Cuddy5269

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  1. I won't lie I do want to get a date. Not being attached to the outcome is something I want to make sure I do. I got rejected at the mall yesterday after I approached a girl and I was not really upset. I'm honestly more happy that I have been able to build the courage to talk to girls. Even though I have been getting rejected on all my approaches so far it feels good knowing that I'm facing my fears. I'm very scared every time I go talk to a girl. I'm not just doing this to get a girlfriend. I'm using these experiences to grow myself. But like you said, I do have to keep in mind the importance of presence.
  2. This is the approach I'm trying to take. I know things may take time. I still have a lot of work and fears to overcome. I still can't believe I got myself to talk to that girl at Starbucks. I was scared shitless. I have finally started my journey. I will be approaching more girls at the mall today. I just need to be persistent.
  3. Thanks man, I appreciate the advice.
  4. I walked up to a girl in Starbucks today. She was sitting by her self. I was scared out of my mind.I approached her and asked if I could join her. She said yes and we had a friendly conversation for about five minutes. She said she had to get going and study for a test. I was still too scared to ask for her number. But I was terrified of even approaching her. Before she left she told me her name then offered me a handshake. It felt good to at least conquer some of my fears. I will try to take things further next time. I'm aware it may take a thousand more approaches before I get a date with someone. But I feel a little more confident now. I have been afraid of girls my whole life. I thought she was going to tell me to get lost. I plan to do more approaches this weekend. Hopefully someone might find this helpful. I think girls actually respect guys who have the courage to approach them. I know Leo said he recommended stone cold approaches over any other way to meet women. I still have a lot of work to do and fears to overcome but it was a great first step for me. I would encourage anyone else to approach a stranger. It might not be as bad as you think and it will build up your courage.
  5. Thanks for the advice everyone. Me trying to love myself feels very uncomfortable, but I can see why its important. I have been doing spiritual practices. The hardest part is accepting who I am now on this journey. I know I can do much better. I will definitely check out that video on loving your self.
  6. How does anyone deal with mistakes they make? I hate making mistakes that affect others. I really fucking hate myself when I do this. I feel like my own personal wants are more important to me than serving others at times. The other day I saw someone in a wheelchair struggle to get his chair on the bus, I was sitting on. I was too shy to offer him help. This is just one recent example. I have made many worse mistakes than this. I have made many other mistakes where I put my own personal wants ahead of others. My wants can be very compulsive. When you catch yourself being a devil, how do you stop yourself? I know I need to be a much better person than I am now, but I still have all these selfish cravings such as: sex, popularity, and material things. How can I make myself a better person? Any advice would be much appreciated. I'm a devil who needs a good kick in the ass.
  7. Didn't Eckhart Tolle have to go through decades of mental suffering before he awakened?
  8. How do I give up low consciousness things, such as dumb non informative YouTube videos and junk tv? What are the benefits of doing this?
  9. I Actually enjoy cleaning my house. Even the toilets.
  10. Thanks, I will post any other doubts if they come.
  11. Just remember whatever reality is it has always been that way your entire life nothing has changed even before you started questioning things and nothing in your life is different now.You're not alone I have had your same exact fears. You will be fine.
  12. Thanks for the advice everyone. I'm not going to blow these experiences out of proportion. I will continue meditating in the dark. This is just the process of me facing my fears.
  13. Early this morning I was meditating in the dark in my bedroom. In the middle of my meditation session I became pretty frightened of sitting in a dark room. I feared a monster or clown was going to attack me at any second. I was just sitting there shaking. Usually the dark doesn't really bother me except this morning I felt like a child again. I have also been getting a decent number of bad dreams these past few months. I know this might sound a little childish or crazy but I was wondering if anyone else had this kind of experience? If anything this will encourage me to keep meditating. I'm hoping this is a sign of growth. But I'm still a newbie in this hole process I don't have a great understanding of how this process works.
  14. Agreed, it's not really going to help you increase your consciousness,but this book is a absolute gem for any one in earlier stages of personal development.
  15. Feeling Good by David Burns. He helps you to stop seeing life so negatively. It's a great place to start when doing personal development.