. There are literally hundreds of excellent resources available online these days. Most of them are legit, not scams. Study them hard and then get into the field. Start talking to women. Start approaching women. Start flirting with women. Start being much more social.
    If you struggle attracting women I can tell you right now what your top problems are. It's not lack of money, looks, muscles, car, height, or dick size. Remember, attraction and dating is EXTREMELY counter-intuitive. It's works exactly the opposite of how you initially think.
    Your top problems are:
    You live in your mancave and never go out! You must go out into social spaces where real women hang out. You spend WAY too much time online, indoors You spend WAY too much time on Youtube, Netflix, and playing video games You work too much You are never around cute single women You never start conversations with strangers You have terrible body language due to lack of experience You are not comfortable doing small-talk and being emotional and random in conversations You are far too logical You approach zero women on a regular basis You are terrified of approaching a women who you find attractive, talking yourself out of every approach You have terrible eye contact, you don't smile, and you don't project your voice properly You are crippled by fear and tongue-tied You are unable to start and sustain an interesting conversation with a human being You are disconnected from your body, your heart, your feelings, your emotions You have terrible self-image issues. You hate yourself, you hate how you look, you judge yourself way too harshly. You judge yourself just as harshly as you judge women. You have a bad sense of dress style and you don't groom yourself well You have no experience with physically touching women in a non-creepy way. You don't know how to rapidly physically escalate on a women without creeping her out. You don't know how women think or what they truly value in a man You don't know how to flirt and be authentic You are trying to be masculine in all the wrong ways -- fake masculinity You are needy, needy, needy You are terribly inexperienced You have no sense of passion or purpose in life, which robs you of confidence and masculine vitality Your attitude sucks: you whine, complain, bitch, moan, blame, and are so negative You think you understand life, reality, and how attraction works -- you don't! So work on fixing all of that before you go blaming women. All of the above can be deliberately worked on and fixed.
    You need to learn how to be a real man. Being a real man has nothing to do with big muscles, big dick, or a fast car. A real man is grounded on the INSIDE. It's ALL about inner game! You need to cultivate that confidence. It doesn't come naturally. You must build it!
    80% of getting good with women is just actually being much more social. You need to deliberately re-structure your life so that you're automatically being more social. So that you're going out every weekend. So that you're bumping into new people constantly. So that you're making new friends all the time. This kind of re-structuring is very doable. You just have to be willing to change your lifestyle.
    And stop watching or listening to any of the following:
    Jordan Peterson, MGTOW, RedPill, Incel material/forums/reddit All of that is cancer of the mind. It's reinforcing your victim mindset and robbing you of your ability to change yourself.
    I've been where you are. I know it's tough. But hang in there, hold your vision, have hope, get to work, and things will dramatically improve for you. You will become a new person by the end of this journey and you will be so proud of yourself. You will become a real man, not some whiny JP fanboy.
    The #1 thing a real man does is take 100% responsibility for all his problems. A real man NEVER blames anyone, and certainly not women or feminism. A real man is a feminist. A real man fearlessly works on himself.
    So start right there! Start by fixing that.

  3. Smoothie
    The Loophole Shake (easy way to change diet)
    Give it a try!  I’d love to hear back on how you liked it, and any modification ideas you tried!
    I started with easy small stuff first like fluoride free toothpaste & aluminum free deodorant. I know that’s not diet but it’s an easy way to start change and feel good about it. 
    Then I got a juicer, and used this site. It’s ideal, because you click what you have, and it shows you recipes to make with it. Juicing was great, but there was a lot of sugar in the ones I was making so they wouldn’t taste like kale. 
    That lead to “The Loophole” shake. I call it that, because in terms of wanting something that is crazy nutritious and also tastes awesome, after a lot of trial and error, this was it (the taste / health loophole) for me. It’s vegan, delicious, & highly nutrient dense so appetite / hunger wise it’s an easy way to go. It has everything I know I should eat but wasn’t...hence.. “Loophole”.
     
    1 scoop of Raw Meal with Greens.
    1 - 2 cups of ice
    1 - 2 cups of Chocolate almond milk 
    1 - 2 bananas
    1 - 2 tablespoons of cocoa powder
    1 - 2 tablespoons of peanut butter, or just some nuts
    (The peanut butter adds sugar and calories. I added it initially, transitionally)
    Mix generously in Nutribullet  or blender. 
     
    A consideration in hunger and the battle of the budge; calories vs nutrients. 

  4. Kriya Yoga Mega-Thread
    Kriya Yoga Mega-Thread
    I don't think it matters much. I put my hands on my thighs, palms up.
    3 cycles is what the book says.
    That finger technique is however good for tracking your Kriya breaths, which will be in cycles of 12. Works great.
    Definitely a must.
    Jogging vigorously in place for 1-2 minutes prior to your sit will significantly help clear up blocked sinuses.
    It's really easy. You just open and constrict your throat and breath in/out through the nose. You'll get the hang of it in a week or two.

  5. The Path, Living & The Dream Board
    The Path, Living & The Dream Board
    Patterns of thought would unconsciously play out, and when this dream ends & you awaken, you’d have a hearty laugh. Not a thing right or wrong with that unconscious life, and that is precisely what would be so funny. 
    Consciousness is infinite & whole, perfect & complete. There can not be a separate thing, a separate object, nor a separate self, because if there were, consciousness would not be infinite. If there is some thing which consciousness is not, then consciousness is not infinite. Consciousness Is infinite, and is infinitely, spontaneous & free. One who takes reality for granted has yet to realize the feelings they don’t like, is our source, the one-glish speaking voice of infinite reason, conveying the truth - that one is so free, one can impose limitation. The One has already amply done this however - to allow for this very experience. No more limitation is needed, source did a fine job. Add to limitation at your own emotional peril, as Truth is Unconditional Love, and conditions simply will not resonate. 
    Practically speaking...one who is “stuck”, is over-emphasizing the intellectual method of - practically speaking. “Stuck” requires profound materialism, knowing one’s infinite all loving unconditional limitless eternal self - as a thing. An object, in a world. ??
    What knows all that comes & goes, is already transcendent and does not come and go. What does not come and go, and does not have separate parts in truth, can never actually be “stuck”. The cosmos is an ever-transient vibrationally liquid creation of potentiality. What sustains you - your “living”, your “life”?  Love, air, water, food. Are these “separate objects”, or are you...not separate from anything.. since the get go? Every thing is not always as it appears. 
    This ever-changing-ness, this ‘appearance’, is known by thought, perception, & sensation, ‘themselves’ every-changing. Are you an object separate of this? Or is all known to you, as the consciousness of, the awareness of , the knowing of ? 
    Were ‘you’ ‘here’ to know yourself...love, sensation - feeling, would not be so abundant, so easily & readily known in the sharing of our infinite being. You most absolutely know your absoluteness - you just forgot. Why would an infinite all knowing, all loving being - forget that it is? To experience. So you could create. Which is what you’re doing right now. It is all you have ever done. It is everything that you do. So much so, So totally & entirely, that a comparison can not be made, a duality can not be derived of it, and it can not in truth be said that you have ever done anything. Why you create what you do has a source which is always available. What you create and when you do, is always up to you. How it is created, is the same as how your heart is beating, your lungs are breathing, thoughts are arising, feeling is present, perception is abundant. “You”, you’re not really doing anything. You’re just unbelievable, unfathomably good, at making it appear as if you are. It is safe to surrender “how”. 
     
      

  6. Self-Inquiry
    Leo's Practical Guide To Enlightenment
    @Alex K Right, so you're stuck because you think you know something which in fact you don't know. This is the problem of your cup being already full. This is the problem of failing to enter a state of not-knowing. This is the problem of conceptualizing and believing.
    This is why Zen masters usually never tell you what you are. Because they are afraid that whatever they tell you, you'll believe it. But all beliefs are symbols, and thus not the real deal. You cannot symbolize what you are.
    So drop this idea that you are awareness. You don't actually know that. And you don't actually know what awareness is.
    It should be standard operating procedure whenever you sit down to self-observe, to THROW ALL IDEAS OUT THE WINDOW! Pretend like EVERYTHING you ever heard from ANYONE, including Leo, is total bullshit. Observe completely from scratch. Imagine you were just born 5 minutes ago and know nothing about reality. ZERO!
    Don't use any words, models, or symbols to represent yourself. They are all not you.
    In this self-observation process, what's you're looking for is a direct experience, not an idea or a word.
    It can be helpful to apply skepticism and doubt. Why do you believe you're awareness? Maybe Leo lied to you? Maybe this whole enlightenment thing is just a scam? Maybe you're something else? How do you know what you are? This kind of doubt should empty your cup and open your mind.
    Also, get real! You're not really identified with awareness, are you? You're identified with your body or The Voice, if you're honest. Take a look at what you're ACTUALLY currently identifying with. Get clear about that. "Awareness" is probably just some bullshit word you picked up in a New Age book.
    Here's another good line of questioning for someone like you: "Why do I believe I'm my body? What is it that owns this body?"
    ALWAYS look for the answer in direct experience. No theories, no speculation, no guess-work, no philosophizing. The answer is an experience. Imagine you are mute or dumb like a retarded child without any language. Now observe reality and find what you are.

  7. I know my identity to be illusory but can't let go
    I know my identity to be illusory but can't let go
    @Loving Radiance Nature retreat. With no path stuff. No spiritual crap.    Let go by thinking of one muscle in the body at a time and relaxing it. Then the whole body. Feel the muscle relax. Keep repeating. And keep going deeper into the tinier muscles, etc. Then start doing it while breathing from your stomach. You’ll notice even breathing is contracting. But you’ll be quite relaxed by then.