Giulio Bevilacqua

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  4. Posted

    Hello everyone. 

    How do you manage unconscious people in your life ? 

    I play in a band and in this period I'm suffering a bit the other members  unconscious behaviours and compulsive patterns. 

    They are very centred in Fame, Mooney, heavily addictions to cigarettes and porn, lot of talks on sex with girls and instagram images with hot girls and a strong body identification

    I do not blame them or judge them I also have some addictions to work on.

    After I experienced some shifts in consciousness and took my spiritual path damn seriously it feels uncomfortable to be with them because I see those things in a meaningless way.

    My fear is also that unconsciously I can be influenced from their behaviours. 

    We have some probabilities to become famous in a specific music area and I think if it happes everything could get only worse worse with them . Their egos would be pumped to the stars . They often talk " when we become millionaires I will buy this and this..." 

    Sometimes for the sake of my spiritual health I think to leave them but i do not know if it is to extreme. 

    I leave you an article about this tooic. It's spoken by Sadhguru. It has really influenced me. 

    Maybe it can help also you.

    https://isha.sadhguru.org/in/en/wisdom/article/importance-right-company

    Thank you and sorry for my English.

     

     

  6. Posted

    Hi. 

    I'm experiencing a crucial moment in my life with lots of decisions. 

    I'm thinking to study at university to have a cultural and education basis for my self . 

    I would like to study Antropology/Religions/Oriental civilizations. There are a lot of courses like Indian Philosophies/Western Philosophy/ Chinese Japanese History , modern History , And the literatures of the East Like Turkey or South America.

    Also Buddhism, Hinduism, Christianity and so on .

    And you have also to learn a foreign leanguage like Sanskrit .

    I have a little fear that all this knowledge will influence in some way my Spiritual journey, maybe too much theoretical stuff in my mind.

    The university is 3 Year long.

    Another point is that I have to spent 1 and half hour in train to reach university.

    If I go there I'll finish when I'm 23 years old, so maybe after I could also focus on other things. 

    What do you think ? 

  7. Posted

    Hi.

    I found that the more I stay in being presence and silence the more I start to look strange to close people like family, friends and girlfriend.

    I have gone through a huge transformation. I become really silent, do not speak that much ,do no want to tell anything about me. I can relate to people but only the necessary things. 

    I do not force myself to be like this, it is very natural to me and I feel  to be much more myself in this empty states. 

    This creates some tension, embarrassment and strange feelings to others because of my silent presence. 

    They often ask me if I have some problem. 

    Have you experienced something like this ? 

     

  8. Posted

    5 hours ago, Esoteric said:

    @Giulio Bevilacqua Work on sustaining yourself so you can work towards enlightenment all of your free time. There are a lot of ways this can be done. You can do it by working on being financially secured. You can do it by working on being concious and do practices all the time, even in hectic environments. You can become a monk. Volunteer at ashrams etc etc. The list goes on. But listen to what YOU want to do. It is your decision, don't get influenced by people telling "you don't have to do this, you don't have to do that". What they think is a bad way of going about stuff might be an optimal way for you.

    Thank you very much . Really helpful

  9. Posted

    There are a lot of things to consider . 

     3 fondamental aspects ➡️ Physiological, Psychological, Energy.

    For the Phsysiological pay attention on how you keep your posture during the day. Obviously you should keep your spine erect. 

    When you sit try to sit straight but without any muscle effort , you have to find your balance point. Feel the weight against gravity this should move your Chi in the body. 

    Sleep posture!! If you sleep with a pillow , it should be as thin as possible. This allows the neuron system to flow better. If you switch posture lay on the left side not the right. 

    Do some back stretching. There are a lot of videos .  Very simple things. 

    Psychological. For me  works best being aware of thoughts and emotions. Meditation and so on as you probably already know. 

    For energy you could find a powerful chant. AUM chant . 7 times A 7 times U 7 times M .

    Hope is helpful .

  12. Posted

    Hi everyone .

    I realized that I can not get further in my actual state. This indecisive/fear limbo is killing my life.

    I'm actually feeling paralaized from some decision to take.

    I've got a band with some possibilities to grow on professional levels. So it is a serious project. 

    After my spiritual journey my interest/motivation started falling away, and this has affected also the band.

    I have started developing new interest like serious Yoga and Tau chi.

    I would like to spend some time in China in a Taoist Temple and learn the Tai Chi properly. 

    The problem is I do not know what to do and this is making me crazy. If I go to China I have lo leave the band. I do no want to hurt them and stop the project but it's true that if I remain here I do not have any security for the future .

    I like the band but it is limiting me . I didn't go to university for them. 

    I'm 21 and I have no occupation. It is so hard to make this decisions . 

    At the end there is no good and right wrong decision . Only surrender in decions making. 

  13. Posted

    I can not get out of this indecisivenss, it's a lot of months now . I can not take any action foward.

    I'm talking about what should I do I my life.

    I think the root problem is perfectionism and too many options wanting them all together without letting go.

    I'm a talented musician I love playing music drums and so on. At the same time I'm so deeply in touch with practices like Tai Chi and Yoga .

    Yesterday I found a course to become a Hiking Guide for nature, I would love also that , I'm quite always in the woods and mountains.

    But I'm eternally stuck in this point. 

    To become a musician you have to focus everything on that , no distractions.  This scares me because I fear that it would take me away from my spiritual path .

    Spirituality is my first priority i"m not going to change it , it is on the top. 

    When a come to a conclusion my mind immediately looks back to the other options and the cycle goes again.

    This wanting of the perfect decisions is blocking everything.  Also lack of courage. 

    It is frustrating now.

    Have you ever gone through something similar ? Thank you very much .

     

  15. Posted

    Hi evryone. 

    I've put my self in a hard situation ?.

    I'm in a long relationship 4 and half years now . 

    In this period I've met a girl during a theatre project where some silent interest has grown between us  . Last day me,she and other people spent the night together.

    The day after every body has left except me and she . She brought me to the train station. 

    We where talking and in the meaning time I've lost the train so we decided to go to a park and talk .  

    We have openly talked about our interest and attraction ,she is also in a relationship.

    After out talk she brought me to the station and during the way to the train she asked me if she could give me her hand . I was literally confused but I did it and it was beautiful .  

    The days after we texted us a bit. 

    Now I do not know how to move forward , I've my girlfriend on one side.  I would be open to leave her to experience and learn about this things, I'm excited . 

    But on the one side I do not wich actions should I take with the new girl, she is also confused like me .

    Should I continue to text her ? Or stay silent and wait to see her again to talk about our situation  ? 

    Sorry for the long message. Thank you 

  16. Posted

    3 hours ago, Sunny J Gupta said:

    @Giulio Bevilacqua I don't think it is "necessary" to do one thing, but yes doing One thing would be more productive, focused, and you can achieve mastery much more efficiently and effectively. 

    But if you are not sure about what you want to do, you can dabble in all 3, get a feel for what you really like to do through direct experience, and when you are certain, pursue that. 

    But there isn't a need to worry, because your life purpose will evolve as you walk down the path. 

     

    Thanks man 

  17. Posted

    46 minutes ago, Truth Addict said:

    @Giulio Bevilacqua

    Well, here's a harsh fact: you can't avoid hurting others.

    You are in a constant battle against everything else in order to stay who you are. This fear that you are feeling is a weapon the ego uses to hide that fact from you.

    Just let loose and don't take thoughts seriously, because (and this is critical) you are hurting yourself and others through that fear.

    Imagine what you could do for yourself and others if stopped fearing. A leader does not fear. A leader knows what's best for himself and others.

    Yes you are right, it's like the phisical death you can not avoid it. 

  22. Posted

    Hi everyone. 

    I've noticed that i often find my self in a limbo of fear to hurt someone psychologically with my decisions. I do not have the courage to go foward , i stay stuck with fear to hurt.

    I've also thought that the fear to hurt someone is basically the fear that i will suffer making a particular decision. 

    What can you tell me about this mechanism? And what do you think is the correlation between this and the EGO ? 

    Thank you very much . Sorry for my English .

    Blessings.

     

  23. Posted

    Hi  everyone. 

    I've done a list of life areas in which I would like to work as a life purpose . 

    I'm very felxible in many areas and have a very little sense of discrimination towards different things .

    So the problem is choosing . If I choose something I refuse to let go the other options .  My list  consists of :  Tai Chi , Drums and percussions,   and University . 

    I'm wondering if it is really necessary to choose one thing . Maybe one can start doing those things together and in the future see what to prevail the most .

    What are your ideas? . Thank you very much 

  24. Posted

    46 minutes ago, Shiva said:

    I had that too until I found what I really enjoy doing and can monetize. Now I'm 26.

    You have to find your Ikigai (Japanese concept, Google it!).

    In order to find it you gotta try stuff. Strategically try things out that you sense could be your Ikigai.

    Go travel, do internships, different jobs, talk to interesting people, go to events that excite you, move to a new place... Whatever you think could help broaden your perspective.

    But don't be a fool, be strategic about it:

    Try - Evaluate - Learn - Iterate - Repeat. That's the key.

    And then let things organically unfold from there.

    At least that is basically what worked for me.

    Yes sometimes it is just a question of time and patience . Thank you for your attention